Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

How Are You?

Hi, everyone — hope you had a great weekend! I spent a big chunk of Saturday at the March for Our Lives in Manhattan, with about 175,000 other people. It felt good to be a part of something important, and I am so inspired by the young people who organized it and spoke and participated at the various marches around the country (and the world). Now it’s Monday morning and I’m finishing up with my Monday morning routine (after getting the kids out the door) of tidying up the house, planning meals for the week, writing my to-do list for the week, running the Roomba, and throwing the laundry in the wash before sitting down with a cup of coffee and writing some DW posts. Today I just wanted to catch up with you and find out what’s up in your world. So, some questions:

1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you just got back from a vacation, where did you go?)

2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share?

3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?

4. What are your challenges or worries these days?

5. What are you most looking forward to this spring?

(My responses in the comments)

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  • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 9:21 am

    I’ve been in Florida for three months. I totally get why people spend winters here now. I have avoided all of the storms and snow. I am worried about the state of my apartment when I return (I don’t remember if I put bleach in the toilet to keep the grossness at bay).

    After Passover I will have to actually pack up and go home. I will miss my mom. We got along surprisingly well. No fights, no bickering. Nothing. She snapped at me once but she was dealing with a Quicken mess and was muttering to herself so I should have just given her a wide berth.

    I have become a fan of competitive cooking and baking shows. I do not cook. Ever. Mom introduced me to Chopped. I introduced her to the Great British Bake Off. We found Kids Baking show together. We tried to watch “Nailed It!” but it was awful.

    We tried to watch Alan Cumming’s new show. It too is awful. The writing is TERRIBLE. It sounds like it was written by a 6th grader who finished a Murder She Wrote marathon. Clunky exposition, illogical actions, ridiculous character development. Like AWFUL. It’s painful. I tried it twice. Would not recommend.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 9:35 am

      My good friend, Lesley, won an episode of Chopped (and if you don’t blink, you can even catch me and the kids for a second in her intro). Let me see if I can track down a link…

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    • Ale March 26, 2018, 9:55 am

      “Nailed it” is the worst.

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      • Sara March 26, 2018, 1:36 pm

        I’m so surprised by folks panning “Nailed It.” My Food Network-loving friends and I thought it was amazing. It’s such a great rip-off on all the shows where folks just happen to know how to perfectly execute the most random of dishes. The camp value and deliberately cheesy production had us howling. We binge-watched it in one night.

      • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 3:23 pm

        My problem is that they took people who can’t cook and didn’t give them nearly enough time. Either give me an awesome baker with less time OR give me an OK dabbler with enough time.. They are set up to fail and we are laughing at them, not with them.

      • Ange March 26, 2018, 5:34 pm

        I really enjoyed it! It wasn’t meant to be amazing art, just fun schlocky entertainment and it worked perfectly well for me.

    • Steph March 26, 2018, 11:50 am

      MasterChef Junior is a great show! If you aren’t sure of the show, Gordon Ramsey is the host. Most people know his demeanor and what an ass he can be. Seeing him with the kids and how much he is helpful and the complete opposite of his reputation is great!! And the kids are really impressive.

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      • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 1:07 pm

        We watched the one with Valerie Bertinelli and Duff Goldman. They are super kind to the kids and the kids are super cute and personable and kind to one another.

      • Purpose March 26, 2018, 2:50 pm

        We are completely obsessed with anything Gordon Ramsey related in our household, including MasterChef Jr. which we are currently watching with our almost-10 year old. Every time I see an 8 year old making something like a souffle, I think that I should be challenging my daughter with more than grilled cheese and tuna sandwiches! LOL

  • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 9:28 am

    1. We’re going to Missouri to visit my parents next week while Jackson is on spring break from school. We met up with them for a weekend in early November where my grandmother and extended family live, but we haven’t been to my parents’ home since last summer. The kids are especially excited.

    2. I’ve been enjoying the show “The Chi,” based on the south side of Chicago (and one of the young break-out stars is a drama student of one of my besties, so that’s cool). Another friend just turned me on to Minimalist Baker, who’s actually represented by the same ad network that I am, and I’m excited to try out some recipes this week. (I’ve been trying to eat a more plant-based, anti-inflammatory, diet, and there’s lots of inspiration on MB).

    3. I only had three alcoholic beverages last week, thank you very much.

    4. I’m coming out of what felt like 2 1/2 years of nonstop challenges and worries and things are currently pretty smooth-sailing, knock on wood. There are the typical challenges of juggling various demands on my energy and time (especially as a mom of two young, active kids), but that’s not such a big deal. We are getting more and more settled into our home, the drama we first dealt with after purchasing this place has pretty much been solved/ taken care of, we have a new tenant, and we’ll even be renting out our backyard to a restaurant to use for gardening (I feel like that’s such a New York thing – to rent out whatever spare space you might have that someone else could use and pay you for), the kids are healthy and happy, and signs of Spring are popping up everywhere.

    5. I am looking forward to picnics in the park with friends, day and weekend excursions with the family, planting flowers on our small deck, dining al fresco on our small deck, basically enjoying having some outdoor space again after not having any for a few years, biking and jogging in the park on pretty days, and Drew and I are getting away just the two of us for a weekend in May and I’m pretty excited about that!

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 9:33 am

      Oh, and I’ve started twice-monthly acupuncture sessions to treat my alopecia and I feel excited and optimistic about it. After I meet my deductible, insurance covers it, so I’m happy about that, too. Adopting a more plant-based diet is part of the process, and I’m also taking turmeric supplements, and will soon start chinese herbs. I’ll keep y’all posted.

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  • JD March 26, 2018, 9:29 am

    Speaking of meal planning. I just found this site/app plantoeat. Loving it so far. There’s a free 30 day trial, without CC, which is nice since I always forget to cancel things before they charge. I can upload my recipes, put them into a calendar for the week then it loads my shopping list. So far I like it. Using my list to shop today so we will see how it goes.

    The husband and I are currently obsessed with Live PD on A&E. Some of the incidents are flat out funny, like the guy who was pulled over for wearing a thong pair of denim shorts around town the other day and when they asked him he replied “oh these are just my shorts”. Full bun cheeks.

    Having serious challenges adjusting to the new city. I just do NOT fit here in many ways. Also, the no friends, nothing to do. We had to move for his work to somewhere far too remote for me. Not a big city, a big area over all but just a complete 180 to where I have ever lived. Not even a store I would shop at for hundreds of miles short of Target….but I do love Target! I suppose that is good for my bank balance but I love shopping so that sucks. There aren’t really very nice restaurants around here and due to the weather I can’t run outside right now…well I guess I could but I am NOT used to the cold yet so I am not about to start running in it. Plus I don’t have the wardrobe for the weather and that goes back to the lack of shopping options issue. Plus we have been hit with an insane amount of major expenses since we moved due to many non move related reasons that are just making life harder. AND the moving company is essentially holding our stuff hostage for more money. Fighting with them daily It should have been here weeks ago. I have heard of this happening and we researched them like crazy but here we are…about to pay an attorney to get our stuff…more money! So again, more money, buying things to survive since we don’t have our furniture or kitchen stuff, etc. Of course this stress is impacting our interactions. We are working hard to not let it but that is difficult to do at all times. Jobs here aren’t abundant either so finding one is difficult, let alone being hired. I finally found ONE job to apply to. We in general don’t need me to work right away to survive and are fine financially with me not for a while but it sure would help with all these sudden expenses. No desire to ever be without my husband but every day I want to run to the airport and jump on a plane back home. We don’t have to be here long luckily and part of it is homesick and stress but I am for sure being challenged right now. Seriously could use a spa day somewhere warm!

