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Friday Links

According to the astrologers I follow, this week was a doozy, and it definitely felt that way for me. How about you? The good news is that there will be an energy shift by the end of the day and things should start feeling a little easier very soon. Also, spring starts next week! And, I know it’s a controversial topic, but I love daylight saving time and am happy we’re back on it – at least for the next seven months and…maybe forever?

Do you have any plans this weekend? We might go see a Nets game on Sunday if we can score some last-minute discounted tickets. I’m going to make this delicious-looking braised pork recipe. And I’m finishing this novel by Celeste Ng, which is kind of a book about the pandemic (but it’s called “The Crisis” and isn’t actually about a pandemic), and it is amazing to me how some people have already processed enough of the experience to write and publish a novel. Anyway, have a great weekend, and here are some links you might find interesting:

I think most DW readers are familiar with and know the definitions of these terms, but just in case: Narcissist, gaslighting, love bombing: A guide to all the buzz-words around narcissism

After he lost both his teenage children in a horrible car accident, Colin Campbell, shares the phrase he heard over and over from well-meaning friends that always failed to bring any comfort and, in fact, caused more pain for him and his wife. Hint: instead of saying “there are no words” when someone is grief-stricken, say the word that will likely mean the most: the name of the person being grieved.

Speaking of “there are no words”: Divorced People Are Sharing The Moment They Realized Their Ex Didn’t Love Them, And I Have No Words

In Spain last week, a court orders a woman’s ex-husband to pay her $215K for 25 Years of housework during their marriage. She says she did the housework exclusively, allowing him all the time he needed to pursue a lucrative career and leaving her zero time to pursue a career of her own or any way to earn her own money. She says: “Clearly this was a case of abuse to be completely excluded financially (by my ex-husband) with nothing left after my marriage ended, so me and my daughters were left with nothing after all these years of putting all my time, energy and love in the family.” (The ex-husband has also been ordered to pay

I was supporting my husband in his work and in the family as a mother and a father. I was never allowed access to his financial affairs; everything was in his name.

Do you eat your dinner in front of the TV? We eat most of our family meals at the dinner table like civilized people, but every Friday night we go wild and let the kids eat take-out at the coffee tale in front of a movie or TV shows from the week they haven’t watched yet. Their favorites are “Young Sheldon,” “Abbot Elementary,” and “Ghosts.” Anyway, here are some funny tips for How to Eat Dinner Even Though You Already Watched All Your Shows.

We knew it would happen, and now here we are:
Three Texas women are sued for wrongful death after allegedly helping friend obtain abortion medication

and this won’t pass, but the symbolism is the point and it’s bad: 21 South Carolina GOP Lawmakers Propose Death Penalty for Women Who Have Abortions

Do you have a “best friend”? Apparently, the idea of one friend being at the top of the friendship hierarchy is a recent phenomenon.

Targeting Gen Z, Tinder now lets you specify gender pronouns and non-monogamous relationship types.I thought this was interesting: “The company cites a study of 4,000 18-to-25-year-olds showing that 41 percent are open to or seeking non-monogamous connections. Among those, open relationships (36 percent) and hierarchical polyamory (26 percent) are the most popular choices. Perhaps just as critical, a survey indicated that 73 percent of young singles of any gender say they want someone who is clear about what they want. Most people don’t want to waste time with partners who have incompatible intentions.”

9 comments… add one
  • ktfran March 17, 2023, 4:54 pm

    Happy Friday! My weekend will be filled with basketball and corned beef. Not a bad weekend.

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      Dear Wendy March 18, 2023, 8:32 am

      Yum – enjoy!

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      • ktfran March 18, 2023, 10:02 am

        Oh, I bought a pair of gold Birdies and they came yesterday. I remember you saying the ballet flats were comfortable so I’ve been wanting to try.

        I got the style that looks like loafers.

        Excited to try them out!

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        Dear Wendy March 18, 2023, 11:07 am

        Cute – I hope you like them!

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    Copa March 18, 2023, 8:24 am

    I’m so happy for later sunsets. It makes a world of difference in my moods.

    The plans I thought I had this morning with gal pals are actually for tomorrow, which means I accidentally double-booked myself for tomorrow. Whoops! So, we’ll see how my weekend plans shake out.

    We took in a new foster dog yesterday. I knew very little about him going in. Like, didn’t even know how old he is. He’s still a puppy and he is the cutest, sweetest, friendliest little thing to ever be picked up off the streets, but I forgot how much work puppies are. Our resident dog is an old soul and not thrilled to have a bouncy little pal around.

    Also, I wrote in a few weeks ago about how you know it’s time to leave a job and mentioned I interviewed for a job I felt thoroughly under qualified for and learned in the interview process that it seemed like a chaotic role notwithstanding. After I’d applied but before I interviewed, a director-level role beneath that position became available and that job seemed right up my alley. Well, I didn’t get that high-level role, but was invited to move forward for the director-level role beneath it. So while I’m still not sure it’s time to leave where I am, I’m happy to learn more about that role in the coming weeks.

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      Dear Wendy March 18, 2023, 8:34 am

      I remember you expressing interest in the director-level role (and that Kate advised not to express that right away – to go for the higher role and see what happens). How flattering that you were invited to move forward to the role that appealed to you more. Good luck!

      I might need to see some pics of the sweet puppy. Sounds fun, and like a lot of work. Hope he finds a great forever home soon!

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    • ktfran March 18, 2023, 9:30 am

      That’s great about the other role. Good luck! Even you don’t want to make a move, it’s good to know you have options.

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        Copa March 18, 2023, 11:43 am

        Thank you! I may not get this job either, but the job sounds like exactly what I’d want to do next on paper. So we’ll see. If nothing else, this has been the smoothest interaction I’ve ever had with a company’s HR as a job seeker and that’s been nice.

        This is the dog we have have right now: I thought he was an adult based on his picture, but judging from the condition of his teeth + the way he behaves, still a puppy. He’s very hairy/shaggy and it makes him look older. He’s about half of my dog’s weight but they look almost the same size because of all the hair. LOL. He goes to the vet on Monday, so I’m sure they’ll be able to ballpark his age. I’m guessing ~8 months to a year.

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        Dear Wendy March 18, 2023, 12:27 pm

        He’s so cute!! Reminds me of my in-laws puppy who is half Australian shepherd and half poodle.


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