Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

My Little Frog

Last Friday I became one of those new moms who cries in public out of sheer fatigue and frustration. It was Day 8 of Jackson’s cold, which hit a fevered pitch (no pun intended) overnight, and he’d been screaming nonstop for about 18 hours straight. I hadn’t slept in three days and nothing I did would calm Jackson down. We were both at the end of our ropes, so out of desperation, I bundled him up and took him out for a walk, despite his cold and despite the chilly temperature outside. At one point he actually quieted down for a five minute stretch and I thought I might be able to sit and get some rest at the nearby coffee shop. So, I hedged my bets and placed an order. The second the barista started ringing me up, Jack opened his little mouth and let out a scream to rival all screams. Everyone in the coffee shop started shooting me dirty looks.

“Uh, I’ll take that in a to-go cup,” I said over Jack’s wails.

“Already got one for you,” the barista said, avoiding eye contact.

And that’s when I burst into tears. I grabbed my tea and shuffled out of there, shushing Jack as I wiped away my own tears. And then I called Drew at work and had him talk me down from the ledge.

That was one of the bad moments.

But there are good moments, too. Lots of them. Like yesterday, when I gave Jack a bath and dressed him in his little frog-green onesie that my friend Chad gave him, and lay him on the bed to swaddle him and before I had a chance, he started doing all these Kung Fu moves. He was so cute, I wanted to gobble him all up. But I took photos instead and kissed his little feet and told him how happy I was he was feeling better.

Ok, I then I gobbled him. I mean, look at those cheeks; wouldn’t you?!

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  • Lianne November 2, 2011, 10:38 am

    LOVE these posts…as I tell my best friend who recently had a baby – You are an amazing mom and doing great!!

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  • silver_dragon_girl November 2, 2011, 10:41 am

    He’s so cute!!!! 🙂

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  • Just Max November 2, 2011, 10:53 am

    He is adorable!

    Wendy, thank you for sharing your thoughts on parenthood; like another commenter said in another post, you don’t try to pretend that all is perfect, and you talk about the good _and_ bad moments. I love these posts. 🙂

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  • Emsz November 2, 2011, 10:59 am

    He’s adorable 🙂

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  • callmehobo November 2, 2011, 11:00 am

    Jeeze, people need to get over themselves.
    Sometimes babies cry. Sometimes babies happen to be in public when they cry. It would be different, say if Jackson was eight and throwing a massive tantrum… but Jackson isn’t even six months old.

    If you need a hot tea and a brisk walk, do it. Don’t let them get to you, Wendy! I hope you and Jackson feel better soon.

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  • bittergaymark November 2, 2011, 11:02 am

    The good news is you will seriously forget all of this. No, I mean it. I just visited my sister and she and her husband seem to have totally blanked out how crazy stressed they were a year ago when my nephew refused to sleep and often flew off the handle into what she dubbed “Screaming Beet” mode — where he would get so angry, so fast, he would literally turn purple and scream and scream and scream.

    He could turn this on and off like a faucet, too. It was amazing. He’d stop wailing and INSTANTLY the red color would vanish and he’d be all giggly and smiley again…

    Now he is 13 months and pretty much giggly and happy all the time. He had only one breakdown in the six days I was at their house and it lasted all of five minutes in the car when he was out of milk… So, trust me, this, too, shall pass!

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    • JK November 2, 2011, 11:36 am

      My daughters turn into “red racoons”, they both go bright red around the eyes when they cry much. Even more so when they make a huge effort to cry and no tears come out.

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      • bittergaymark November 2, 2011, 1:00 pm

        Red Raccoons? Hilarious…

      • Sue Jones November 2, 2011, 8:13 pm

        My little boy was “Tomato Baby” when he would turn red and scream for hours at a stretch. the “witching hour” ( or 2 or 3 as the case may be…) It does pass. But if it goes on and on for weeks, I would look at what you are eating. Some babies are sensitive when mom eats certain foods. Dairy is a big culprit as well as broccoli, onions, garlic, chocolate, gluten, and tomatoes and peppers for some…. For my kid it was my vitamins, so I had to switch brands. Darn it that these things don’t come with an owner’s manual…

    • Beckaleigh November 2, 2011, 11:52 am

      You really do forget these things Wendy! Its only until you are on the fence about the next one that these sleepless nights come up again, haha.

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    • Skyblossom November 2, 2011, 1:19 pm

      I think things usually get better when the baby is somewhere between four to eight weeks old. The baby sleeps longer stretches at night and so you get more and better sleep and the baby starts grinning huge smiles at you and you find a routine that works for you and suddenly things are going well.

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    • Rhyanshae November 2, 2011, 11:41 pm

      My brother used to call my niece, Red Wire because she came out with a sassy temperment (and still has it) and would have these explosions like you’d just cut the wrong (red) wire on a bomb. She still occasionally gets that nickname and she’s 6 now.

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  • PFG-SCR November 2, 2011, 11:12 am

    We’ve all been there, Wendy. It’s funny that BGM made that last comment, because that’s what I told myself daily (“this too shall pass”) in those early months.

