File this away in the “No Shit” folder: According to new research, Facebook stalking your ex “can delay emotional recovery and personal growth after a breakup.” Psychologist Tara C. Marshall of Brunel University in England asked 464 participants (mostly college-age women) to evaluate their Facebook usage and how well they were able to MOA after a breakup.
She asked them questions like, “How often do you look at your ex-partner’s Facebook page?” and “How often do you look at your ex-partner’s list of Facebook friends?” She also asked them to describe their feelings over the breakup and toward their ex. Participants were also asked whether they’d developed new romantic interests.
And get this! Marshall “discovered” that people who Facebook-stalk their exes have a more difficult time moving on already. They reported more emotional distress, negative feelings, and longing for their exes than people who avoided their exes on Facebook.
“In spite of the need for further research, the take-home message from the present study is that keeping tabs on an ex-partner through Facebook is associated with poorer emotional recovery and personal growth following a breakup,” Marshall wrote in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking. “Therefore, avoiding exposure to an ex-partner, both offline and online, may be the best remedy for healing a broken heart.”
Did someone pay her to research this? Really? I’ve got a few thousand readers I could poll about their Facebook usage. Will someone give me some money to “discover” that Facebook stalking your ex’s new love interest isn’t emotionally healthy? Gimme a PhD in romance studies already, cause I got this.
Ok, but here’s something interesting: The study suggests that remaining Facebook friends with an ex and keeping tabs on the mundane crap in his or her life might just bore you enough to extinguish any lingering flames you might hold. Apparently, reading all about what your ex-boyfriend ate for breakfast or how he ran seven miles in an hour and three minutes is enough to erase whatever allure and mystique might still be keeping your interested.
Whatever, if you’re too tempted to stalk your ex, I’d recommend de-friending him or her, or at the very least unsubscribing to the updates. AND DON’T STALK THE NEW GIRLFRIEND. Seriously. (You’re prettier anyway. Trust).
[via Huffington Post]