After several weeks of receiving some nasty texts and emails from him that I did not respond to, we eventually ended up with him apologizing and declaring friendship, me accepting his apology and keeping my distance. We have not seen each other or spoken to each other since this time, and after dealing with our breakup, it’s my belief that no one could possibly expect me to still want to go to this concert with this man who undoubtedly spoke poorly of me to the very same people who would be attending this concert when he took our breakup like a fist to the face.
I thought this was a non-issue but today he asked if I was still interested in going to the concert, as one of his friends backed out of going. I declined, thanking him but explaining that I had other plans, and he then stated that he would expect me to pay some of the difference if he was unable to sell the ticket to someone else. This is somewhat of a big deal to me, as this isn’t a $20 ticket, and I am currently in graduate school and just lost my job.
Is there some alternate universe where it would be appropriate for him to expect me to pay for a ticket that was forgotten when our relationship dissolved? Am I in the wrong for feeling like the ticket is not my responsibility? Am I making too big of a deal out of this? — Change of Tune
Oh, hells to the no. If there is an alternate universe where it’s your responsibility to pay for the ticket to a concert that your ex’s friend backed out of at the last minute, I surely want no part of it. You never heard about the concert again after your breakup because your ex found someone else to go in your place. That person has now dropped out, seemingly without paying for the ticket, and now your scummy ex is trying to recoup his losses by bugging and manipulating you, the very person he treated like shit for several weeks. Tell him to go eff himself and then use the money he wants for his stupid ticket to do something nice for yourself, like buying a cool fall jacket or going to the salon and professionally washing that man right out of your hair for good.