    I know I’ve shared with you that my third child was born early – and smaller sized – like Jackson, and your experience right now is very similar to mine. At about three weeks, he got a “cold” that never seemed to go away. He was constantly irritable and had a runny nose. Since I had two other children (both of whom were born in the winter), I had dealt with colds before, but my youngest’s “cold” was just different. The non-stop crying wasn’t something that the other two did when they had colds, even as newborns. My pediatrician gave me the standard, “Every baby is different” line, but after months of that, I switched pediatricians. He diagnosed my son with reflux…it was a new child within 24 hours after that.

    While I’m not saying that what Jackson is going through is anything more than a cold, you might want to read up on reflux in infants and see if he might be experiencing it. The most common symptoms include:

    – pain, irritability, constant or sudden crying, “colic”
    – frequent spitting-up or vomiting
    – vomiting or spitting-up more than one hour after eating
    – refusing food/pulling away at the breast and crying during nursing
    – poor sleep habits, frequent waking
    – “wet burp” or “wet hiccup” sounds

    The less common symptoms of pediatric GER include:

    – constant eating and drinking (to soothe a sore throat)
    – poor weight gain; weight loss
    – swallowing problems, gagging, choking
    – frequent red, sore throat
    – respiratory problems; pneumonia, bronchitis, wheezing, asthma, nighttime cough, apnea, aspiration, noisy or labored breathing
    – ear infections
    – constantly running nose; sinus infections
    – excessive salvation, drooling
    – peculiar neck arching, Sandifer’s Syndrome

    I hope it’s just a cold! Hang in there – you know how to reach me if you need to talk and/or vent!

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  • BriarRose November 2, 2011, 11:12 am

    Seriously, WHY do people stare when someone has a fussy infant/baby (and is tending to said baby)? As if staring will make the baby magically stop crying? I’ll never understand. I think you can always tell the fellow mothers when a baby starts crying….they’re usually the only ones politely going about their business as if nothing is happening.

    He’s a cutie. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and enjoy every moment.

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    • 6napkinburger November 2, 2011, 11:27 am

      To be fair, I think it depends on the setting, the age of the kid and the appropriateness of the baby being present/not being taken out when it starts to scream. I was in a religious service at a place with free babysitting for all age groups, and a one year old wailed for 25 minutes of the SERMON while both parents (there were two of them) just bounced the baby and acted like nothing was wrong. It was like dueling banjos between the kid and the speaker and the kid defintely won. Not cool parents, not cool.

      Now, a coffee shop? While the mother is still at the counter???? with a teeny tiny infant????? and the mother was on the brink of tears??? I am kind of the grinch who hates screaming children these days and even in that situation, I’d look with sympathy and smile at the mom. So boo them.

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      • BriarRose November 2, 2011, 1:12 pm

        True story re: setting, age of kid, etc. That’s why I threw in “tending to said baby”. People like what you described are so clueless and rude it’s ridiculous. Like the parents who brought their kid (not infant–I’m talking like 18 months old) to an 11pm showing of a movie I had been dying to see–and had hired a babysitter for my daughter so I could go see it. I was practically crying right along with the poor little guy who was overtired, squirmy, and scared (imagine that, in a dark, R rated movie).

        Wendy’s situation though, those coffee shop people can suck it.

      • Britannia November 2, 2011, 2:24 pm

        I agree. She was just ordering coffee and asked for a to-go cup as soon as Jackson started crying… there was no reason for people to shoot her dirty looks. If Wendy had sat down in the coffee shop while Jackson had already been screaming, I can understand a few dirty looks, but she was just trying to get some coffee and go. I’m one of those people whose entire family believes that children should be seen and not heard, and I absolutely despise it when children start screaming when I’m trying to enjoy a sit-down dinner or grocery shop (partly because loud noises like that give me migraines). However, at a coffee shop, at the ordering counter? With a newborn? Come on, people, grow a damn heart.

      • rangerchic November 2, 2011, 4:49 pm

        I agree with the “children should be seen and not heard”.
        And with BriarRose…a couple of weeks ago we dropped our kids at Grandma’s for the night and went downtown (I live in a small to mid size city) and no joke – we walked passed a bar that had all the doors open so the bar was almost like a patio and there was a women…with a baby…on her lap while she had a drink and a smoke! This is a BAR (not a bar and grill type of place). Not only did I think that happened only in movies I didn’t think that was legal…Ugh.

      • Mandy November 3, 2011, 2:41 am

        I totally agree on setting making a big difference. For example, a Real-Life Scenario (seriously, I witnessed it yesterday):

        At my local Mexican fast-food joint, a boy – I’m guessing about 8 – was running laps around the restaurant, counting every time he ran past his dad. At lap 11, the dad stopped the boy and said he needed to sit down and eat. The boy threw a tantrum of EPIC proportions (as if the laps weren’t enough to get the dad glared at). Dad said “ok, one more lap” – son took this as a victory, ran one more lap, and ate his B&C burrito with a smile on his face.

