Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

If Elizabeth Warren doesn’t win the presidency, she might want to consider becoming a relationship advice columnist (she’s good!): Elizabeth Warren Wants You To Ditch That Guy, Get A Dog, And Vote To Tax The Wealthy

OMG, this is insane: The Internet’s Most Repulsive Men Are Throwing A ‘Make Women Great Again’ Convention And Oh My God It’s So SAD

My First Date Was at Age 30

Why killer whales — and humans — evolved menopause (Hint: Grandmothers help to explain an evolutionary mystery.)

A new book, “Why We Can’t Sleep: Women’s New Midlife Crisis,” documents the unique pressures on Gen X women. Here’s an NPR interview with the author. (We also discussed this a little bit in yesterday’s column.)

The High Cost of Having a Baby in America (The average delivery now costs more than $4,500—even with insurance!)

What do you all think about Harry and Meghan “stepping back” from the monarchy? I’m not much of a royal watcher, but even I find the news a little bit titillating. Here’s a good summary of what it means: Harry and Meghan Won’t Play the Game: Their decision to “step back” from the royal family reflects their distaste for the British press.

1 Billion Animals Have Reportedly Died in Australia’s Wildfires, which is so horrific and mind-boggling and we should all be terrified by the devastating effect climate change is having on our planet and committing to, at the very least, some small lifestyle changes to help reduce greenhouse emissions.

Related (because reducing our meat and dairy consumption is, by far, the most meaningful impact we can make in reducing our carbon footprint and decreasing the speed of climate change): The Meat-Lover’s Guide to Eating Less Meat

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  • Sarah January 10, 2020, 10:18 am

    I’m so proud of Meghan and Harry for sticking up for themselves, being true to themselves, and not allowing themselves to be bullied!!! I think it is amazing!

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  • Copa January 10, 2020, 10:21 am

    Excited to check out The Meat-Lover’s Guide to Eating Less Meat. I decided last Memorial Day that I wanted to drastically reduce my meat and dairy intake (no real end goal in mind). It wasn’t too difficult for me to cut down on meat and I currently eat probably 80% vegetarian when I cook for myself. Reducing my dairy, however — cheese and eggs, more specifically — has been difficult.

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    • Dear Wendy January 10, 2020, 10:43 am

      I eat tons of eggs — like, almost daily — and reducing my consumption will be a challenge, but I’m going to try. Every little bit helps! I do love cheese but I started reducing my intake over a year ago, for health reasons, and it wasn’t that hard. I mostly do cheese as condiments – some grated parm over a grain bowl, some crumbled feta in a salad, stuff like that. I can be a lot better though! We do get our eggs directly from a farmer at the farmers market who raises his chickens humanely.

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      • Copa January 10, 2020, 10:53 am

        I eat 2-3 eggs almost daily. Cheese is more of a condiment for me as well, but I’ve realized there are many meals I make that would be vegan but for that sprinkle of cheese. Like this week I meal prepped some black bean and butternut squash enchiladas, and they probably would’ve been just as good without the cheese. I’ve tried and liked a vegan queso dip from the store, but have yet to try vegan shredded “cheese.” Should probably grab some of that for my meal prepping this weekend to finally try it — I have big jackfruit burrito bowl plans for next week’s lunches. (Never cooked up jackfruit on my own before and am weirdly excited to do so.)

      • ktfran January 10, 2020, 11:44 am

        I’m all for eating less meat and dairy for health reasons. I try to limit my intake and the husband and I eat mostly vegetarian during the week. However, if you still want to eat meat, dairy, eggs, etc. you can do so responsibly and in a way that doesn’t have as big of an impact on the environment. And that’s by buying from local, organic farms where animals pasture. Find a local egg CSA!

      • Dear Wendy January 10, 2020, 1:20 pm

        I’m good with where I get my eggs – I know the farmer personally and I know he raises his chickens ethically and humanely.

    • Skyblossom January 10, 2020, 11:28 am

      My husband and I are eating mostly vegetarian. We aren’t buying meat except when out at a restaurant. That’s usually once a week. Eating vegetarian has taken my husband’s waist from 35″ to 33″. We’ll see if it goes on down to the 32″ he was when he was in his early twenties.

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  • Skyblossom January 10, 2020, 11:26 am

    My son showed me the “Make Women Great Again” convention info last weekend. He found it hilarious that loser men are trying to tell women how to be women. We were guessing that not many women will go but I could see the Christian fundamentalist women who have already chosen that lifestyle to go because it affirms their beliefs.

    These men assume that most women want to have as many babies as possible and radical feminism is holding them back. My brothers were born before hormonal birth control was available. I think I was born just before it came out and my sister was right on the cusp. After her, no more babies in our family. That was pretty much across the entire school population. I had a girl in my class who was the youngest of 10 kids but no one who was the oldest of 10. Most of us were some of the younger kids in families that had 4 to 5 kids. As soon as birth control was available families used it. I doubt that the majority of women ever wanted to have large families. A few did and a few do now. These guys don’t seem to get it that women know they can have more children but most aren’t choosing that option. I wonder have many of these guys have any children. How many of them are trying to financially support even one child, let alone a large family where they are the sole breadwinner.

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    • Allornone January 10, 2020, 12:00 pm

      God bless my I.U.D.

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      • Kate January 10, 2020, 12:10 pm

        Yeah, but also, thank god for men that respect women as equals. Unless you’re being coerced by a man who controls you, you don’t need to be having 10 kids. Rhythm family planning is pretty effective. And / or withdrawal. Condoms, diaphragms, sponges were all available. But you need your guy’s cooperation. If those women stopped getting pregnant after the Pill came out, it implies they had no sexual autonomy or partnership. They could secretly take a pill and avoid getting pregnant, but life probably still sucked.

      • Skyblossom January 10, 2020, 12:34 pm

        I think it had a lot to do with having to buy condoms in a pharmacy where everyone could see what you were purchasing.

        The rhythm method wasn’t at all accurate at that time. It consisted of avoiding sex at 14 days after the start of the last period which didn’t work if you didn’t have regular cycles. No one had put together taking the temperature with the consistency of cervical mucous. If they had that information wasn’t out where I lived. We didn’t have a library and we didn’t have a bookstore. The jokes were always that people who practiced the rhythm method were parents. The information available came through women’s magazines.

        When the pill came along it was discreet and it was effective.


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