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I confronted him about the pictures, and he said “he didn’t know why” he took them. He disclosed that a year before his best friend and she got married, she drunkenly told him that it should’ve been him that she was with and not his friend. To my knowledge nothing has physically happened, but he admits that he moved out because they were getting married and it was “becoming more difficult to be around her and he would think about her a lot.” The attraction between them remains awkward, especially when I’m around because of how he looks at her.
I reached out to the girl initially when I was introduced to his group of friends, and I tried to establish a friendship with her as well, but she declined all invitations to hang out, and several months later the situation combusted in a night where I overheard her gossip about me to her friends and I went home crying. I suspect she doesn’t like me because she’s used to having my boyfriend give her all of his attention. I’m the first serious girlfriend he’s had in six years, and now since I found the pictures, it’s more uncomfortable to be around that group of people.
How would you handle this? — Lost and Found
I would MOA faster than you can say MOA.
The day of my surgical abortion, I wasn’t aware I couldn’t eat beforehand and so did so, after which I was told I had to wait for a few more hours, which made my boyfriend really angry at me. After the abortion, I had a hard time walking properly due to the anesthesia, and the first thing my boyfriend did was yell at me for having him wait for so long (he was afraid if getting scolded by his mother for staying out for too long). Angry, I got out of the car and took a bus home. When I felt better after a few days, I called to end it with him. He explained that he was under stress and I should have considered his feelings, and he didn’t feel like he should apologize for being an asshole. What should I do? — Troubled Over Boyfriend’s Behavior
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