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 11:58 am

      Have you looked into substitute teaching? In the last, that’s been helpful for me when I needed supplemental income and/or was in between jobs.

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      • JD March 26, 2018, 12:22 pm

        I have not considered that. I did get a call back for the ONE job so that is a positive. I know getting OUT of the house will help. Honestly if I had my stuff at least I’d have had a few weeks of busy to organize and decorate! Evil moving companies. I was even pissed last night I couldn’t just go on my couch when husband was snoring! Give me my stuff you furniture pirates!!! I have been on a cooking frenzy due to having not much else to do. Try to zest a lemon with no kitchen tools I dare you! hahaha

  • Kate March 26, 2018, 9:33 am

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you just got back from a vacation, where did you go?).

    Not for Easter, my parents live in the next town over, but just got back from Amsterdam, which I loved!

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share?
    The new Queer Eye is so great.

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?
    A president at Google is a big fan of my work?

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days?
    Trying to sell our condo… yes, I know it’s a seller’s market, but there are some challenges with this one.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this Spring?
    Selling my condo. New Handmaid’s Tale season. Clients signing some proposals so I get commissions.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 9:43 am

      Ooh, yes on New Handmaid’s Tale! And I love the new Queer Eye, too.

      Congrats on impressing the Google president.

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    • Ale March 26, 2018, 9:56 am

      Queer Eye was awesome.

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 10:33 am

      Yes! The new Queer Eye is awesome AND I was looking at real estate in Atlanta and several lofts shown as the QE HQ are available for sale (and reasonably priced!).

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  • Juliecatharine March 26, 2018, 9:46 am

    I binged on Season 2 of the Santa Clarita Dist on Netflix, that show is hilarious and if you can stand some gore I highly recommend!

    I also discovered making ‘ice cream’ out of frozen bananas—frozen bananas, some milk, cinnamon, unsweetened cocoa powder, and peanut butter in the food processor for like 5 minutes—SO good.

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    • ktfran March 26, 2018, 10:15 am

      I want to watch that show so bad… but I’m not good at gore.

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  • Hannanas March 26, 2018, 9:47 am

    Thanks for asking Wendy!

    1. I’m not going anywhere on holiday, but I hope to squeeze in some fun day trips with my husband and 2,5 year old daughter.

    2. Oh my I recently discovered carrot cake! First time I tried it was two weeks ago and I just had to make it myself. Found an amazing recipe here: https://www.inspiredtaste.net/25753/carrot-cake-recipe/
    I’m not much of a baker but this was just incredible!

    3. I prepared said cake, as well as a veggie mac ‘n’ cheese, for a new mom because new moms should eat and be spoiled. Actually hoping she returns the favor as I am 2 months away from delivering myself.

    4. Finally getting to be pregnant (we tried for some time), I’m really grateful – but sadly also worried about my weight. Last pregnancy I gained 50 pounds and all signs point to even more this time. I watch what I eat, but I just keep gaining weight (everything in my blood seems fine). Add that to the already very honest remarks of people when it comes to pregnant women, and you have got yourself some anxiety right there.

    5. Mostly the sun really – last weekend we had a little taste of spring and it was just amazing to feel our bodies wake up after a long winter.

    … Well that felt good! How about you guys?

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    • Kate March 26, 2018, 9:49 am

      I love carrot cake so much.

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      • Kate March 27, 2018, 7:16 am

        After my dentist appt yesterday I bought a mini carrot cake cupcake because it was on my mind!

    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 10:35 am

      Mmmm… carrot cake. While watching the Kids Baking competition I asked my mom “Why don’t we have one of those?” and she asked “A kitchen aid mixer?” and I said “No, an 11 year old baking away in the kitchen. We should get one of those.”

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    • K March 26, 2018, 11:05 am

      I love carrot cake too! I use the Joy of Cooking recipe and make it with maple frosting instead of cream cheese frosting, because my boyfriend doesn’t like cream cheese. It always comes out so amazingly good!

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  • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 9:49 am

    Ok, I guess one other accomplishment I can brag about, besides limiting my alcoholic intake (and eliminating sugar from my coffee, woot!): at parent teacher conferences last week, Jackson’s teacher told me lots of great things about him, but my favorite thing she said is how very sweet and tender-hearted he is, and though that’s not really an accomplishment of my own, I still feel really proud. We had some rough years with Jackson that I have alluded to but haven’t shared many details, and when his teacher said (for the second time): “Whatever you’re doing with him, keep it up,” all the effort felt so acknowledged and validated.

    (And, of course, I am so proud of Joanie, too! But raising her so far has been a different kind of effort — less intense and deliberate — and I don’t feel quite as responsible for how awesome she is turning out to be, if that makes sense).

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 10:41 am

      That is great. Go Team Jackson!

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    • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 10:53 am

      Every time I feel like a bad mom, I try to look at my kids. They are so great, I must be doing some/most things right, right?!? Ha ha.

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    • Lianne March 26, 2018, 11:34 am

      That’s amazing! I am so glad for you 🙂

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  • JustMax March 26, 2018, 9:54 am

    I want to brag about finishing my first ever Half Marathon! I ran the NYRR United NYC Half Marathon on the 18th. Considering my life motto used to be “I don’t even run for tequila” this has been a huge personal accomplishment. 🙂

    And along those lines, I’m looking forward to nicer weather to continue to run and hike. Spending time outdoors has been a big help with work related stress and personal anxieties.

    I don’t watch TV on the regular, so don’t know what’s current. But once in a while I binge watch something. My queue has Grace and Frankie and Catastrophe.

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 10:36 am

      That is awesome – congrats! Grace & Frankie is great! Such a good cast.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 11:18 am

      Congrats on the half!!

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  • Ale March 26, 2018, 10:08 am

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you just got back from a vacation, where did you go?).
    The whole Holy Week is free here. But I came to work today and will come tomorrow, then going to the beach for the rest of the week.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share?
    I watched Lady Bird yesterday and loved it.

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?
    Planning a Europe trip entirely on my own.

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days?
    I am extremely worried about my country. We have our second round presidential election next Sunday, between an evangelical idiot. who totally disrespects women, is seriously unqualified for the job (only finished high school), is mostly known because he was in TV, sings christian songs and is a pastor at a church but really has no accomplishments whatsoever, is totally against gay marriage and abortion, and a more centered, qualified, intelligent man who believes in Human Rights and would do better, IMO. This stupid ass of a candidate got the most votes in the first election. I am really worried about a person like this leading our country but I am more worried about the people who voted for him. I didn’t know we were such a homophobic, stupid country.
    This keeps me up at night.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this Spring?
    We don’t really have seasons here but I really want the presidential campaign to be over.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 11:59 am

      I’m forgetting where you live if you’ve said before. Can you say?

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      • Ale March 26, 2018, 1:24 pm

        Costa Rica

  • Vathena March 26, 2018, 10:09 am

    Why thank you for asking, Wendy!

    We went to the March for Our Lives in DC this weekend. I am so inspired and hopeful because of these kids. I had given up on anything ever changing, and now I feel like it’s possible. I’m so grateful to them. We took our 4-year-old (she also went with us to the Women’s March in DC at 3.5). We try to explain the concept of the actions in age-appropriate terms; I’m not sure how much it sinks in, but hope that the experience helps mold her into someone who stands up for her values.

    In 2 weeks, we are traveling as a family to Paris! My husband has business meetings there, and our daughter and I are able to tag along using points. I hope it’s enjoyable and not a disaster. We are flying business class, which I’m excited about, but I also have some anxiety that my daughter might throw a fit and piss off all the high-rollers.

