This was an interesting essay over on HuffPo about breaking up with the people you text with once you get in a serious relationship. I haven’t been on the dating scene in about eight years, so this idea that people might have a number of random “texters” in their lives — people they strictly flirt with over texts but don’t actually date or even see in person — is sort of new to me. But you can’t even say this is just what the kids are doing these days because the author of this particular essay is in her 30s and wrote: “From teenagers, 20-somethings, 30-somethings and probably beyond… it’s become a normal dating shenanigan practice to text with 5-10+ people on a rotating, flirting, basis.”
So, I ask you: is that right? Do you have 5-10 people on a rotating, flirting basis you text with? And what happens when you find someone you actually want to have a relationship with? Do you do like the woman who wrote the essay and send a text out to all of your texters and tell them you’re off the market (that seems weird to me…), or do you continue texting with them, or do you wait until they text you and then tell them you’ve started dating someone and can no longer flirt-text with them? And if you are suddenly back on the market, do you send out a text to your former texters and let them know it’s back on? Do you ever just want to be like, “Dude, let’s just like go get a coffee or something”?
In related news: I’m glad I’m an old married.