Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Introducing LemonVibe

For those of you with an insatiable appetite for all things relationship advice-related, “His Take” contributor and guest columnist, Dennis Hong, has created a brand new advice site called LemonVibe that just may meet your needs. Designed for people with pressing relationship issues, and a pressing desire to comment on other people’s relationship issues, LemonVibe is a site to get and give immediate advice on the problems that pop up in all kinds of interpersonal relationships. Here’s Dennis to explain what the site is all about.

First off, what is LemonVibe?

At its core, LemonVibe is a relationship advice site, but with several unique twists that you won’t find anywhere else on the internet. For instance:

1. We “crowdsource” advice, so letter writers can get immediate feedback from people just like them.

2. Letter writers can submit questions and interact with the community, all while remaining completely anonymous.

3. People can rate each other’s advice in three different categories, and the most helpful individuals are recognized in each of these categories.

What exactly is crowdsourcing?

This is the idea that large groups of people working together can come up with solutions that individual people cannot. With all due respect to the wonderful advice columnists out there (our favorite one of whose name rhymes with “Mendy Schmatterberry”), I believe that questions on dating and relationships are sometimes just too complex for any one person to have all the answers. So, our goal is to offer advice seekers as many perspectives as possible and let them decide for themselves what works.

In essence, we’re completing what I call the Dating Lifeline Triumvirate. When you need advice, you can first talk to your friends (“phone a friend”). If you want more help, you can write to Dear Wendy (“ask the expert”). And if you still want more help after that, you can ask everyone at LemonVibe (“poll the audience”)!

And yes, in some respects, LemonVibe is similar to “Your Turn.” But that’s why we have several more cool features up our virtual sleeve….

Such as anonymous submissions?

Yup! After all, you might not always want your personal issues blasted for the world to read. At the same time, it’s a hassle to have to create a dummy account just to write a letter, or to respond to any questions that your letter stirs up.

So, not only do we allow you to submit letters anonymously, we also give you the option to post any follow-up comments anonymously, as well. This way, you can participate in the subsequent discussion and never give your identity away!

Alright, now tell me about this rating system.

At LemonVibe, every comment can be rated on three separate criteria:

1. Is it helpful?

2. Is it funny?

3. Is it blunt (but necessary)?

Simply put, we don’t always need the same type of advice. Sometimes we need sympathy, sometimes we need a laugh, and sometimes we need a swift kick in the behind. Well, LemonVibe offers all three, and you can easily sort and view only the ones that suit your needs!

And how are people recognized for being helpful?

Personally, I think it’s awesome that Dear Wendy readers give advice out of the goodness of their hearts, but I also believe that the way we encourage people to be thoughtful is through positive recognition. That’s why we have our Community Experts panel, where we feature those individuals who consistently give the best-rated advice.

As you can see then, LemonVibe is specifically designed to stimulate meaningful discussions and recognize upstanding members. Our goal is to create a community, yet allow everyone to maintain their privacy.

So how do you participate at LemonVibe?

It’s easy:

1. If you’re looking for advice, you post a “blurb,” which can be a question on dating and relationships, a general topic you want to discuss, or even a snippet from an online dating profile that you want feedback on.

2. If you want to offer your own insights, you comment on the blurbs that other members post.

3. Or, if you prefer to be more of a silent participant, you can rate the blurbs and comments of

That’s it!

Anything else we should know about LemonVibe?

Stick around for a while, and maybe you’ll become one of our Community Experts! Check us out
at www.lemonvibe.com/.



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    Lili March 14, 2012, 1:21 pm

    Just registered! Cool Idea Dennis 🙂 I’m excited to see it in action.

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  • Addie Pray March 14, 2012, 1:33 pm

    Oh no. I’m not sure I need another work distraction. … Yes I do. I’m registered! Really cool website, Dennis.

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  • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 1:09 pm

    Thanks, Wendy!

    And… FIRST.

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  • EricaSwagger March 14, 2012, 1:36 pm

    I really like LemonVibe, I’ve been browsing for a couple of weeks already!
    It’s a great as an addition to DW because every question has a chance to be answered. I hope a lot of DW readers check it out!

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  • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 1:44 pm

    Hey, thanks, everyone!

    Yessss…. let LemonVibe be your crack….

    But seriously, please let me know if you have any questions or suggestions. The site is still under construction, so we plan to unveil tons of awesome features over the next few months!

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    • Addie Pray March 14, 2012, 2:30 pm

      You could post cute pictures of babies from time to time … I’ll want to see those. Oh and you could start an Alphabet Series – I love reading those. And Short Cuts is a cool feature too. … Just me thinking outside the box on all the clever things you could do.