    We also got some bad news last night. My father-in-law passed away. It wasn’t hugely surprising, given that he has been through some major health challenges in the past year, but it still seems so sudden. He was a really great guy. It does sound like he had a beautiful last day, spending it at the beach with family and a glass of wine with his wife of 58 years over dinner. Now we are working out the next steps on when we can get the family together. Spring break is not helping!

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 10:49 am

      I’m sorry to hear about your FIL -but Paris…
      The last time I was in Paris I actually shed a tear during my first cup of coffee it was so delicious.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 11:20 am

      Sorry about your FIL!

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  • ktfran March 26, 2018, 10:12 am

    1. Nowhere for Easter/Passover, although my sister and brother in law emptied their fridge for passover and asked me to store the contents until after. My BIL takes the rules seriously. We’re headed to Hilton Head mid-April for some sun and the Heritage Golf Tournament.

    2 and 3. Nada. Work travel and back issues have made me lame lately.

    4. Speaking of back issues, I was out for four days in February due to my lower back. Like, I literally laid in bed all day for three and a half days. It sucked. Because of that, I started physical therapy and it has made a huge difference so far! I’m also taking private pilates lessons in the hopes of strengthening my core. So, PT and pilates is taking up a lot of time.

    Speaking of work, I have a requisition out. Anyone looking for a proposal writing job who has 5+ years experience and knows, at a min, InDesign, in the Chicagoland area?

    5. Saturday, we ordered the rest of our dining room furniture for our 9′ table. They should be delivered early June. I’m looking forward to dinner parties in the spring!!!!!

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    • Lianne March 26, 2018, 10:18 am

      My dad lives right off Hilton Head! My brother and his two closest friends are heading there in 2 weeks for lots of golf. I know last year my dad got them tickets to the Heritage, but not sure if they’re doing it again this year.

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      • ktfran March 26, 2018, 10:45 am

        FUN! It’s a great time to be there. My cousin and her husband live right off the island too. They somehow get free tickets every year, so it’s an annual thing between her and my other cousin (her sister) who live here. This will be the second time we join them.

        When (if?) you visit, what’s your favorite things to do?

      • ktfran March 26, 2018, 10:48 am

        Also, good luck on your upcoming new addition! I hope everything goes well.

      • Lianne March 26, 2018, 11:30 am

        I’ve only been a couple times at this point. The first time we went, it was February and cold! And I was pregnant. We went to Savannah for a day and did a tour, but didn’t do much else. Just visited. The second time, we went to the beach, the pool at my dad’s community, and then did kid things (my son was 11 months old at the time). We went onto Hilton Head alot…there’s so much to do there!

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    • TheHizzy March 26, 2018, 10:42 am

      Hey! I just had back surgery 6 months ago. Before then I couldn’t feel my left leg. PT really helped a ton! I hope you get back to feeling normal soon.

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      • ktfran March 26, 2018, 10:51 am

        Thanks! I’m hoping to get ahead of it before it gets too bad, hence the core strengthening too. I’m 100% dedicated to this endeavor. I’m glad you’re feeling better and are able to live freely again!

    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 12:00 pm

      Sorry to hear about your back! I bet pilates will help a lot.

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 1:54 pm

      We used to do a whole mess of cleaning for my grandmother. Passover dishes, glasses, silverware the works. Never burned the spoon but a thorough de-levening of the kitchen and moved all the bread and bread adjacent stuff to the garage.

      Then one year Grandma said her rabbi said if you just wash the glasses and silverware twice then they can be used because they’re non porous and therefore the second washing makes them super ok for Passover. OK! Sounds legit!

      We don’t prep the home anymore.

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    • LadyinPurpleNotRed March 26, 2018, 7:08 pm

      Any wiggle room in the years experience?

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  • Lianne March 26, 2018, 10:14 am

    1. We’re spending Easter at my MIL’s, nothing crazy! And no trips planned, except to the hospital once baby is ready to be born. I am 2 weeks from my due date.

    2. We started watching the original Twin Peaks. It’s so soapy and campy! I love it. I know it has a cult following and I am late to the party. I also have watched a few episodes of Black Mirror on Netflix, which is simultaneously fascinating and horrifying. I am not sure what to think of it yet.

    3. I got promoted earlier this year! I have been in my role just over 3 years and now am at the next level (there are three) for the position. In that time I’ve had a baby, taken almost five months maternity leave, leave at 4 PM every day, AND I was pregnant when the promotion news came out. That shouldn’t matter, but in this day and age I think it does. I work really hard when I am here and do a good job to ensure my work stops when I walk back in the door at home. I am proud of the work/life balance I’ve been able to create for myself.

    4. My son, who is 22 months old tomorrow, has been having sleep issues on and off since December. With a newborn just two weeks away, this has caused me tremendous stress and anxiety about having two under two. Added to that stress, we’re no closer to finding a new home and are in a small townhouse apartment where there is no escaping any noise in the house. I am nervous about how all of this will play out once baby girl arrives.

    5. I am so excited for the birth of our daughter, experiencing the differences of having a girl versus a boy, watching my husband with our new baby, and (perhaps most especially) seeing my son become a big brother. We’ve been really playing up his new role and trying to prepare him for the baby to come live with us. Last week I ordered him a few gifts from the baby, as well as a super cool Big Brother tee-shirt with monster truck on it (he’s obsessed with trucks, which is so interesting to me since it happened totally organically with neither of us pushing them!). Aside from that major change, I am also looking forward to a deluge of new houses flooding the real estate market so we can find our dream home!

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 10:52 am

      Congrats on the impending small human implementation.

      My usual go-to recommendation for kids with sleeping issues is baby Benadryl. I am not a parent so you probably don’t want to take that advice.

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      • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 11:01 am

        Yeah, that is definitely not great advice, IMO. I don’t like the idea of drugging my kids. I guess better than the “give em a shot of booze!” that you’ll sometimes hear. Some kids get hyperactive from Benadryl….and really it’s just a bandaid for the issue.
        Low doses of melatonin were recommended to me to use with my kids for short periods of sleep issues.

      • carolann March 27, 2018, 3:04 am

        Benadryl keeps me awake and gives me crazy restless legs. It makes everyone else Look know sleep like a log.
        I have a horrible time sleeping and have tried everything. (I am writing this at 4 am. Still haven’t fallen asleep after skullcap /camomile tea. Wide awake.) Teething tablets used the help me (and the kids) but they took them off the market. Unfortunately, my two youngest kids barely sleep either. (And they never nap)
        @anonymousse Melatonin works really well, but I would be super careful giving it to your kids. I gave an ultra small dose to both of my kids. It did help them sleep, but it gave them both super vivid scary dreams and my younger one vomits after waking up when taking it. I took it also and I will say nothing makes me sleep better, but I also have super vivid bizarre dreams and I wake up with the headache that killed Elvis.
        I am going to go back to magnesium, it helps somewhat.

    • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 10:57 am

      Congratulations! I’m sorry about the sleep issues. Second babies always seem so much easier than firsts. They kind of have to just go with the flow…
      Maybe he’s also nervous about the new baby?
      Sound machines are totally indispensable for us. We take them with us everywhere.
      Good luck with the house search!

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      • Lianne March 26, 2018, 11:33 am

        Turns out, he had an ear infection AND is working on his two year molars. This came off the heels of a prior ear infection and his canines erupting. He’s been doing much better since his antibiotics started working. We use a sound machine and love it.

        Thanks for the luck! We need it 🙂

      • carolann March 27, 2018, 3:07 am

        We use sound too, it helps us stay asleep once we finally fall asleep. I found “haunting storm sounds” a few years ago and never sleep without it.

