It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Of course it’s ok for a man to buy another woman a gift, but if there are issues in the relationship to the point that you are no longer having sex, and you are hearing second-hand that your boyfriend is getting close with another woman, which is confirmed to some extent, then, yes, the socks with food on them can certainly be a sign that your boyfriend’s focus has shifted. It’s time for some frank discussions about the state of your union (including your lack of sex), and, if you can’t find resolution and trust, then it’s time to MOA.
Not any more than you’re using him. Stop using, sexting, and talking with your husband’s single friend and, instead, communicate with your husband about the issues in your marriage and why he doesn’t want to have sex with you. If you’re no longer compatible, file for divorce and move on. And if that’s not feasible for whatever reason, tell your husband you will be seeking someone else to meet your needs.
Is her name Ramona and does she like not wearing pants? If so, I say invite her over for a glass of wine (she likes it!). If it’s not Ramona, you need to tell your husband he’s being a fucking creep and to cut it out. If he won’t, hide his camera.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.