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      Budj March 14, 2012, 2:35 pm

      Avoid cute baby pictures and I will sign up.

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      • Addie Pray March 14, 2012, 2:40 pm

        What are you saying, you want to have babies with me? Oy vey, enough with the babies already. I’m blushing.

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    landygirl March 14, 2012, 2:54 pm

    Is it just me or is the majority of the page empty for anyone else? I see the profiles and that’s all.

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    • EricaSwagger March 14, 2012, 3:42 pm

      Must be your internet? I use Chrome and I can see everything fine :/

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    • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 3:43 pm

      Uh oh. What browser are you using? Because of the complex nature of our rating system, we use some pretty advanced code that may not work on some older browsers. It should work just fine on Chrome, Firefox, Safari, and newer versions of Internet Explorer.

      Sorry, I hope that helps.

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        Budj March 14, 2012, 3:53 pm

        Windows 7 was just installed on my work computer and I see a blank screen too…I’ll try to check it out when I get home.

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        landygirl March 14, 2012, 4:22 pm

        Yup, that’s what I have. I’ll try from home later.

      • Addie Pray March 14, 2012, 4:31 pm

        But it really needs to run from work so we can do it at work because that is the perfect time to be focusing on relationship advice. I got a blank screen too.

      • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 4:42 pm

        Hmmm, good point. Okay, I’ll ask my programmer if there’s any way we can make it backwards compatible with IE8. WIsh me luck….

      • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 4:09 pm

        Ugh, okay. Thanks for the heads up. I’ll report that to my programmer. Are you running IE then?

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        Budj March 14, 2012, 4:11 pm

        yep. I have IE8.

      • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 4:11 pm

        Hmmm, if it’s a work computer, could it be your firewall or antivirus program? The site uses a ton of Javascript, and I’ve been told that some antivirus programs don’t like Javascript.

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        Budj March 14, 2012, 4:15 pm

        Maybe… typically I get an error window though…my internet blows up when my firewall doesn’t like something…like whenever Wendy posts a link to a video and it goes above and beyond rejecting the software install and just locks up my computer instead.

      • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 4:36 pm

        Okay, yeah, it’s IE8. My programmer friend would know the specific answer, but in a nutshell, IE8 is simply too primitive to handle all the advanced code that was needed for our rating system. I guess that’s what happens when you try to create something that’s never really been done before. Sorry.

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        Budj March 14, 2012, 4:37 pm

        noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo I feel like I’m missing out on a once in a life time relationship advice site opportunity!

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        Lili March 14, 2012, 4:42 pm

        Well, you are missing out on my awesome gravatar. I actually put up a real pic of me. I am shy online otherwise! I’ll probably take it down once I think I can be ‘found’ so this is totally a once in a lifetime shot 😉

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        Budj March 14, 2012, 4:45 pm

        you tease.

      • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 4:50 pm

        Hey Lili, I replied to your comment on the “Will it be different” thread, but I figure I’ll repost it here just in case:

        Comments can only be rated for seven days. The reason we did this is because we didn’t want someone who developed a grudge against another person to be able to go through the other person’s entire commenting history and destroy their overall ratings.

        So yeah, you couldn’t rate that comment because it was posted more than seven days ago.

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        Lili March 14, 2012, 5:04 pm

        Thanks Dennis! God I have to say I feel like a advice column comment slut. Going from one site to the other, even having multiple tabs open. Oh I’m so brazen 😉

  • Catherine March 14, 2012, 4:28 pm

    Loving it! I’m not in the market to ask for advice right now… but I sort of have a weird obsession with hearing about other people’s problems. Sounds perfect for me. (Maybe too perfect…and I’ll need help soon..?)

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  • Dennis Hong March 14, 2012, 7:25 pm

    Alrighty. In response to the issues about Internet Explorer, if you’re running 8 or below, you should now be able to browse the site at least. Hope that helps!

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    • Addie Pray March 15, 2012, 9:05 am

      I’ve posted two comments. Am I a Community Expert yet????

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    • Dennis Hong March 15, 2012, 10:31 am

      Well, my programmer does take bribes (usually in the form of scotch). He could probably take care of that for you….

      But seriously, one of the features we’re implementing right now is All-Time and Recent (past 30 days) Community Experts. This way, new members have a chance to get up on the board, and veterans can’t just rack up their score, then decide to turn into trolls.

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  • TheOtherMe March 15, 2012, 11:04 am

    Way to go Dennis 🙂

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    • Addie Pray March 15, 2012, 11:18 am

      It’s so refreshing to see you back here. I’m going to stalk the comment bar and be sure to reply to each of your comments every time I see you’ve commented. Because stalkerish replies encourage people to keep on commenting, right? Right.

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