Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

DW Turns 12 Today!

On this day twelve years ago, I launched DW – an anniversary I don’t always remember but this year I did. I like the number twelve, especially in relation to time. I think of the twelve months of the year and the twelve signs of the zodiac. Twelve seems significant, solid – like maybe you’re here to stay for a while. In many cultures, twelve is an age when an adolescent might experience some rite of passage into young adulthood. I had my confirmation at church when I was twelve, after a year or two of classes that I mostly doodled and daydreamed through, culminating in my very first taste of the body and blood of Christ (and now it’s probably been 25 years since my last – very last – communion).

I don’t have such fanfare to offer you today, but I do have a roundup of some of my favorite posts from the past twelve years if you’re interested in a little trip down memory lane or catching up on anything you may have missed. Whether you’re a longtimer here, have just recently joined the fun, or are just passing by, thank you for reading (and commenting and sharing and writing in with your questions). This site has evolved and moved through many iterations, but it remains today a place I’m proud to be a part of.

Here are a few favorites from 2011-2023:

Dating & Relationship Tips:

Dating Tip: Try Going Against Type

15 Things Couples Should Do Before Moving in Together

Long Distance Relationships

“In a Long Distance Relationship, Who Should Be The One to Move?”

“I’m Overwhelmed in a LDR”

Updates: “Overwhelmed in a LDR” Responds

8 Tips For Transitioning out of a Long Distance Relationship

From the Mailbag: “I’m Going to Move for Love, Despite Your Advice Not To”


Best Advice for Surviving Breakups and Broken Hearts

20 Tips for Surviving a Breakup


Showing Up: The Single Most Important Thing A Friend Can Do

How to Make Friends After College

“Should I MOA From This Friendship?”


“I’m Afraid My Boyfriend’s Going to Attend My Friend’s Wedding Looking like a Schlub”

“My Fiancé Will Take My Name When We Marry, And Now His Parents Won’t Come to Our Wedding”

“My Husband is Threatening Divorce Because I Didn’t Sit By Him at My Friend’s Wedding”

“My In-Laws Wore T-Shirts To Our Wedding And We Haven’t Spoken to Them Since”

“My Fiance’s Groomsmen Has No Teeth”

“Should I ask Wedding Guests Why I Haven’t Received a Gift From Them?”

“Being a Bridesmaid is Breaking My Budget!”

Your Turn: “His Family Ate All Our Reception Food… Before the Wedding!”

“Did My Friend Just Ask Me to Not Be Her Bridesmaid Anymore?”


17 Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married

The Six Things You Need for a Happy, Longterm Relationship

“I’m So Unhappy in My Marriage” Or: A Guide on How to Be Happy

“Help – I’ve Fallen Out of Love with My Husband!”

Feminism and Marriage:

“Men Are Tired of Women Not Paying for Dates”

Getting Personal: “I’m Conflicted About Being a Feminist and a Wife”

“He Wants Me To Take His Name, But I Want to Keep Mine”

Polyamory and Open Relationships

“My Husband’s Girlfriend Had Twins For Us and My Parents Are Very Hostile About it”

“How Can I Tell My Family My Husband and I Have a Boyfriend?

Women Discuss: Polyamory and Open Relationships

“My Wife Wants to Open Our Marriage, But Only on Her Side”


“How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Have Kids?”

How Did You Decide Whether to Have Another Baby?

On Motherhood: Finding the Right Father

“Will I Lose All My Friends When I Have Kids?”

Miscarriage and Infertility:

“Everyone’s Getting Pregnant But Me!”

It’s Personal: My Chemical Pregnancy

“After My Miscarriages, My Friend Abandoned Me When She Got Pregnant”

Getting Personal: “After My Miscarriage, A Dog Saved My Life”

“Should I Tell My FWB About My Miscarriage?”

“How Should I Tell My Infertile Sister I’m Planning to Get Pregnant?”

“I’m Jealous of My Sister’s Pregnancy”

Choosing to be Childfree:

Women Discuss: “Deciding to Never Have Children”

Getting Personal: “Children Aren’t for Me”

“My Parents Keep Bugging Me About Having Kids”

“He Wants Kids But I Don’t. Can We Still Date?”

The Secret To Happy Relationships: Don’t Have Kids?

2 comments… add one
  • Ange January 24, 2023, 6:17 pm

    Happy birthday to DW! thanks for creating such a cool community.

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  • Anonymousse January 24, 2023, 10:58 pm

    Happy birthday, Dear Wendy!

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