    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 11:26 am

      Best wishes for an easy labor, Lianne!
      Sorry about the sleep issues; I feel you. It took Joanie 2 1/2 years to finally sleep through the night, and about a week after she started doing that, she basically passed the baton to our cat, Simone, who yowls every damn night from 2 – 5 am. We’re working with a vet now to rule out any medical issue; old cats often just do this (she’s 18 1/2) and I am not above drugging her to get some fucking sleep (the vet says that’s what she does with her 17-year-old yowling cat…).

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      • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 11:35 am

        Kitty Benadryl?

      • Lianne March 26, 2018, 11:36 am

        OMG. Our cats can be crazy at night/the early morning hours. We feed them soft food in the morning and anywhere from 3-6 AM can have them meowing loudly, attacking my feet, or catapulting themselves across us on the bed. They are kooks!

      • Ange March 26, 2018, 5:41 pm

        She may even have a bit of kitty dementia coming in. They kind of wake up a bit disoriented and scared and howl until they get their bearings or someone yells at them and they recognise the voice.

      • d2 March 26, 2018, 9:28 pm

        I had a girl cat who, at about age 17 or 18, would wake up and start howling. It turned out she had several abscessed teeth. Once those teeth were pulled, she was fine. I still cringe to think about the pain she was in before the problem was found and fixed.

    • keyblade March 26, 2018, 1:08 pm

      Wishing you a happy, healthy, safe delivery and recuperation!

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    • JD March 26, 2018, 1:15 pm

      Best wishes for a healthy and easy….as it can be, labor and delivery!

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  • TheHizzy March 26, 2018, 10:33 am

    1. No vacation here. FMH and I both have Friday off and I’m taking him on a tour he’s been dying to go on locally but we just haven’t made it to yet. He doesn’t know, it’s a surprise!

    2. We’ve started watching “How I Met Your Mother” and “The Americans” is back on soon. HIMYM is one of his favorite shows, so it’s fun to share. And I might try to get him into The Americans.

    3. I am 6 months post op from my back, feeling better every day, and I’m living life again.

    4. Just trying to save enough money for the wedding. FMH might be getting a promotion which would help us grately but I’m so ready for the wedding to be over. I have over a year still.

    5. Patio weather. Travel. Getting healthy. Visiting family. Having family in town. Just life, I’m just stoked about life.

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    • Lianne March 26, 2018, 11:56 am

      I loved HIMYM. I binge watched it several years ago and literally couldn’t go a day without watching at least one episode.

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      • TheHizzy March 26, 2018, 12:57 pm

        We seem to do an episode a night. Sometimes two. After all our chores yesterday I think we did 3. Then you lose my attention. 🙂

  • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 10:50 am

    We are just doing a low key family brunch for Easter. I’m looking forward to it, but there’s a lot going on with our family, so I’m also a little worried how it will all go. Everyone is struggling with a lot of grief. It’s tough. Big personalities and big emotions.

    I just finished reading White Houses, a novel by Amy Bloom about Lorena Hickok, the first female AP reporter, and her very probable lifelong love affair with Eleanor Roosevelt. I’ve been reading a lot of historical nonfiction about the Kennedys, and weird offshoots and stories about the era before, during and after WWII. Any recommendations?
    I’m watching Wild, Wild Country in Netflix. It’s about the Rajneesh taking over a small town (Antelope, OR) in the eighties and the bioterrorism charges, etc. very interesting. Side note, I actually got to wander the grounds of the Big Muddy Ranch where this all took place, when I lived in OR.
    I’m just excited to be home, for now, for good, I hope. I’m so tired of moving. We’ve moved, and made big moves, pretty much every year. For years. It’s hard to unpack crap that I haven’t even missed in the last two months. It’s nice, but also…exhausting. Thanks for being a good distraction for me.
    I’m so excited to get settled, continue building good relationships with my SILs…of which I have five. We’ve got a lot of drama going on, outside of anyone’s control and it’s hard to temper everyone’s feelings and work together.
    I’m so thankful for my husband, my kids, who amaze me everyday. The days can be long, but the years are just screaming by faster than I can bear. I’m excited to have a new area to explore and for warmer weather and green plants and flowers blooming. Life just goes on. The marches this weekend gave me so much hope. ♥️

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    • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 11:05 am

      I absolutely loved the new QE, too. I think every episode made me cry. I’m that person.

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      • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 11:36 am

        I am not that person and they make me cry.

    • Lianne March 26, 2018, 11:40 am

      One of my friends is watching Wild, Wild Country and raves about it! I want to check it out.

      Hope things with your family neutralize soon…

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      • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 12:20 pm

        Thanks, Lianne. I appreciate that.

    • keyblade March 26, 2018, 1:06 pm

      Lovely post

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      • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 4:49 pm

        Thanks, keyblade. ♥️

  • K March 26, 2018, 11:03 am

    1. Not going anywhere for spring break or Easter, but in early March I was in Utah – we visited Zion and Bryce Canyon National Parks. It was great!

    2. Add me to the list of people who love the new Queer Eye. Jonathan is the best. We’ve been watching the 3rd season of Love, and I like it better than the previous 2 seasons.

    3. Hmm…no accomplishments really.

    4. I’ve been wanting a new job for a long time but don’t know what jobs to apply to as I have sort of an odd background. (scientist turned marketer)

    5. Hiking and kayaking! Flip flop weather, and not having to wear jackets.

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 11:37 am

      Why not apply for in house Pharma marketing? You can speak two languages – science and marketing.

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      • K March 26, 2018, 1:26 pm

        I’ll have to look into that – thanks!

  • Rangerchic March 26, 2018, 11:27 am

    Not going anywhere for spring break or Easter either. But, we are going to Hawaii in May as a gift for our youngest daughters HS graduation. We’ve never been on a big trip like this so we are pretty excited.

    Then she will go to a local university while living at home to save money. College is way expensive these days. She wants to study nursing and I’ve heard that is a pretty vigorous subject so I’m glad she’ll be at home for awhile so she at least doesn’t have to worry about rent or anything like that. So not empty nesters just yet!

    No new shows/books worth reporting right now. Looking forward to summer!

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 11:38 am

      Very jealous. I want to go to Kilauea and see the lava flows so much. Good luck to your kid. Nursing is tough!

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      • Rangerchic March 26, 2018, 4:16 pm

        Thank you!

  • Moneypenny March 26, 2018, 11:40 am

    What a great topic!
    Let’s see, I’m probably going to go have dinner with my parents for Easter (my mom always makes ham and potato salad, yum). But they live close by so that’s nbd. I haven’t been watching much tv lately but I did just finish Mary Tyler Moore’s autobiography from the 90’s (random, I guess, but there was one left on amazon and the MTM show is my favorite show!)

    I will brag that a couple of weeks ago I got a promotion at work! Now I just need to live up to all of the expectations of the new position. Also, I am halfway done with the national and state exam process to get my architecture license. I’m taking 5 national exams followed by 1 state exam. (think: bar exam or medical licensing- that’s what this is like.) So far I’ve passed 3 so I have 3 more. I’m actually pretty stressed about finishing the last 2 national exams as they’re really comprehensive and there is a lot of information I need to review. My goal is to finish the next 2 by July. I hope to finish the last, the state exam, by the end of the year. (ugh, test anxiety!!!)

    I’m just trying to get into shape (doing a 5k in a month) for summer and hang with my bf. He’s pretty great. Oh and spend time with friends in between all of that. Haha. Whew.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 12:02 pm

      Congrats on the promotion! I’m inspired by all the promotions around here. Ladies gettin’ shit done!

