It sounds like you HAVE decided where to live. You want to stay exactly where you are, and you have good reasons to. What you can’t decide is whether you’re ready to let go of your marriage, and you think that, if you stay where you want to stay, your marriage will in all likelihood be over. And you’re probably right. But it might be over if you move, too. After all, you already think you’ll resent your husband for making you move. And you don’t enjoy his company as much as the people you’d be leaving behind. And you don’t really want to start over alone with him. In between the lines of all of that, I’m hearing you say that your marriage where it is now is, like, fine. It will do. But if you have to move and it is the main focus of your life because you have given up your family and friends and life where you are now, your marriage is not enough for you, even temporarily. And you are not interested in building a new life in a new place with your husband. Is that about right? If so, I think you already have your answer. Yes, you’re right — your husband will be very unhappy. But, will you?
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