Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links and Open Thread

Happy weekend! This week was moderately better for me than last week (despite a crashed site that I had to deal with) so I’ll take it. And we don’t have any big plans for the weekend, which is kind of my favorite sort of weekend. I started reading Where the Crawdads Sing last night and am enjoying it, so maybe I’ll have a chance to read the rest over the next few days.

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Finally, here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

I love this:

“An increasing number of “single-positive” people are rejecting the notion that true love is the only path to happiness. Just this week the actor Emma Watson told Vogue how a “bloody influx of subliminal messaging” had left her “stressed and anxious” because she was heading into her 30s without a husband and baby. Now, however, she is “very happy” to be single. “I call it being self-partnered.””

Self-partnered: the sudden, surprising rise of the single positivity movement

My friend sent me a link to this article this morning, which I hope isn’t like some statement on how he views our friendship (he says it’s not, so I will believe him): The Art of Losing Friendships and Alienating People

A ton of people received text messages overnight that were originally sent on Valentine’s Day (and never received until now)

What would a city designed by women be like?

Very Relatable Woman Sues Waiter for Spilling Wine on Her $30,000 Hermès Handbag

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!
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9 comments… add one
  • Ruby Tuesday November 9, 2019, 6:23 pm

    I just want to give a shout out to @kate, who is crushing it on the forums this week. Thank you for your hard work!

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    • Kate November 9, 2019, 8:06 pm

      lol. I’m even more unattractive then most other girls.

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      • Part-time Lurker November 10, 2019, 9:30 am

        Lol see what you did there. That poster just gives me the creeps. (Shivers)

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        Skyblossom November 10, 2019, 1:39 pm

        I agree with the idea that if she can’t afford to replace it on her own then she needs to insure it. We all know that every so often spills happen.

        She is claiming that the country club can’t comprehend a bag costing that much. My guess is that this country club is expensive enough they assume you can replace an expensive bag if it is damaged.

      • Ruby Tuesday November 11, 2019, 11:27 am

        Please tell me the truth and no lies.

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      Skyblossom November 10, 2019, 1:40 pm

      Sorry. Thought I was posting under the topic below.

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  • Part-time Lurker November 10, 2019, 9:58 am

    I’ve been thinking about the Hermes purse article and I can’t decide how I feel about it. My initial reaction was “Are you fucking kidding me? ” But then I thought about it for a minute and. …honestly anyone who has something ruined by another person’s negligence is entitled (no pun intended) to compensation. If my purse was ruined by someone (and it wasn’t just a genuine unavoidable accident) I’d want them to pay for the damage. Is my initial outrage just a form of discrimination against the rich? Is that even a thing? On the other hand, it’s a THIRTY THOUSAND DOLLAR PURSE! I think if I were on the jury it would really depend on wether or not anyone could have foreseen the possibility and taken steps to prevent it.

    Anyone else have thoughts on this?

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    • Kate November 10, 2019, 10:04 am

      I didn’t read the article, but like, you get insurance on a $30k car or diamond ring, right? If I had a $30k bag, I’d get it insured. I feel like getting a drink spilled on you is a reasonable hazard you could expect in a restaurant. My husband’s ex girlfriend got a plate of nachos dumped in her bag by a waitress. It happens.

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      • Kate November 10, 2019, 10:10 am

        Ok, I read it, and I guess I also think, maybe she’s not *that rich.* You know? Like, she couldn’t really afford that bag. If you’re carrying a purse where it’s going to be that much of a tragedy if something happens to it, you’re not rich enough to have that bag. It’s aspirational. I have some bags that are expensive (for me, not like that Hermès), but if something happened to one of them, it wouldn’t be a situation where I’d sue someone. I could move on from it. I could replace it.


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