Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Health Update

As most of you know, I was admitted to the hospital on Friday afternoon here in St. Louis. I was in town for a cousin’s wedding and to visit with family, but I missed the wedding and haven’t done much of the latter since I’ve been stuck in a hospital bed for three days now. It turns out I had a severe kidney infection and a touch of pneumonia, but the infection seems to have mostly cleared so I’m keeping my fingers crossed super hard that when I see the doctor later today he says I can go home. Of course, real “home” — Brooklyn — will probably have to wait a couple days. I want to make sure I’m feeling super well before I get back on a plane. Don’t want to risk any infection coming back. This shit is painful!

Anyway, this whole experience hasn’t been quite as bad as it could be. I’m staying in a very nice hospital where my aunt in VP of nursing, so I’ve been getting lots of great care. The room is nice and big — and private — and Drew has been able to stay with me the whole time on a little fold-out sofa. Actually, Drew gets lots of kudos — he’s made this much better than it could have been and has been pretty much waiting on me hand and foot when the nurses aren’t around, helping me to the bathroom, fetching me things when I need them. I owe him! Plus, we had to spend our second wedding anniversary here yesterday, so we’ve got to make up for that with something special next weekend, hopefully.

Another plus is my parents are here in town. They live in Germany, but they spend a few weeks here in St. Louis every summer and have been very helpful and supportive. It was my Dad — and my sister (who was visiting from Austin for the wedding) — who drove me to the hospital two different times. And good ol’ Mom is doing my laundry right now. One thing you can’t have enough of when you’re in a hospital is clean underwear. It’s, like, the last shred of normalcy one might have for a few days. By the way, I haven’t worn a bra since Friday — too hard to get on and off while attached to an IV. My puppies haven’t been so unrestricted for this long of time since I was nine. They’re lovin’ it.

Fortunately, the baby is fine, which is a huge, huge relief. It was quite scary at first, especially since his heart rate was so high when I was admitted, but as my fever (of 103) came down, so did his speedy heart. Sometimes infections like the one I have can cause pre-term labor, so I’ve been staying in the labor and delivery ward this whole time, which is a little weird. I’ll be much happier to come back to such a place under happier circumstances in 2 1/2 to 3 months now. Yesterday, on our wedding anniversary, Drew and I (and my mom, too) walked down to the nursery and cooed at the babies, imagining our own little one all swaddled up like them not too long from now.

Anyhow, I’m not quite out of the woods yet, so if you’re the praying type, please keep thinking of me. I could all the positive energy I can get, and I promise to pay it back (or forward) when someone else is in need. Again, expect posting to be a little on the lighter side for most of this week — more “Your Turns” and “Updates” (thanks for those!) and maybe even a “Dear Miles” or two. I’ll get things back to normal around here just as soon as I feel a little more back to normal myself. Thanks for understanding!

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  • silver_dragon_girl July 25, 2011, 1:37 pm

    Oh, Wendy, I hope you’re all better soon!

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  • mcj2011 July 25, 2011, 1:38 pm

    Feel Better Wendy!!!!

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  • fallonthecity July 25, 2011, 1:39 pm

    Glad to hear you’re being taken care of so well! Take it easy — I’m sure I speak for everybody when I say we’re all thinking of you.

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  • RunsWithScissors July 25, 2011, 1:42 pm

    As someone who has had both nasty kidney infections AND pneumonia (although never when pregnant!!), you’ve been on my mind all weekend.

    Take it easy, feel better, and enjoy the air conditioning!

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  • Sarah July 25, 2011, 1:47 pm

    Poor Wendy! So glad you’re doing better. I’ve heard cranberry juice is good for cleaning up a kidney infection, but not too much.

    Lol, I remember when I had to go to the hospital for a few days and they wanted me to go bra-less, but I’ve got D’s dammit! So I just shucked off the bar except for the one IV arm and MacGyvered it into a sling that I could slide it off quickly and tuck behind me when a doctor would come in to check on me. Of course my gown was see thru and my bra was pink leopard, but I still though it looked classy.

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  • camille905 July 25, 2011, 1:52 pm

    So glad you’re feeling better!

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  • LolaBeans July 25, 2011, 1:52 pm

    Thinking of you Wendy, Drew and baby!

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  • MsMisery July 25, 2011, 1:55 pm

    Sounds like you’re in great hands!!

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  • Maracuya July 25, 2011, 2:02 pm

    Oh, man. Glad you’re feeling better Wendy! Get well soon. 🙂

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  • TECH July 25, 2011, 2:07 pm

    Hi Wendy,
    I know your pain of a kidney infections. It is sooo much worse than just a regular UTI. Mine started out as severe back pain with no traditional UTI systems. Then I started shivering with fever and was out of work for almost a week. People just don’t understand how much it can hurt. I hope you’re not passing kidney stones because that just adds to the pain!

