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Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

This essay, The Crane Wife, is so lovely:

“‘The Crane Wife’ is a story from Japanese folklore. I found a copy in the reserve’s gift shop among the baseball caps and bumper stickers that said GIVE A WHOOP. In the story, there is a crane who tricks a man into thinking she is a woman so she can marry him. She loves him, but knows that he will not love her if she is a crane so she spends every night plucking out all of her feathers with her beak. She hopes that he will not see what she really is: a bird who must be cared for, a bird capable of flight, a creature, with creature needs. Every morning, the crane-wife is exhausted, but she is a woman again. To keep becoming a woman is so much self-erasing work. She never sleeps. She plucks out all her feathers, one by one.


I think I was afraid that if I called off my wedding I was going to ruin myself. That doing it would disfigure the story of my life in some irredeemable way. I had experienced worse things than this, but none threatened my American understanding of a life as much as a called-off wedding did. What I understood on the other side of my decision, on the gulf, was that there was no such thing as ruining yourself. There are ways to be wounded and ways to survive those wounds, but no one can survive denying their own needs. To be a crane-wife is unsustainable.”

— The Paris Review

Why Women So Rarely Propose to Men

Feeling Lonely? Perhaps You’d Like to Talk to Some Strangers

Yep: A woman’s greatest enemy? A lack of time to herself

The Happiest Divorce: 10 Rules For Creating a Thriving Family After a Breakup

A Partner Who Is In Love With You Will Support You In These 7 Ways, Experts Say

Warren Buffett Says This 1 Simple Habit Separates Successful People From Everyone Else

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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4 comments… add one
  • anonymousse July 26, 2019, 9:29 am

    The Crane Wife is so good.

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    Copa July 26, 2019, 9:37 am

    A friend sent me a link to The Crane Wife earlier this week, but I only just read it now. Great essay! I think so many of us can relate to trying erase our needs so we’re not seen as needy.

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    Cleopatra_30 July 26, 2019, 12:20 pm

    Agreed, such a great essay 🙂

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  • K July 26, 2019, 3:09 pm

    Loved The Crane Wife!

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