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      • Lianne March 26, 2018, 12:15 pm

        I was thinking the same thing! Congrats, moneypenny!

      • Moneypenny March 26, 2018, 12:45 pm

        Thank you!! 🙂 🙂

    • ktfran March 26, 2018, 2:47 pm

      Congrats to both you and Lianne on your promotions! Woohoo!

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      • Moneypenny March 26, 2018, 5:15 pm

        Thanks ktfran!

    • veritek33 March 26, 2018, 4:25 pm

      Congratulations Moneypenny! You deserve it after all your hard work!

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      • Moneypenny March 26, 2018, 5:20 pm

        Thanks veritek! 😀

    • Copa March 27, 2018, 9:27 am

      Good luck with the rest of your exams! My sister is taking them right now and I think has two more to go. I don’t know firsthand what it’s like, but it seems pretty miserable to try to juggle work and study with having a life.

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  • Lucidity March 26, 2018, 11:42 am

    1. Just visiting family locally.

    2. I recently discovered the fertility app Ovia. My husband and I will be trying for our first child in the near future, so I’ve started tracking my cycle in preparation. I’m amazed by how thorough the app is – you can log your diet, exercise, when you have sex, what kind of cervical discharge you’re having – all kinds of stuff.

    3. We designed and built a floor-to-ceiling, wall-to-wall built-in bookcase this month, with zero wood-working or construction experience. It’s really my husband’s accomplishment, but I helped assemble and paint it – it’s now holding my entire library without collapsing or anything! I’ve wanted a built-in ever since I first saw Beauty & The Beast as a child, and there’s nothing we love more than saving money, so I’m doubly proud.

    4. I’m worried about my staff as our vet clinic gets busier in advance of flea, tick and heartworm season. We have several newer employees for whom disease testing and using prevention are new concepts. Most are hard workers and fast learners and should adapt well, but one half-asses everything and consistently makes the same mistakes no matter how many times I go over correct procedure with her. I’m not sure if she’s incompetant or just doesn’t care, but I’m not looking forward to going through the busy season with a team member who doesn’t pull her weight and having to clean up after her mistakes.

    5. The sun mostly, but also going for bike rides again, and getting back into gardening.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 12:31 pm

      Ooh, nice job on the floor to ceiling, wall to wall book case. I want one!

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    • keyblade March 26, 2018, 1:05 pm

      Lucidity- Congrats on having built something cool and useful for your home. I would love to have those kind of skills. I like to think if I ever get better at time management, I’d play around with some IKEA hack ideas I’ve seen with bookshelves, but at this point I’d just be lying to myself. I’m so impressed by people such as your husband and you.

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    • Lucidity March 26, 2018, 6:39 pm

      Thank you Wendy!

      keyblade, we were tempted by some of those Ikea hacks! They look so real and seem pretty easy. Ultimately, we couldn’t find bookcases that would have fit in our space and when we compared the cost of Billy bookcases versus spruce plywood, it was cheaper to build from scratch.

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  • Heatherly March 26, 2018, 12:00 pm

    Doing nothing for it. Will buy myself an Easter egg & ttro’s it.

    Love The Good Place, iZombie ( thought it would be awful & childish but really loved the characters especially Ravi) & started to watch the Gilmore Girls as never watched it the first time around.

    I’m mostly British, so I don’t brag about myself. My USA side has trouble with that. 🙂 But trying my hand at writing some fiction.

    Worrying about fertility…for the nearish future.

    I’m ooking forward to having a holiday, but no idea when or where.

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 2:00 pm

      I really enjoyed iZombie then it got toooooo far into the Z Day stuff.

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      • Rangerchic March 26, 2018, 4:19 pm

        I did also love iZombie, but I’m not sure about this new season. The whole (Spoiler Alert) Seattle lock down, I don’t like it at all! IDK. It was so good.

      • Heatherly March 27, 2018, 3:41 am

        I know. I sort just wanted it to continue being a hidden Zombie thing. But I still like all the characters. Seeing how I continue to feel with season 4, I may park it…

        What have you swapped to instead?

  • keyblade March 26, 2018, 12:17 pm

    1. Just got back from a quick to Chicago. Shout out to Molly’s cupcakes. I’ll soon be going Paleolithic diet. I’m nervous about it. I think I’m going to stick to a lot of recipes from PALEO IN 28 (Kenzie Swanhart). I might have to try out that app, JD.
    We are thinking about traveling this summer. I’m taking the kids on our own trip in early June. We have a camping trip planned in July as well as some kid camps so fitting in more traveling as a family would be ambitious.

    2. For Christmas I got a Dragontree journal. It really does seem like a great way to get organized and journal for the easily distracted.


    I haven’t tried these shoes, Rothys, yet, but I’m interested in using plastic water bottles so efficiently. They may end up one of my next purchases. https://rothys.com/

    I have a magazine subscription to The Atlantic. Most of my subscriptions are usually online but I appreciate receiving this one magazine. Emily Yoffe is a contributing editor.

    Katt Williams, Dave Chappelle, and Chris Rocks all still funny on netflix.

    On HBO I’m looking forward to the second season of Westworld, just caught Michelle Wolf’s 2017 special; its funny.

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days?
    What isn’t a worry or challenge these days? I’m seeing a new therapist.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this Spring?
    Longer days.

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    • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 12:41 pm

      A friend of mine loves Rothy’s and has a few pairs.
      I love the Atlantic and the New Yorker. Most everything else I read online.

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    • Moneypenny March 26, 2018, 12:46 pm

      I have a pair of Rothy’s and I really like them! They’re really comfortable and the soles have held up really well considering how much walking I do. I recommend them.

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      • keyblade March 26, 2018, 12:49 pm

        Really good to know Moneypenny and anonymousse! Thanks for the rec.

  • Miss MJ March 26, 2018, 12:23 pm

    This a great idea, Wendy! I’m glad that things seem to be going well for you and your family and that the issues with your new home were readily resolvable. I am curious about how you rent out your yard to a restaurant for gardening? How does that work? They do all the planting and cultivating? Do you get any of the fresh produce? What a neat concept!

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you just got back from a vacation, where did you go?).

    Spending the week at the beach for a quasi-vacation. It was gorgeous this weekend, but kind of cloudy and cooler right now, which is kind of nice, too. Gives me an opportunity to get caught up on work so that I can enjoy the sunshine later in the week.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share?

    Not really, but I’m loving everyone else’s suggestions!

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?

    At nearly 40, I just took another state’s bar exam. Don’t know if I passed or not (find out next month, so fingers crossed!), but I feel good that I was able to do the months of studying and prep to even be in a position to take it.

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days?

    I’ve been deeply worried about where the country is headed for a long time, but with the recent events – Dems winning elections where they shouldn’t because people are just done with the current administration; the anti-gun movement and marches; Mueller seemingly creeping ever closer to nailing Trump and his criminal grifter family and friends government – I feel like we may have reached the tipping point and things are starting to turn around.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this Spring?

    We’ve started sailing a little bit and I can’t wait until the water is warm enough to not be freezing when we go out. Also, we’re thinking about buying a new place. Not sure yet, though.

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 12:36 pm

      Renting the yard sort of happened organically (no pun intended). I knew when we looked at the place and were considering buying it that there was a farm-to-table restaurant two doors down that used the yard between us to garden so I assumed it was a possibility they’d be interested in our yard, too. Long story short, they are and we’ll be renting it to them for strictly cash and not a produce trade or anything like that. I’m excited because who doesn’t like extra passive income every month? And we didn’t have direct access to the yard anyway, our new tenant didn’t need or want the yard, and now it will be well-tended to and look pretty for us to enjoy aesthetically. Drew is a little bummed because he was hoping we’d build a staircase out our apartment to the yard and enjoy it as a family, and maybe we still will eventually, but at this point, it made sense to have added income vs. added expense and hassle.