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    • Wendy July 25, 2011, 2:43 pm

      Ugh, the fever and shivering — just the worst!!! Yes, the pain of a kidney infection is seriously intense. I had no idea. One of the labor nurses here told me that it’s just about as intense as labor, so at least I’m getting a little practice dealing with the pain. No kidney stones, thankfully, but the chest pain from the pneumonia has been another beast, and of course worrying about the baby isn’t fun. Everyone says he’s OK, which I appreciate, but you can’t help but worry a little and just hope they’re right.

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    • mcminnem July 25, 2011, 4:46 pm

      I hear you – about a year ago I came down with what I thought was a flu – nausea, shivering, aches, crazy fever, all that stuff – and then one morning there was suddenly severe pain in my lower back. My mom went “Aha!” and started feeding me cranberry juice, garlic, oil of oregano and berberis; all infection-fighting supplements. By the time I finally got into the doctor’s office three or four days later, what had been a kidney infection was essentially gone. I managed to get over it without ever having to take an antibiotic (which I hate.) I probably would have taken it just to be sure if I had a baby counting on me, though! Take care of yourself and the little guy!

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  • kerrycontrary July 25, 2011, 2:08 pm

    Feel better Wendy! We are all thinking of you. I’m glad you are feeling better than you were.

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  • Lianne July 25, 2011, 2:09 pm

    You’re in my thoughts! Glad you are feeling better, but keep doing what they tell you. And thanks for the update 🙂

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  • liza July 25, 2011, 2:14 pm

    Feel better soon! 🙂 You and the baby will be back up to 100% in no time.

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  • TECH July 25, 2011, 2:15 pm

    Also, after my week of kidney infection hell back in November, I decided I never wanted to go through it again. As a preventive step, I’ve been taking two cranberry concentrate pills a day, which you can pick up in any vitamin aisle. Knock on wood, I haven’t had a recurring UTI or kidney infection, so I’d definitely recommend!

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    • Kristin July 25, 2011, 3:00 pm

      While that’s a great idea for most people, I’d be a little hesitant to take it while pregnant. There’s no regulation for what’s in those and I wouldn’t want to expose a baby to that.

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  • honeybeenicki July 25, 2011, 2:17 pm

    Glad to hear you are doing better and the baby is ok. It can be scary to have health problems, but to add it to pregnancy (and a whole ‘nother tiny life!) must be very frightening. Hope you get out soon!

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  • bittergaymark July 25, 2011, 2:17 pm

    Oh, wow. Sorry to hear about this. But happy to hear things are going as well as possible and that you are very comfortable and well taken care of. 🙂

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  • Amber July 25, 2011, 2:27 pm

    Hope you’re feeling 100% soon and able to make it ‘home’. There’s nothing worse than being sick and not close to home. Good that you have family there though!

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  • Elizabeth July 25, 2011, 2:29 pm

    Glad it’s starting to pass. Sorry you had to miss the wedding, but it sounds like you’ve got a great amount of support out there. Three cheers for clean undies!

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  • melikeycheesecake July 25, 2011, 2:51 pm

    Of course we understand!

    So sorry and I’ll be praying for all of you!

    Get well pronto!!!!

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  • SGMcG July 25, 2011, 2:52 pm

    Glad to hear that you are feeling better now and that any threat against Wendrew has passed. Cheers to Drew for stepping up and hooray for your family for being there. Get well soon – we’ll be waiting happily for your full recovery.

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  • TaraMonster July 25, 2011, 1:56 pm

    Kidney infections are the worst! I once passed out on the subway platform from the pain of a UTI turned kidney infection (highly embarrassing, btw!). I shudder to think of what having a kidney infection while pregnant must be like.

    Since I am the praying type, you’re in my prayers. Feel better soon!

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  • LTC039 July 25, 2011, 2:01 pm

    From someone who has experienced the horrible pain of the UTI, I sympathize with you!
    I’m glad it’s not as serious as it could’ve been & that you’re doing better!
    I am the “praying type” so I will keep you & the baby in my prayers!
    Best wishes & get well soon!

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  • AKchic July 25, 2011, 3:43 pm

    Tell Drew to get used to those fold-out couches!

    Also, here is a helpful hint for guys of expecting females: pack an overnight bag too. Seriously. A couple of books, portable video game thingie, whatever a pillow, some jammies and a spare pair of clothes (with two pairs of socks and undies), a pair of shower shoes and travel-sized toiletries.
    With my last one, we figured the labor would be easy since my last three had been (the 3rd was only 20 minutes in L&D), but instead, after being induced, I spent 13 hours in labor. In the morning, I was on the phone paying bills and rearranging my schedule for a few weeks, while he played video games.
    The shower shoes come in handy for that first post-birth shower. Some women are too shaky to sit/stand by themselves and need help. Guys may not like blood on their feet, so the shower shoes are helpful. An extra pillow for the couch is always a plus. Never know how many days you’ll be in the hospital (1-2 days/nights is standard for a normal delivery).

