Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

Happy International Women’s Day! Have a Sticker

Speaking of polyamory: “Bride and groom fell in love with bridesmaid and are now a happy threesome”

These Are the Most Common Signs of a Controlling Relationship

I think this describes most celebs and probably like half of all Instagram influencers, right? Age of the autosexual: the people sexually attracted to themselves.

Couples In Happier Relationships Say These 7 Phrases More Often

Plus: 10 must-read books for Women’s History Month [Any others you would add? I think The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, which we read in our DW book club seven (!) years ago would be a great addition.]

image via Kelsey Dake for The New York Times

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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12 comments… add one
  • TaraMonster March 8, 2019, 11:44 am

    We read Henrietta Lacks SEVEN years ago?! I feel like that just happened. What have I even been doing for the last seven years?!

    P.S. It’s so so so good. You should all read it if you haven’t.

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  • Skyblossom March 8, 2019, 1:04 pm

    I read “Educated’ last week.

    The little blurb says it is about getting an education when you grew up with homeschooling in a survivalist family. It is much more than that. The homeschooling didn’t exist. The family was patriarchal with a mentally ill father who kept accidentally hurting his wife and children through stupid decisions and carelessness. It’s about an older brother who is physically and emotionally abusive. The family is also against the medical establishment but practices lots of homeopathy. It’s about a family that considers modern medicine to be against God.

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    • Lucidity March 8, 2019, 1:44 pm

      That sounds super interesting. I can’t imagine who I would be or how my thought processes would work if that had been my experience. I’m going to check it out, thanks for suggesting it.

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    • Skyblossom March 8, 2019, 2:04 pm

      The beliefs and experiences were so ingrained that it took her years to overcome them and she is probably still not over it.

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    • K March 8, 2019, 4:22 pm

      I also recently read this book and enjoyed it. I thought it was going to be about how she adapted to “normal” society after growing up in her family, but it was really more about the abuse she endured and how she eventually broke free.

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    • anonymousse March 8, 2019, 4:35 pm

      I loved that book, too.

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  • othy March 8, 2019, 2:57 pm

    I’d suggest The Radium Girls: The Dark Story of America’s Shining Women by Kate Moore. It’s based on a group of women who painted dials on watches with radium laced paint. They eventually started losing their jaws and developing cancer and anemia and then dying. The story is about the women who ended up suing the companies they worked for to get their just compensation.

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  • Ruby Tuesday March 9, 2019, 12:09 am

    Well, my fiancé and I say all of those seven words, so I am feeling pretty great right now.

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    • Lucidity March 9, 2019, 9:52 am

      Me too! This article made me realize that I’m saying “I need you” a lot lately, something I didn’t say often (my version of that used to be something like “I’m so grateful to have you” or “I don’t know what I’d do without you”). Something about being pregnant has me really worried about my husband, like when he drives home late at night after a very long day, or even if I think he’s overexerting himself at the gym. I tear up thinking about scenarios where he could injure himself or be killed.
      I’m trying to rationalize this as just hormones but goodness, does the prospect of becoming a mother ever make me realize how badly I need my partner.

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      • anonymousse March 9, 2019, 11:38 am

        I don’t think it’s just the hormones.

        My husband and I have changed a lot of our lifestyle habits since babies. We used to do risky backpacking trips, he used to go backcountry snowboarding alone…we both used to do big jumps on bikes. Now it’s just not worth the risk, even in the safest scenarios.

        One thing I will say is, all though it may seem morbid, make sure you guys have life insurance and have a place where you keep all your passwords, etc. My BIL was the partner who did all the financial stuff and when he died, it was really a PITA to get my SIL access to some of the stuff and just another terrible chore for her to do.

      • Lucidity March 9, 2019, 1:55 pm

        We have life insurance through our workplaces, but we don’t have wills. We really have to get on that. And choose someone to care for our child if we both pass.

        Thanks for the password storage suggestion.


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