Today is Drew’s and my tenth wedding anniversary. I was going to write a listicle about the ten things we’ve learned about marriage or the ten best things about being married or ten tips for a better marriage or something like that, but I won’t. I did go so far as to ask Drew what he’s learned, and he said something like, “I learned I love you even more now than I did when we got married.” He says sweet things like that sometimes.
I’m not going to write a listicle thing with advice or tips or stuff I’ve learned. I don’t have it all figured out (shhh, maybe admitting that is bad for business). But I’m a lucky person – an astrologer confirmed that for me a couple years ago and said that I’m someone for whom things “will always just work out” (now, that is good for business). I’m lucky that I met Drew – that we had a mutual friend who, in an unprompted moment had a thought we’d hit it off and so put us in touch. But beyond luck, which I can’t claim credit for, I can take credit for a couple things: I took some risks (going to meet Drew in the first place, dating him long distance, moving across the country to be with him); and I knew a good thing when I found it/I chose well.
I guess I lied; I do have some advice for a good marriage:
* Be lucky.
* Take some chances.
* Choose well.
* Say and do sweet things sometimes.
I’m so glad I chose you, Drew. Happy tenth and here’s to many more decades together. If we’re lucky.