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      • JD March 26, 2018, 12:38 pm

        Seriously awesome way to make income. Also, I’d think myself this could be a great way to watch, learn some great growing tips and tricks….but this is me who can kill a cactus!

      • Miss MJ March 26, 2018, 12:53 pm

        That’s so cool!

      • keyblade March 26, 2018, 12:58 pm

        Kudos. Enjoy the view!

    • keyblade March 26, 2018, 12:59 pm

      Congrats on getting through it! I wish sailing was part of my life; I’m so jealous 🙂

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      • Miss MJ March 26, 2018, 1:07 pm

        Thanks! We’re still pretty new to sailing, but it’s a lot of fun so far.

  • Addie Pray March 26, 2018, 1:05 pm

    Hi, DearWendy friends! I miss you! What have a missed in the last … year or so? This spring I’m looking forward to warm weather and getting outside more with my son … and DearWendying more!

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    • Dear Wendy March 26, 2018, 1:10 pm

      Well, where the hell have YOU been? And don’t even tell me lawyering and single parenting a toddler doesn’t leave much time for DW. Whatever!

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      • Addie Pray March 26, 2018, 2:31 pm

        That and new job leave me scrambling! But lame excuse, I know. What have you all be talking about? What’s new? Can someone give me a quick update on all the good gossip? Pretty please?

      • va-in-ny March 26, 2018, 2:54 pm

        Addie, all you need to know is this: if your boyfriend has gay tendencies, he might just be on meth.

      • JD March 26, 2018, 2:55 pm

        Well, he is only gay to get the meth, in fairness. And it is the other meth heads faults.

      • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 3:12 pm

        Oh and Wendy’s full of shit and all women are gold diggers who are whoring it up except with “nice guys”.

        But you know – same old same old.

      • Addie Pray March 26, 2018, 3:53 pm

        Hahaha sounds like i missed some doozies. And too bad i missed the memo on being a gold digger. Been too busy working I guess. But feel free to share the gold with me, ladies.

      • Lucidity March 26, 2018, 6:43 pm

        Don’t forget to pick the coolest new accessory – a DDWKS bracelet.

      • Lucidity March 26, 2018, 6:44 pm

        *pick up

    • ktfran March 26, 2018, 2:42 pm

      HELLO! Come back!

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      • Addie Pray March 26, 2018, 3:53 pm

        You’re a MRS now! Congrats!

    • MissD March 26, 2018, 4:04 pm

      I miss your updates, Addie!

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  • Lovelygirl March 26, 2018, 1:10 pm

    1. Nothing planned since I’m working 80 hours a week for another 2-3 weeks. We are having our Jewish neighbors (2 older couples) over for Passover on Friday, which should be fun. They help us out a bunch with dog care and we like to have them over for dinner when we find the time. I will be working on Easter so no family gathering this year.

    2. I’m looking forward to Santa Clarita Season 2 when I have time!

    3. I’m surviving a month of working 80 hours per week. This time it’s with a dog and even though it’s a challenge, it’s also a huge accomplishment to not neglect her. I have neighbors help out most days and so she is socialized and not too lonely. Another accomplishment: I’ve lost 26 pounds so far this year! It’s an awesome feeling to not fit into most of my wardrobe because everything is too big!

    4. I am ready for a big change in my life. I don’t know what I want yet (new job, relocate, etc) so it’s challenging to go to work each day with this constant feeling of needing a change. I feel like my husband and I are not living our best lives. We both have jobs that aren’t ideal and don’t seem to have enough time or money to travel as much as we would like. My reasoning for staying in my hometown was to be close to family. My mom passed away 6 months ago and life and the family dynamic has dramatically changed. My dad has found a new female friend and he doesn’t want to be bothered anymore and my sister lives nearby but has her own life. We all were very close and now we are just awkward distant relatives to each other. As it feels everyone else has picked up and moved on I have this strong urge to do the same but in a physical manner.

    5. I’m looking forward to normal working hours to have the time for daily bike rides. I want to exercise more and also take the dog with me. She came with a bike basket that she fits in perfectly since she’s a mere 9 lbs. It will be good for both of us now that the time change has occurred and it will be sunny after I get home from work every day.

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    • Rangerchic March 26, 2018, 4:23 pm

      I’m looking forward to watching Santa Clarita diet season 2 too! waiting for my daughter to have a night off so we can watch together.

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  • va-in-ny March 26, 2018, 1:15 pm

    1. I just got back from Park City, Utah! My husband always spent family vacations skiing out West, and he’s been begging for YEARS to plan a trip. I stopped skiing at 15, after a very bad accident (I was unconscious for a few hours…), but I told him that if I could take lessons, I would attempt it again. And, I did! It was still pretty scary, but my instructor said I was excellent! All in all, I think my husband is just happy to have an annual ski trip on the table again!

    2. When we were in Utah, I had one of the BEST appetizers and I’m hoping to recreate it at home. It was a little ball of goat cheese, dipped in panko crumbs and flash-fried, served over the top of a dulce de leche sauce with beet chips! It sounds really weird when I type it out like that, but it was the perfect blend of flavors!

    For TV, I enjoy watching Schitts Creek over and over these days. And, I’m loving 9-1-1 this season. I’ve also loved the Missing and Murdered series (podcast) from CBC. Season 1 was excellent and Season 2 is proving to be just as good. It’s sad, but the story is gripping and I love the production that CBC and Connie put together.

    3. My accomplishments? I skied! And, I only fell down once, when getting off the lift.

    And, I’ve been living with my in-laws for 8 months without killing anyone.

    4. I feel like I have a lot of challenges and worries these days, honestly. Our home renovations are taking a lot longer than we expected, and it’s very difficult having input from so many different people regarding what needs to be done and when. We’re doing it all ourselves (my father in law, an uncle, my husband, and me); and since we’re also working full-time, we only are able to get the work done on the weekends. Of course, that also means we’re working a full 7 days per week. That, combined with the lack of privacy we have at his parents house has taken a toll on our marriage. There’s just no time to “be”, ya know?

    It also doesn’t help that we lost a baby (our first) in January. It has been a struggle in and of itself, but to have to deal with our grief in the daily presence of his parents has been hard.
    One of my best friends just delivered her baby 10 weeks early and I’m so worried for them. Does anyone have any advice on how I can support them from afar (we don’t live in the same state), and help them through the next 7-8 weeks that the baby will have to be in the hospital?
    My husband is a consultant, and his job is ending on Thursday. As of right now, nothing else has manifested for his next position. I have all of my fingers crossed that SOMETHING comes through this week.

    5. This spring, I’m just hoping that we can MOVE! It will be so nice to finally have our own space again. And, it will be the final payoff for the hard work we’ve put into the home since the first of December. I have this feeling that, like the seasons changing, we’re just on the edge. Like, if we just lean a little further, we’ll fall into a place that feels right. So much of our lives right now just doesn’t feel secure. I’m hoping that spring brings us comfort.

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    • LisforLeslie March 26, 2018, 3:19 pm

      Anything that involves fried cheese is awesome.
      I love me some Catherine O’Hara
      For your friends – depending on how much you want to spend:

      1. Travel sizes of luxury brands that they can use when they stay at the hospital overnight.
      2. Food gift to the NICU nurses station for taking good care of the small human
      3. Private chef to make meals for them once a week for a defined time period. Chefs will deliver fully made or come to their kitchen with groceries.

