Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Do You Have Favorite “Dear Wendy-isms”?

The other day, reader Eljay said she had a collection of DW quotes on her wall at work. “Whenever I see one that resonates with me,” she said, “I print it out & put it on my wall. I’ve had several people ask for copies of a few of them, so thanks, Wendy.” I then asked her if she wouldn’t mind sending me that list and she was kind enough to oblige. Reading through the quotes, I thought two things: 1) Some of the stuff I write isn’t too bad; and 2) Wouldn’t it be cool to get an even bigger collection of these quotes together and offer them to readers who might appreciate having the most inspirational and meaningful passages from past columns all in one place?

So, I need your help. If you, like awesome Eljay, have a list of some of your favorite DW quotes, would you mind emailing them to me to include in the collection? Or, if you even have just one or two quotes or favorite columns that resonated with you, can you send me those (even a link would suffice). Right now, I’m just collecting direct quotes from me. Later, I’d like to also have a collection of some of the fantastic quotes and “DW-ims” originated by you, the readers.

Here’s an example of what I’m looking for (this was included in Eljay’s list):

“Get to know yourself again. Embrace the loneliness; it won’t kill you. Stretch out in your own bed, by yourself. Let the wanting of someone else wash over you; it won’t kill you. Fill the hole in your heart with self-love. Fill it with your kids’ laughter and conversations with your friends and new scenery on your next trip. Find happiness on your own again and trust that when — and if — your heart is ready to love and trust someone else, it will radiate a magnetic energy, attracting potential partners your way. But until you’re emotionally ready, your heart is sending a signal to be left alone, and there’s no way a relationship — with this man, or anyone else — can be built on that.”

Please send any DW quotes you have saved to wendy@dearwendy.com. Thank you so much!!

12 comments… add one
  • Eljay September 13, 2012, 3:59 pm

    1) The stuff you write is pretty friggin awesome!
    2) Your reach is far wider than your reading audience. I’ve shared your wisdom with many co-workers and friends.
    3) YOU ROCK!!!

    Hearts Wendy.

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  • Just Max September 13, 2012, 4:26 pm

    This is what I’ve been sharing lately: “If it comes to a point where you need to choose keeping connected to them or remaining on course to mental well-being, choose mental well-being.”

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  • CatsMeow September 13, 2012, 5:17 pm

    This is what makes finding a long-term/ life partner so difficult. It’s not enough to find someone you click with and really like and are attracted to and share common values and goals and interests with. You have to be ready for that person at the exact same time that that person is ready for you. It’s almost like catching lightning in a bottle, which is why, when it does happen, it’s so very special.

    Just because you haven’t found someone you connect with as well as your ex doesn’t mean you won’t. But it will be much, much harder to find him if you’re still so hung up on someone else.

    Also: “Aim higher!”

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  • sisisodapop September 13, 2012, 6:32 pm

    Ha, this is the exact quote that I e-mailed to a friend the other day…. That really is some advice there. Wendy, you should write a book, um if you haven’t already?

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    • camorzilla September 14, 2012, 9:13 am

      Yes she should!

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  • iwannatalktosampson September 13, 2012, 8:23 pm

    I agree. I am so excited about this. I’m a sucker for inspirational quotes. An inspirational book would be too much to handle. I would die happy.

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  • Ruby September 13, 2012, 10:02 pm


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  • cporoski September 14, 2012, 9:46 am

    my fave 🙂

    “Enjoy this bonus time you have, just you and your husband. Sooner or later, whether it happens the old-fashioned way or not, you’re going to be parents and your life will be forever changed. It will be a very long time before it’s just the two of you again. Gone will be the days you could travel with such freedom, or even just leave the house spontaneously. Once you have kids, every move must be planned. Bags must be packed with a million essentials — even for a quick neighborhood outing. Suddenly, your vacation time is filled with visits to and from family members who want to see your offspring, rather than whatever glamorous trips around the world you’ve been used to. For better or worse, it isn’t the same. It will never be the same again. So, as much as you can, try to enjoy the remaining time you have with your husband before life as you know it sort of explodes in a confetti of wonderful but crazy chaos.”

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    • Eljay September 14, 2012, 10:20 am

      Ooooohhh good one!

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  • Wendy September 14, 2012, 1:30 pm

    Thanks, everyone!!

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  • aisling September 14, 2012, 7:21 pm

    “You’re so afraid to fully desire what you already desire because the pain of not getting it is unbearable to think about. But you already do desire what you desire”

    It makes me honest with myself, to acknowledge that yes, you’ve been hurt because you’re not getting what your heart desires, so why don’t you actually put an effort to get it.

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  • Qara Koz September 18, 2012, 11:50 pm

    So one of the most important lessons from DW that I’ve found myself sharing with people in real life so much over the past week: “Don’t be passive about your own life.” Especially in regards to LWs and individuals who are waiting for someone to make a move to figure out if someone likes them or for an opportunity. Lately I feel people too often forget to BE the agent of change in their own lives.

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