I have told him it bothers me that he says he loves her and I think he has stopped?!? I am not a snoopy person, but every text he gets I feel it may be her. It’s always in the back of my mind — ALWAYS — and it’s driving me crazy!!! I tend to bring it up more then I should.
What if he asks me to marry him? Do I say yes but give him ultimatums? Do I say “not until you’re ready to give yourself fully”?? I need advice on what to say and quick before I ruin a good thing. — Preparing for a Proposal
How good of a thing is it if you’re constantly worried about your boyfriend’s relationship with his ex-wife, wondering every single time he gets a text if it’s her, worrying about whether he still loves her and is telling her so, and obsessing over what to say if he asks you to marry him? The time to tell him you’re unsatisfied in the relationship isn’t when he proposes; it’s now. And until you’re satisfied with him and aren’t feeling any more insecurity about the ex-wife and her role in your boyfriend’s life (and heart), the answer to any potential proposal should be “No.” Not “maybe,” not “yes, but first…,” not even, “I’m not sure.” The answer is “no” until you have no more doubts about him, your relationship, and his feelings towards his ex. If your boyfriend is still supporting his ex-wife and telling her he loves her, something’s not right. You deserve to know what the deal is, and until your boyfriend can convince you he’s moved on, you should not move forward with him.
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