Here’s the thing about the Big Issues: they trump all other issues. Nothing else matters as much as the Big Issues, and if you and your partner aren’t on the same page in regards to the Big Issues, your relationship is doomed. There are some issues that you get to decide for yourself as to whether they’re Big or not. If you’re allergic to cats, for example, maybe a Big Issue for you is that your mate not own a cat. Obviously, that’s not going to be an issue that is of equal importance for everyone.
But then there are issues that are universally Big — religion and potential parenthood top among them. It doesn’t matter how much you laugh, how great your sex is, or how equally you split your chores; if you are not on the same page about whether you want kids and in what religion you’d raise them, you’re only setting yourself up for future heartache by investing more time in a relationship with a short shelf life.
If you want to give yourself the option of choosing to have children one day with a partner who wants to be a dad, don’t stay in your current relationship. The longer you stay with your boyfriend, the harder it will be to leave him for someone whose life goals better match your own.
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