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  • Lurking9to5 March 26, 2018, 1:36 pm

    Hello! Longtime lurker here. Thought I would join in on the fun. 🙂

    No major trips or plans for spring break. We are current renovating our “vacation home,” so that takes up the weekends, but its going to be amazeballs when it’s done and we can enjoy it for the summer!

    No sure if anyone saw it, but the miniseries about Waco was awesome. My 12 year old son was obsessed and hated having to wait a week for the next episode. LOL. I also love 911, Designated Survivor, and of course, This is Us.

    My biggest accomplishment was becoming a Realtor. I had to take the class, study, take the exams, and sign on with an agency all while juggling a 10-11 hour/day full time job, selling Scentsy, and taking care of my son on my own since my husband is out of state M-F. I am now busting my butt trying to get my name out there so I can quit said full-time job where I am absolutely miserable, and be able to help people find their perfect home (or sells theirs). It’s not easy since I have only been living in the state for a little less than 2 years and still getting used to the area. But I have been wanting to become a Realtor for so such a long time, I decided it was time to stop being so unhappy in my career and do something about it. I’m proud of everything I have done to even get this far.

    Such a big worry for me mirrors the same for a lot of people here. Our political climate. Its so hard to be upbeat with the state of our country when things are in such turmoil and it just seems to get worse everyday. I am outnumbered among my friends and family where I am not a supporter, and I just don’t understand why anyone does support that piece of garbage, especially people that I love so much. I’m so tired of gun lovers worrying so much about keeping their precious gun and so against gun control. Why do they keep insisting that we want to take ALL guns? I don’t, but I also don’t feel that certain guns are not necessary for civilians and want to make it harder to get guns in general. If they are good, upstanding citizens, why worry so much about what you have to do to get one? I am a gun owner, but I am all for better control if it means keeping mine and other children safe. I just can’t wrap my head around why anyone, especially parents, are fighting against it. And then to mock the kids that live it and are trying to make a change. I just can’t.

    And finally, on a brighter note, I am so looking forward to another summer in Virginia at our “home” on the Rivah. Water slides, golf cart, and lake fun awaits!

    Hope y’all have a wonderful Spring!

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    • Lucidity March 26, 2018, 6:47 pm

      Congrats on becoming a realtor. So many people stay stuck in jobs they detest. It’s truly admirable that you’re doing something about it. Best wishes!

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      • Lurking9to5 March 26, 2018, 8:14 pm

        Why thank you so much! It’s tough, but I’m ready to rock it! 🙂

  • courtney89 March 26, 2018, 2:43 pm

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you I’m heading on a birthday trip next weekend to San Francisco! First time in NorCal and looking forward to checking it out.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share?
    I’m late on this, but i’ve really gotten into the Crown !

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?
    Worked my way up the legal field ladder and am finally a paralegal. Feels good!

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days?
    Political worries, obviously.
    On a my own personal level, trying to figure out where i want my life going..I’m turning 29 in a week and I am not where i thought i would be a year before THIRTY and it’s just kind of freaking me out.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this Spring?
    Trips, concerts, fun stuff planned!

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  • Nico March 26, 2018, 3:21 pm

    HI Hi DW’ers! 🙂

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? Next week I’ll be in NYC visiting my bff and meeting her baby girl! 🙂

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share? It’s not new, but the book “Pioneer Girl” breaks down what was real and shows photos and maps of the Little House on the Prairie books/family! I am loving it so so much since I loved the LHOTP series as a girl!

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about? Officially down 14 pounds in 6 weeks! I am so happy! hard work pays off!

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days? Have another 15 to loose, so want to stay the course and keep being healthier! Also a work/life balance is always something I am working on!

    5. What are you most looking forward to this spring? I’ve had Plantars Faciatus for almost 2 years, and i’ve finally recovered, so I’ve begun running again, and I live in Chicago so I can’t wait to run on the lakefront path again! Hopefully I keep making progress and am able to do so! 🙂

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    • K March 27, 2018, 11:22 am

      Congrats on the weight loss, that’s great!

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  • Anonymous March 26, 2018, 3:55 pm

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? We are moving in less than a month, so happily staying home and doing our favorite things “one more time” over the next couple weeks.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share? I really want to like the new show “Good Girls”, so far it’s kind of meh for me. Looking forward to checking out what everyone else is loving these days.

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about? I’m two weeks away from making it to a year breastfeeding my daughter! It feels like a hard achievement to celebrate since people are so passionate/sensitive about the subject. It was not easy in the beginning, but I’m glad we stuck it out. It was right for us. I can’t wait to ditch that pump though.

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days? Moving in less than a month and having nowhere to live yet. We put an offer in on a house, but negotiations are not going so well. My husband had surgery in January and the surgeon thinks he should have improved more than he has which could be a problem considering this is a big deal promotion for him. We’re going from a big city suburb to a very small and much more rural city. I work from home, so I’m worried about finding my people.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this spring? Celebrating my baby’s first birthday and the multi-state drive to our new house! It’ll be interesting with a 3 year old and 1 year old, but they’re generally good in the car.

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  • Betsy in VA March 26, 2018, 4:02 pm

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? Happily staying home! We move in less than a month so we are busy doing our favorite things one more time.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share? I really want to like the new show “Good Girls”, but I think it’s meh so far. Looking forward to trying out some recommendations here.

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about? Two weeks away from making it to a year breastfeeding my youngest daughter. It was SO hard in the beginning, but I’m glad we stuck it out. I’m really looking forward to ditching the pump, though.

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days? Moving in less than a month and having no place to live yet, we’ve put an offer in on two houses so far and negotiating has not gone well. My husband had surgery in January and isn’t doing as well as his surgeon thinks he should be, which is not great considering this move is a big time promotion for him. I work from home and am an introvert, so I’m worried about finding my people when we move.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this spring? The 20 hour, multi-state drive to our new city! We’ll see how it goes with a 3-year-old and a 1-year-old, but they’re experienced road trippers so I think they’ll do ok.

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  • veritek33 March 26, 2018, 4:24 pm

    1. I just got back from a mini vacation with Manfriend of Veritek to KC. We threw axes, ate lots of BBQ and pasta, visited breweries, toured an urban winery, visited the art museum and stayed at a historically haunted hotel. It was awesome. For Easter, my parents are meeting him for the first time Saturday night and then I’m hosting brunch the next day to celebrate everyone’s health! (My dad has been hospitalized the past two years in a row on Easter, so knock on wood.)

    2. I binged the Santa Clarita diet yesterday and loved it as expected. I also finally bought myself a pair of emerald tieks and I love them and so many people compliment me on them.
    3. I’ve survived the first 6 months at my new job! It doesn’t sound like much, but I took over for someone that had been with the company for 10 years and was indispensable, started during the busiest time of the year, and completely changed industries. My boss wrote me a nice email last week telling me she knows it was really hard to have the biggest three events of the year back to back it was a tough way to learn, but she appreciated my grace and level head during any hiccups and appreciated all my hard work. She doesn’t hand out compliments very often, so I nearly cried when I read my email. It was nice to know she was recognizing my hard work.

    I also managed to finish my first class going back to school for a second bachelor’s degree during all this busy time. Got a B, so I’ll take it!

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days? – my challenges are my health. I’ve gained back some of the weight I fought so hard to lose due to stress and eating my feelings. So the roommate and I are doing a Whole 30 after Easter to reset and I’ve recommitted to my health goals. I want to feel better and this is the only way!
    5. What are you most looking forward to this spring? Warm weather and learning more at work. And a trip to France!

