Tuesday’s column, about the woman who was preemptively disappointed about how her first wedding anniversary would be celebrated, got me thinking about the ways we celebrate important relationship milestones. Actually, I’d already been thinking about this topic a little bit because this summer Drew and I will celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary and we’ve started talking about what we want to do to mark the occasion. While he and I were on our little weekend getaway a couple weeks ago, I had an idea:
I suggested we take the actual anniversary day off (it’s a Wednesday this year), get an overnight sitter for our kids who can pick them up from camp and drop them off again the next morning, and then get a swanky hotel room and spend two full days and one night in Manhattan, which is something we haven’t done since before we had kids. Sure, we’ve had some weekend getaways, but they’ve always been outside the city, and we’ve had some dates in Manhattan, but we have not had an actual staycation in the city where we’ve been able to just wander around and be spontaneous and go to a museum or two or sit in the park or pop into a little jazz bar or day drink or do any of the things that are typically more …let’s say stress-free without little kids in tow. And since we got engaged and married in Central Park and since “NYC” was the sort of unofficial theme of our wedding, it seems appropriate to spend our tenth wedding anniversary in the heart of Manhattan, enjoying its many amenities.
In addition to our wedding anniversary, we also always celebrate the anniversary of our blind date, which is May 5th and will mark 13 years together this year! We don’t have a tradition for this celebration, and we don’t necessarily always celebrate it on the day of, depending on the day of the week it falls. This year it’s a Sunday, so we’ll probably go out the night before because, as Drew explained to Jackson last night when he asked why we like to go out on Saturday nights as opposed to, say, Sunday nights: there’s just an energy in the air that’s way more fun on a Saturday. (But, bringing this back to Tuesday’s column again: if Sunday were the only day we had an available babysitter, dudes, that the day we’d go out and we’d make it work! Even if nothing were open! We’d bring a picnic to the park and revel in quiet time alone with each other and that would be fun energy enough!)
Anyway, if you’re in a relationship, how do you celebrate anniversaries? Or maybe you don’t? Do you have traditions you stick to every year or do you like to mix it up? If you’ve celebrated a milestone anniversary (10 years, 15, 20, etc.), did you do anything extra special for the occasion? If you have kids, did/do you involve them?