relationship. I was thinking of sending him an e-mail and confessing the crush and ask if he is interested, but I truly value his friendship and know that it might be weird if he wasn’t interested. — The Second Cup?
Don’t “confess your crush.” You’re 56, not 14. Simply ask him out for some green tea, grilled tofu, and summertime stargazing and see if romance blossoms.
I know my boyfriend would never cheat on me, and the issue is not that I don’t trust him. I just think that being alone with a woman around his own age who is a complete stranger to him, and doing her an unnecessary favor, is disrespectful to me. The problem is, when I tried to explain that to him, he couldn’t see HOW it was disrespectful or why I was upset. Am I justified in being hurt by what he did, or am I stressing out about nothing? If how I feel is normal, how can I better explain to him why it was a problem? — Dating a Pick-Up Artist
If the young woman in question were in distress — like, if she were in labor or had just been mugged (or worse) or something like that — and your boyfriend agreed to drive her to the police or the hospital, I’d say he was a real gem. But it’s totally weird that he gave some able-bodied stranger lady a lift — out of his way — simply because she asked, like he’s some kind of taxi service! But unless he’s making a habit of this kind of behavior, simply express your discomfort, ask him to use better judgment in the future, ask him if he’d like it if you took a ride from a strange man in a gas station, and accept that in the grand scheme of things, this probably isn’t worth getting your panties in a bunch too much — especially if he was forthcoming about the incident and didn’t try to hide it from you.
Have a conversation with them — a conversation that should have been had before everyone moved out and stuck you with the utilities bill. Explain that you were not prepared to cover the bill for a 4-bedroom house all by yourself, that you never signed up for that, and that you would appreciate them all pitching in to cover at least a portion of what they would have paid had they lived there, if not all of what they would have owed.
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