I hear myself making the same claims that other women make: when it’s good, it’s good! And 98 percent of the time, it’s good (minus the hygiene issue), but when we argue, it turns ugly and the broken engagement comes up from him. Is this a case of MOA? How do you break it to someone nicely that they stink? I’ve tried everything: buying body wash that I compliment him on when he uses; getting him a new toothbrush and giving compliments when he uses it. I’m so confused! — I’m With Stinky
You are way beyond “breaking it to him nicely” that he stinks. Is he being nice to you when he skips showers? When he tries to kiss you with his foul breath? No. And you need to let him know that his terrible hygiene not only turns you off, but it has greatly damaged feelings of intimacy between you. In addition to better hygiene on his part, you need dates together. You need attention. You need to connect again. If you aren’t able to do that, not only should you put ideas of engagement on the back burner indefinitely, you should definitely seriously consider moving on already.