I have been in a relationship with a boyfriend for about three months. I’m a very independent person currently in the final four months of my degree. I am not a needy or clingy person and find it hard to understand those who are. My boyfriend, as lovely as he is, has had his fair share of difficult woman.
Anyway, here are my problems with him:
1. He hardly listens to me. I don’t talk in great quantities and when he asks me a question he reverts it back to him and then goes on about whatever obsession he has going on in his OCD brain. I don’t mind it when he rants away but I do mind when he then asks me the same damn question again. This can go on for about five to seven repetitions of the same question. I try to be patient but it does annoy me that he won’t listen to me.
2. He brings his laptop into the bedroom — not to watch porn either but to go onto eBay. I have asked him quietly not to as it annoys me since the bedroom is for sleep and intimate moments. Not Shopping!!! I’ll make a lot of effort to wear a sexy nightie or whatever and then he’ll ignore me! Each time I tell him I’m angry, it takes about seven times before it vaguely goes in.
3. I’m not a demanding person and I like my space but he pulls a quilt trip on me when I want to stay at my house instead of with him. This wouldn’t be a problem except we don’t spend time together when I’m at his place as he is either obsessing over his laptop or doing something that he just shouldn’t be doing with other people in the house!
His self-centeredness is driving me nuts. I am so tired of the bloke messing me around and I am so bored of being what feels like a spare part in this relationship! Yes, I am jealous of the time he spends on his goddamn laptop and, yes, I have considered smashing the damn thing! — Laptop Jealousy
Three months together and you’re already feeling like a spare part in this relationship? Three months together and your boyfriend would rather shop on eBay than turn his attention to you in a sexy nightie? Oh, hon, no. MOA. I’ve had relationships with gym socks that sound more stimulating than what you’ve got going on with your boyfriend.
Three months is a honeymoon period. If you’re having multiple problems in the first six months of a relationship due to personality clashes, disparate interests or schedule conflicts, there’s no point in trying to salvage things. Just MOA and find a better match.
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