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  • Copa March 26, 2018, 4:54 pm

    1. My dad is coming to visit! It won’t be anything too exciting (we don’t do anything big for Easter), but I anticipate there’ll be some good meals. I use my dad as my sounding board with work-related stuff, so it’s actually a very opportune time for him to visit.

    2. I’ve been binge watching Criminal Minds on Netflix. It’s not new, but I enjoy it.

    3. We’re having some pretty big shake-ups at work. I wrote about one of them in the forums last week looking for advice, and another bomb was dropped today. The first shake-up means good things for me — I talked to my boss today about moving into a new role that I’m excited about. It’s more in line with my strengths as an employee and I think I will be more fulfilled while having more room for long-term growth, which is great because I do hope to stay at this company for awhile. The second shake-up makes the timeline of when I can transition a bit trickier, but I’m hopeful it’ll be sooner rather than later. It’s a bit hard knowing that good things are happening to me while bad things are happening to co-workers.

    4. The shake-ups at work look like they mean good things for me, but they have me a bit on edge. The second shake-up means I’ll be taking on a bit more work on an interim basis, and work was already pretty busy for me. Per usual, I’m worried about things like money and my love life. I’ve been trying to count my macros lately, and was doing a great job until work started getting hectic, and now I’m feeling like there’s never enough time to do everything well and the things that have to give are usually the ones that I do to practice self-care.

    5. Warm weather and sunshine! This winter has been long and brutal.

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  • Ange March 26, 2018, 5:51 pm

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you just got back from a vacation, where did you go?)

    My husband is coming to visit me and hang out with the cats. We’re experiencing some rather extreme weather here off the back of a cyclone so I hope to god his plane is able to come in tomorrow.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share?

    I just binged Santa Clarita Diet as well and really enjoyed the second season. I wasn’t sure about it originally, I got three or four episodes in season 1 and couldn’t stand Drew Barrymore’s performance but I read she got better (and she totally did) so I watched the rest in one day/night. I’m on the Olyphant train.

    Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping is a totally silly Andy Samberg movie that just dropped on our Netflix and it’s super funny if you want a brainless laugh.

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about?

    I just got through a semester working 6 days a week, traveling a thousand miles a week and I smashed it.

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days?

    Thanks to all the aforementioned traveling I need a new car. I think that’s what my easter break is going to be. I was hoping to get one more year out of the old girl as I’m paying off my invisalign but here we are.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this spring?

    Well it’s autumn here but considering I live in the tropics I’m looking forward to it cooling down a little into light cardigan winter.

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  • anonymousse March 26, 2018, 7:07 pm

    That’s a really beautiful way to remember her. I love that.

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  • TheLadyE March 26, 2018, 9:51 pm

    Hi Wendy! I didn’t have time to do this until now. 🙂

    1. Are you going anywhere for Spring Break/ Easter/ Passover? (Or, if you just got back from a vacation, where did you go?) I’m staying home and going to church on my own. My parents were going to visit last weekend for spring break but they got snowed in in Pennsylvania. Ah well.

    2. Any new discoveries (TV shows, websites, books, recipes or products) you want to share? I started watching Bull this year and I really like it! Also The Resident is very good too. Today, this very day, I started Weight Watchers (want to lose 20lbs) and so I’m thinking up a bunch of recipes for the coming weeks, like chimichurri shrimp with dirty rice and asparagus, three-bean fajitas with guac, and Greek salad with blackened salmon. We’ll see how we go!

    3. Any accomplishment you want to brag about? I actually got a promotion too, back in January! Well, I got a new job and with that came a promotion and a pretty large raise. I’ve been at the company 2 months now and I think I’m doing well.

    Also, perhaps even more significantly, my little dog turns 10 tomorrow! I got her at 8 weeks old when I was 25 and I had NO IDEA what I was doing. Now, she is a very happy and extremely healthy little middle-aged lady (she’s 6lbs, so she’ll live a very long time) and she is just the best. I love her so much!

    4. What are your challenges or worries these days? I worry about my dog’s health now that she’s getting older, even though she’s perfectly healthy. I also keep worrying that my company is going to be like LOL JK and fire me, even though there’s no indication of that. I continue to struggle with my depression and sometimes it makes it difficult to get out of bed, especially with the pressure at work even though I seem to be doing fine.

    My biggest challenge, honestly, is finding time to do everything: work, comedy, being with my dog, working out, meal prep, friendships, cleaning. I honestly don’t know how I would manage a relationship right now.

    5. What are you most looking forward to this spring? I’m looking forward to the weather warming up so I can get outside more! I LOVE spring. Also, I’m doing more comedy in the future so that should be fun too.

    Thanks for sharing some of your life with us, Wendy – and asking us to share ours!

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    • K March 27, 2018, 11:41 am

      Good luck with Weight Watchers! I lost 20 lbs with it 6 years ago, then gained it back plus more. I went back on WW almost 2 years or so ago, and I’ve been losing a few pounds and then gaining a few pounds for the past year or two. It works as long as you follow it. Getting off track is my problem – like earlier this month I went on vacation, and then haven’t gotten back on track yet.

      You may already be familiar with these recipe websites, but in case you aren’t, Skinnytaste, Slender Kitchen, and Emily Bites all have great Weight Watchers recipes. It’s also awesome that chicken/turkey breast, 99% lean ground turkey, fish, seafood, corn, beans, lentils, and eggs are all 0 points on the new WW Freestyle plan. Skinnytaste has a great 3 bean turkey chili recipe and it’s 0 points!

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      • TheLadyE March 27, 2018, 11:54 am

        Thank you! I’m doing it with a friend at work and we’re both really committed. I only need to lose about 20 lbs but I’m just so sick of feeling crappy about how I look. It is amazing with how many things are free or low points! I’ve only been on it for one day but looking at the things I had been eating – and, in particular, drinking (ugh) – no wonder I haven’t been losing weight. I’m cutting wayyy back on drinking, too, so we’ll see how that goes.

      • K March 28, 2018, 9:36 am

        That’s good you’re doing it with a friend because you can hold each other accountable and share meal ideas, etc.! I follow some WW Instagram accounts for meal ideas and inspiration – some of these women have lost over 100 lbs! I always think well, 20-25 lbs can’t be that hard compared to 100!

  • Portia March 27, 2018, 12:39 pm

    1. I missed this yesterday because I was on my way back from a South American beach vacation! It was nice and mostly relaxing, but I did get a sunburn. I wasn’t planning to go anywhere for Passover/Easter, but my Grandpa died so I’m headed to the funeral later this week. He hadn’t been in great health for years (multiple types of cancer, just had a stroke) and he went in his sleep. At least my work is very flexible and understanding.

    2. I have a lot of podcasts and shows, so I usually don’t seek out a lot of new things. But I did start watching a Netflix documentary series recently called Dirty Money, which is about corporate corruption (predatory payday loans, pharma, maple syrup). I’d heard a little about some of these stories in the news, but they tell the whole story and they all end up more bizarre than I’d imagined.

    3. We had the niece and nephew over for a sleepover and they both made it through the night! Last time they didn’t make the night, so I’d call this a success. And my Etsy shop has been doing better this year so far than last, so I’m pretty happy about that. I got some big custom orders, which was both exciting and a little scary.

    4. My one worry is a neighbor trying to build right behind our new house. Hopefully the city stops them, but the whole process has just been so stressful and I want it to be over…

    5. I’m so excited for my yard! I’m going to plant some flowers once it warms up a little more – this is my first year with a yard (no matter how tiny) to do that! 🙂

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