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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

What Sleeping With Married Men Taught Me About Infidelity (Spoiler: Men wish their wives would have sex with them so they wouldn’t feel tempted to find it elsewhere.)

A new study says that it takes roughly 90 hours (of hanging out together [work doesn’t count]) to make a friend.

The year of the woman continues as Southwest Airlines pilot Tammie Jo Shults stayed cool as a cucumber when an engine on the plane she was flying exploded and she landed safely and calmly. While it should not be a surprise that, of course, a woman is capable of such extraordinary work, “the image of the hero pilot as a ‘he’ made some reports erroneous.” CBS, for example, reported that “everyone clapped and praised the pilot after he set the aircraft down.” Nope – he was a she, and she was amazing.

5 Couples Share Their Secrets For Keeping Sex Alive In A Long-Term Relationship

Mind the gap – does age difference in relationships matter?

In China and India, where “a combination of cultural preferences, government decree and modern medical technology has created a gender imbalance on a continental scale,” men now outnumber women by 70 million! “The consequences of having too many men, now coming of age, are far-reaching: Beyond an epidemic of loneliness, the imbalance distorts labor markets, drives up savings rates in China and drives down consumption, artificially inflates certain property values, and parallels increases in violent crime, trafficking or prostitution in a growing number of locations.” Yikes.

Moving in Together? Five Tips from an Advice Columnist Who’s Heard It All (Yes to #1!)

Sen. Duckworth makes history, casts vote with baby on Senate floor

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Northern Star April 20, 2018, 12:55 pm

    That first article is incredibly obnoxious.

    Specifically seeking out married men so they can funnel their time and energy into screwing her instead of being present and active with the families they committed to is wrong. Yuck. Just yuck.

    And believing that these liars are being “candid” with her is foolish, too…

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      anonymousse April 20, 2018, 3:11 pm

      She said she didn’t specifically seek out married men. She sought out NSA sex, which often attracted married men.

      Why is she responsible for what they do? She just wanted NSA sex.

      Why wouldn’t they be honest? There’s no emotional tie.

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        Northern Star April 20, 2018, 3:21 pm

        Come on. You don’t think she could find PLENTY of single men looking for no-strings sex? I mean, people writing into Dear Wendy find these people ALL THE TIME (wishing they wanted relationships, of course). But no. Getting wined and dined by married guys is so much more fun because you know you’re taking something that another woman wants and deserves from her committed partner (desire, time, lust, money, attention, connection).

        And why WOULD these men be honest? They want sex from this fool. What story do you think works better: “My wife wants me to romance her, but she’s fatter now after having my three kids, so I’m not attracted” — or “My wife doesn’t want sex anymore at all, and she also said I could take a lover, I swear to God.”

        Please.

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        anonymousse April 20, 2018, 4:56 pm

        Did you even read the article?

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        anonymousse April 20, 2018, 4:57 pm

        Like he basically told her that. He was honest he was deceiving his wife!

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        Anonymous April 20, 2018, 5:58 pm

        She’s not responsible for what they do, but she is responsible for what she does. She chose to knowingly sleep with married men because they were “safe bets”. She may not have been the one cheating, but her choice to help them cheat speaks of moral character failure. You’d think the fact that her own marriage was ruined by an affair would give her pause. Yuck, indeed.

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        Lucidity April 20, 2018, 6:01 pm

        She’s not responsible for what they do, but she is responsible for what she does. She chose to knowingly sleep with married men because they were “safe bets”. She may not have been the one cheating, but her choice to help them cheat speaks of moral character failure. You’d think the fact that her own marriage was ruined by an affair would give her pause. Yuck, indeed.

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        Ange April 20, 2018, 10:41 pm

        Her marriage wasn’t ruined by an affair

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        Lucidity April 21, 2018, 6:44 am

        Thanks for pointing that out, Ange. I misread that line.

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    anonymousse April 20, 2018, 5:04 pm

    She also said she met and had sex with single guys …this wasn’t about the single dudes. I just find it funny you are this antagonist to the author. Why not the husbands who are unfaithful?

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