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My boyfriend of one year and I are both recently graduated twentysomethings living at home like true millennials. While this has caused a few bumps in our love life, his mother is very open and liberal and she allows me to spend the night at their house with him. Usually his mother gives us plenty of space, except for insisting on making us coffee and breakfast some mornings. The other day as we were being intimate, his mother called him on his cellphone. She often calls even when she knows we’re in the house so as not to barge in. This time, he answered the phone and continued to have sex with me as he talked to her. I was livid and disturbed, not to mention feeling cheap in a very Oedipal way. We talked it over at length and he recognized that it was inappropriate and immature, and he apologized. But I can’t help feeling that this should send a self-respecting young woman packing and running. Am I overreacting?—Don’t Answer
You can read Prudie’s reply here. My response would be similar, but I’d also suggest that one or both of these twentysomethings find an apartment of their own. I mean, if privacy and personal boundaries are so important that you can’t even stand it when the person who owns the home you’re shagging in insists on making you coffee and breakfast in the morning — oh, the horror! — perhaps it’s time to figure out a new living arrangement. And if you simply can’t afford it? Stop looking a gift horse in the mouth and accept that there are certain sacrifices you make by living for free at your parents’ place, like being force-fed free breakfast and coffee in the mornings. And having your coitus interrupted by phone calls … unless, of course, you just turn the phone off.
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