Did you guys see “American Idol” last night? I didn’t, but when I heard the buzz this morning about Chris Medina, I found his audition clip on YouTube to see what everyone was talking about. Chris was there with his fiancée, Juliana, a woman he’d been with for eight years and engaged to for over two years. They were supposed to be married by now, but in October 2009, Juliana suffered a traumatic brain injury in an accident. “I was about to make vows just two months from the accident. ‘Through thick and thin, til death do us part. In sickness and in health, ’til death do us part.’ What kind of guy would I be if I walked out when she needed me most?'”
Chris and Juliana aren’t married, but he calls her his fiancé and wears her ring on a chain around his neck. He and her mother are her caregivers. He’s wonderful for sticking with her. But, you have to wonder: does he plan to stay with her forever? I know he wonders what kind of guy he’d be if he “walked out” now, but it’s hard to imagine a 26 year-old man with his whole life ahead of him committing to a woman who’s no longer the woman he once proposed to — who can’t love him they way he probably wants and needs to be loved — especially when he didn’t actually take those marriage vows.
I’m not really going to say whether he “should” marry her or not. But, it’s an interesting thing to think about. What would you do if it were you? What would you want your partner to do if you were the one who, God forbid, suffered a similar injury? I’m inclined to think I would want Drew to move on eventually — maybe not necessarily “walk out,” but to find someone else to love and share his life with. I don’t know how that would work exactly. Hopefully that’s something we’ll never have to figure out.
At any rate, that Chris Medina is one special guy. I hope he goes far in the competition and I hope good, good things continue to happen for him.