It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss the cost of weddings, ending a marriage, and labeling a relationship.
A wedding doesn’t have to cost more than a few hundred bucks if you’re on a budget. And if you can’t talk to your fiancé about money, you aren’t ready to marry him, end of story. Postpone your nuptials until you’re mature enough to communicate like a grownup and live within your means.
Last month we had a very bad argument and we were both very angry. He told me that he didn’t love me and wanted a divorce. I told him to file the papers. The next morning he apologized and said that he only said those things out of anger. In my opinion, you never tell someone that you don’t love them “out of anger.” That cut deep and I have not had the desire to make it work. I feel, more now than I ever have, that maybe this relationship was never meant to be, but I feel the need to hear another person’s opinion that it’s over. — 12 Year Itch
Quit being so incredibly lazy and create the life you want rather than passively waiting for it to happen to you. If you want to work on your marriage, plan some dates and spend some quality time with your husband. If you’re over it and don’t even want to try, then YOU file the divorce papers and MOA.
You’ve been dating a year, met friends and family, “do things any couple would do,” and have even expressed love for each other? Congrats, you’re in a relationship. If you want your boyfriend to call you his girlfriend, just tell him so already, geez.
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