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  • Michele July 25, 2011, 4:59 pm

    Glad you are feeling better, and I hope you are fully recovered very soon!

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  • Marie July 25, 2011, 6:03 pm

    Take care of yourself!!! Definitely been there with the Kidney infection and it is absolutely horrendous. Feel better! xo

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  • Natasia Rose July 25, 2011, 5:22 pm

    Wishing you a quick & full recovery!

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  • Quakergirl July 25, 2011, 6:31 pm

    Glad to hear you’re doing okay, Wendy, and that you’re getting lots of love and care at the hospital. I’ve only had one kidney infection and it wasn’t even that bad, but it was so, so painful and the fever was horrible. I can only imagine how much pain you’re in with a bad kidney infection and pneumonia, not to mention the added concern that stems from being pregnant. But you’re in good hands with Drew (what a trooper!) and your aunt/family. We’ve all got you in our thoughts and hope you and the baby are up and about soon!

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  • Kim July 25, 2011, 7:34 pm

    I’m sorry to hear how much pain you are in, but I’m glad to hear that both you and the baby are recovering and should be fine. It can be hard to not worry about how he’s doing in there (I know I struggle to not worry even though I’m not in the hospital), but all you can do is trust the doctors and realize it’s out of your control. I’m sure if the doctors really suspected something was wrong, they would tell you and wouldn’t be thinking of having you leave soon. I hope you feel better soon, and take it easy for as long as you can.

    I also thought it was funny saying how you owed Drew for taking care of you. You are growing his baby, and in the hospital in buckets of pain. If you got a letter saying the LW was in the hospital with a kidney infection and pnemonia while pregnant, and the husband/father-to-be wasn’t taking care of her, we would all be saying what a douche he was.

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    • AKchic July 25, 2011, 7:45 pm


      Kim, I thought the same thing. The thing is – we women have been conditioned to think of pregnancy as a “woman’s condition” and that men have really no role in pregnancy (seriously, what DO they do other than have fun knocking us up and get the congratulations when WE go into labor and give birth?). The majority of “new age” guys are warming up and taking a more active role in pregnancy, but for a long time, men weren’t involved at all. Other women helped out, usually the sisters and/or mothers/grandmothers/aunts. Not the menfolk. It wasn’t traditional. It was rare to need a male in the delivery of a child, unless there was a serious complication that required a medical doctor rather than a midwife.

      We women tend to forget that while men weren’t “helping”, the women in our lives were, so we tend to think that we women were all alone in our pregnancies back then. So, we get this super grateful shtick going on when someone helps us when we’re sick or not feeling well. I think part of it is the societal disconnect in the last few decades, on top of the generational drift and death of traditions (some that were good).

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  • Temperance July 25, 2011, 8:09 pm

    I’m really glad that you are on the mend and that Baby Dear Wendy is doing well. Best wishes for a speedy recovery!

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  • parrt July 25, 2011, 8:47 pm

    I wish you well Wendy

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  • Addie Pray July 25, 2011, 9:32 pm

    I’m glad you’re on the ups, Wendy. It sounds like you’re in good care, with your family around you. That’s nice Drew could fly to be with you. I wish you a speedy recovery!

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  • themintyness July 25, 2011, 10:03 pm

    I am definitely sending positive vibes. Is it weird that I’m getting excited for the arrival of your baby? Is Drew making baby clothes??

    Also, looking forward to “Dear Miles” letters.

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  • Lily July 25, 2011, 10:11 pm

    glad to hear that you (and the baby!) are doing alright!!!

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  • Miss MJ July 25, 2011, 10:21 pm

    You, Drew and the baby are in my thoughts and prayers. Glad to hear you’re doing better!

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  • Kare July 26, 2011, 12:07 am

    Glad you’re okay! My cousin’s girlfriend was taken to the hospital Saturday when she was having severe chest pains and was then transferred to a bigger hospital. She had her baby a month early, but both are healthy.

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  • Rachel July 26, 2011, 12:08 am

    Hope everything turns out alright!

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  • Samantha J Day July 26, 2011, 2:47 am

    Glad you are okay, give me a shout when you are back home and on your feet and I’ll hook you up with some hair solutions like we discussed.

    Look after yourself, let other people look after you too! This is not a time to be independent and stubborn, Andrew is there to look after his family, LET HIM! You will have many chances in the future to repay him for his strength right now.

    My thoughts are with you!

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  • EmmieEm July 26, 2011, 9:54 am

    Get well soon, Wendy!

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