She is going to Vegas for a bachelorette party with her sister (31) who is completely narcissistic and influential on Theresa. There will be four of them, including Theresa’s best friend, who is very, very tight and married.
Theresa went to a sex shop in the Manhattan last week to bring things to Vegas and, I am not embellishing — I swear she got condoms. Over the last few months I have heard talk of male strip clubs, dancing, grinding, and letting a guy c_m on her thigh. She seems to bring up Vegas a lot. She loves the place and has been there 30 times (and is only 35, remember).
The other day I asked if her sister would cheat in Vegas, and she said “no, she is too much of a ‘pussy’.” That statement said a lot to me.
My mind is racing; I think something is rotten in Denmark. I have even gotten to the point
where I have called private investigators to keep on eye on her and checked into rates. Very expensive, and I am not sure I want to go that route due to what I will find out.
Your thoughts are appreciated. Am I way off base? Should I hire someone just so I will know for sure? What exactly constitutes cheating at a bachlorette party? I have my thoughts. Why the condoms? I am really going thru a lot of anxiety. They will be there for a week, which is a fair amount of time to spend in Sin City. — Considering a Private Eye
Let’s go through your points, one by one, shall we? First, the condoms I can see being “decoration” at a bachelorette party, or being fashioned into some cheesy headdress that the bride “gets” to wear all night. Talk of male strippers and dancing? Eh, that’s no reason to suspect cheating. I mean, dancing? Really? A woman can dance in a club without cheating on her boyfriend, for christ’s sake. The “grinding” thing is a little weird, though. Does she mean grinding against her girlfriends like college girls do to get attention from guys? Or does she mean grinding against other men? Either way, weird.
And then there’s the comment about letting a guy c*m on her thigh. Come again? Did she really say that? Was she trying to be funny? Wait, strike that. It’s not funny. You just don’t say something like that to your boyfriend! Like, ever.
Finally, that you’re considering a hiring a private investigator after a mere seven months together speaks volumes. Really, I don’t think we need to even address the rest of your points — although the one about her friend being “very, very tight” is curious… — this is a case of MOA if ever there was one. Get out now while you have a shred of dignity left.
Now, quick, someone go find Bitter_Gay_Mark and tell him that women aren’t the only ones who date people who clearly have no respect for them.
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