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Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

LAT: The Relationship Status That More & More Millennials Are Signing Up For

Is There Such a Thing as the Friend Zone?

Her Own Toy Story: How A 6-Year-Old Girl’s Letter Launched ‘Plastic Army Women’

Smartphones are making us stupid – and may be a ‘gateway drug’

Related: Teens are anxious and depressed after three hours a day on social media (I used to get depressed and anxious after five minutes on Twitter…)

People Are Confessing The Moment That They Realized They’d Met “The One” And It’s Too Sweet (when did you know you’d found the one?)

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Copa September 13, 2019, 1:16 pm

    One of my friends who got married this summer has been with her husband for not quite four years. They’ve been doing long-distance for two years now, and I found it a bit odd that they got married even though they still have no end date for the distance. It seems to work for them, but I can’t see ever wanting that for myself.

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    • Ange September 13, 2019, 9:48 pm

      After doing it for a year and a half with my husband I don’t know how people do it either. Although I admit it’s not the distance it’s how you adjust to being back together. Obviously being apart it can easily turn into you kind of getting on with your life and not prioritising your partner but once you do get back together it’s equally hard to adjust. Not something I’d recommend long term for anyone wanting a successful relationship.

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    Bittergaymark September 15, 2019, 2:12 pm

    The friendzone article is interesting. If I overestimated my attractiveness to men… well, yikes! Then nobody has ever found me attractive. As I have always suspected like 3 out of 100 gay men MIGHT find me attractive! Although, looking back now with 20/20 hindsight… 0 for 100 seems seems rather woefully accurate. Being overly tall and gangly/stringy at 6’4 and then tragically sliding into being skinny-fat in midlife does not for a full dance card make.
    But my — YES. Many of my straight male friends have seemed to wildly overrate their physical appeal and chase women way out of their league. Much to their own frustration and disappointment. The article is curiously very accurate there. Good read.

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    • ron September 15, 2019, 3:57 pm

      The male self-help industry’s mantra is that you can successfully seek women way above your league, if you are simply persistent enough, and of course follow their trademarked guidelines.

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    Bittergaymark September 15, 2019, 2:52 pm

    There really have been no army women toys until now? Fascinating. What a bizarre oversight and what a cool story…

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  • allathian September 20, 2019, 2:15 am

    LAT, yes! Now I finally know how to briefly refer to the relationships of some family members.

    My sister and her boyfriend share a LAT relationship. Both are very career-oriented and childfree, both are financially secure. During the week they live in their own apartments, during the weekend in either his or hers, or at his summer cottage in the summer, if they’re both able to go on vacation at the same time.

    My MIL and FIL divorced 30 years ago. She was single for nearly 20 years before she started dating her current husband, who was also single following a divorce for almost as long. Both were so set in their ways that while they enjoy each other’s companionship, both have their own apartments. Granted, if one of them is severely ill the other one will usually spend the night to make sure they can call emergency services if necessary. They are in their mid-70s after all. It also makes things easier because they have a prenup limiting the rights of the surviving spouse to the deceased spouse’s property, meaning that probate and the distribution of estate can be carried out immediately following the decease of either spouse.

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