Well, it’s easy to understand why this revelation is something he didn’t share with you for such a long time, but have you thought about why he did finally tell you about his history with hookers? My guess is he loves you and wants to know you love him and accept him wholeheartedly. One of the ways we gauge others’ acceptance of us is when we share — either purposefully or not — what we consider our darker sides or the things about ourselves we’re most ashamed of. If we show each other those parts of ourselves and we’re accepted anyway? Well, that’s a wonderful feeling. It’s certainly worth making ourselves vulnerable.
So, I wouldn’t necessarily see your boyfriend’s revelation as a red flag, ALL, particularly if he is a respectful, sensitive guy you’ve grown to trust in the year you’ve been with him. I would see this, instead, as an opportunity for discussion and a chance to grow closer together. If his admission unsettles you, talk to him about it. Tell him you’re happy he trusted you enough to open up, but that you aren’t sure exactly how the information makes you feel. Give him a chance to explain himself. And give yourself the opportunity to ask the questions you’ve probably been silently mulling over. The answers to those questions will help you decide whether your boyfriend’s past is going to stand in the way of a future together.
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