I haven’t done a “From the Mailbag” post in a while and today I have not one but two letters from my inbox to share. Both writers take issue with the same column — “Where Can I Find a Decent, Much Younger Woman?” — and for the same reason:
They argue that, as an advice columnist, my job is to strictly give advice and not to pontificate on politics. In short: I should stay in my lane. In a shock to probably no one, both of these LWs are dudes, and one must assume new DW readers. I’m sharing their letters unedited.
First of all disclaimer!! I give you the right to put this on your site how you see fit. I DO NOT give you the right to give my contact info out in any way.
Now thats out of the way I feel the need to write this letter to you in regards to the response you gave to Morning Quickies: “Where Can I Find a Decent, Much Younger Woman?”
First off you were very rude to the person in question. He reached out to you to get some advise and you completely destroyed his hope. Aside from that you also gave bad advise. Though it is much harder in his place to find love due to all the good ones are usually taken by the time you are 35 years old, you could have offered some hope to him. Your response came off as being “you got no hope stop chasing youngsters for sex.” I can tell you that no, this is not the case. Maybe he was looking for love and not lust with the addition of having young fun like going out on the town. most 45 year old women are not really into this. I don’t mean to tell you how to do your job but clearly you haven’t been in the “dear abby” game for a long time.
Secondly don’t bring politics into the matter. referencing a trump rally clearly defines you as a definite democrat. Honestly your going to lose more readers than gaining.
And lastly there are good/nice guys out there that are just looking for love, maybe due to them being hurt in the past or it never worked out. So the next time someone reaches out to you for advise/help go easy on them, you never know when someone will rip apart your response and feed it back to you on what you are doing wrong. I doubt you will read this at all but if you do best wishes to you in the future and your dear abby opinion section.
Your letter makes a strong case for a minimum IQ qualification to vote. (I’m not in favor of any more voter suppression than already exists; I’m just saying your letter makes a case for it is all).
Recently you posted a column about a man who only wanted a woman 10-15 years younger than him. You rightly admonished him for being shallow and superficial.
Where I part with you is when you told him to seek out Donald Trump supporters. You told him to go to a Trump rally to find BS-type people. I think that was inappropriate. Of course, it’s your column, you have the right to write what you want. You also have the right to your political opinions. But, in my opinion, an advice column is not the place for political pontification. For full disclosure, I’m not a Trump supporter, but I did prefer him to his Democratic opponent. There are things I like about Trump and things I don’t. I don’t suffer from Trump Derangement Syndrome. That being said, if you wrote the same about Hillary supporters I still would’ve thought it was inappropriate.
Politics has infected every part of life and I’m sick of it. I’m as political as anyone, but there are times I don’t want to deal with politics. An advice column is one of those places. For you to paint a broad brush on all Trump supporters was especially disappointing. You have a lot of influence. To impugn half the people of the US is just plain wrong. There are good people who support Trump and there are jerks who support Trump. And vice versa for Democrats.
I enjoy reading your column. I just hope you stay away from politics.
Trump wishes it were “half the people in the US” who support him.
Here’s the deal: I lie awake some nights worried about my kids’ generation’s future, wondering what will remain of our planet as they raise their own children, hoping it wasn’t a selfish mistake bringing kids into a world that is rapidly losing the resources necessary to support its current population, let alone a growing one. Trump supporters are so quick to point to the economy – a “booming” economy that Trump was lucky to inherit from Obama — as a testament to his effectiveness as a leader. Well, WTF good is a strong economy — which is tenuous at best — when the leader of the free world continues rolling back regulations that provided any hope we might have in avoiding an environmental apocalypse? Are you planning to enjoy your new Land Rover on Mars?
Look, I totally get that you’re sick of politics; I am too! You know what I’m sick of more? People who chose a fucking reality TV sleaze bucket to run our country and then complain when anyone mentions it. Since my punishment for your bad choice is to helplessly watch as my country and planet is destroyed, you’re just going to have to deal with being called out for it in places where you’re trying to actually escape politics for a few minutes. Sad!
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com.