        Giving in to the demands of a baby – necessary. Giving in to the demands of an 8-year-old – a choice.

        Also, I’m surprised the coffee shop staff were rude – I’m sure they have seen ADULTS worse behaved!

    • MELH November 2, 2011, 1:27 pm

      I know! I was on a plane (on my way home from my homeymoon) and we got stuck on the runway for nearly 3 hours due to weather. This little girl across from us, who I would say was probably around 18 months, finally started crying a good ways into our wait. And I know her parents felt embarrassed and exasperated, and honestly, I was amazed she made it that long without crying, I felt like crying! But some people behind us were making comments about it. I felt so bad for the parents!

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      • 6napkinburger November 2, 2011, 1:43 pm

        I was on a plane one time, and the little girl (maybe 5 years old?) started kicking my seat. Not accidentally, not in passing, for entertainment. Hard. At first, I expected the dad to say something. But he didn’t. Then I started turning around each time, as if confused why my seat suddenly jarred. He still didn’t say anything to her. Eventually, I said something to the father along the lines of, “I’m sorry but your daughter keeps kicking my seat and it’s very unsettling. Do you mind asking her to stop?” To which, his response was, verbatim: “She’s a kid. They kick seats. Deal with it.”

        He never once asked/told her to stop.

        For every parent trying to be fair and good and juggle, there’s a douchebag sullying the title “parent with children in public,” screwing it up for everyone else.

      • JK November 2, 2011, 1:50 pm

        Totally. I remember one time at a zoo (I was with my brother and sister), there was a guy with his son (around 7/8), the father was actually encouraging the kid to throw stuff at the lion! My sister (strong character) said politely that the kid shouldn´t really do that, the father let out a string of insults. Throughout the rest of the time at the zoo everytime we crossed paths with them (small zoo) the guy would insult my sister.
        This happened like 10 years or more ago, but I will never forget this guy, and the terrible example he set for his son!!!

      • FireStar November 2, 2011, 2:09 pm

        Wow. I got mad just reading that. Deal with it? He is going to have a lot more to deal with in life if he doesn’t believe in teaching his child consideration and consequences. I sympathise with any parent making an effort to control/soothe/quiet their children in planes or close quarters but I have no interest in tolerating anyone’s little darling misbehaving while their parent just sits there. I hope you took his advice and dealt with it – airlines kick parents off of planes when they wantonly allow their kids to interfere with other customers.

      • Tax Geek November 2, 2011, 2:30 pm

        There can be a fine line though between a child misbehaving and a child who is “quirky” on his best days. I know I get many stares when my 11 year-old autistic son and I are out in public. He may make you uncomfortable for a few minutes. I will be dealing with him until one of us is no longer around.

      • 6napkinburger November 2, 2011, 2:37 pm

        Believe me, I’m the first in line to be sympathetic to special needs. My brother has asperger’s, so I’m very aware of “different” behavior in innappropriate settings. But that doesn’t excuse the parent from normal responsibilities, including the responsibility to explain and the responsibility to remove if the situation warrants it. (And I’m not saying you are saying that.)

        In the kicking example, if the dad had said “It’s a tic, and there’s nothing she can do about it”, then its the end of the story. If he had asked her to “stop kicking the nice lady’s chair” and then told us that “she has adhd and her medication has run out and the rest is in the packed luggage, so there’s a good likelihood that she would continue again, though he would try to control it”, then end of story.

        There’s special needs and then there’s douchebags. The possibility of the former does not excuse the latter.

      • Tax Geek November 2, 2011, 2:47 pm

        Fair enough. And if Jack is being particularly difficult, I know it is time to go.

      • FireStar November 2, 2011, 3:09 pm

        My godson is autistic too. I think there is a world of difference between quirky and wantonly misbehaving. And it depends on the parent. My godson’s mother would never allow her son to attack someone (or their plane seat) and would (and has) explained to people in close quarters why his behaviour is a little different if he is causing a distraction. I think too if it is out on the street or in a coffee shop or where ever people have freedom of movement – then people can go merrily on their way if they have a problem. I don’t say anything to anyone when my godson is out with me and acting up – my focus is on him. The only time my friend ever feels compelled to say anything is on a plane/train where everyone is all but trapped together. And I think in those situations parents have a duty to – if not to control their children – to make an effort to.

      • Slamy November 2, 2011, 2:36 pm

        “Teenagers sneak out of the house and get pregnant and fail out of high school! Deal with it!” – what that dad has to look forward to

      • Britannia November 2, 2011, 2:26 pm

        A year and a half old isn’t really long enough to develop self-control… and it’s not like those parents could leave! Maybe to bring her into the bathroom or something until she calmed down, but still… comments? Seriously? That won’t accomplish anything except bully the parents a bit. There’s a time and place to complain, and that wasn’t one of them.

      • JK November 2, 2011, 2:32 pm

        Exactly. Plus in those moments it´s all one as a parent can do to try and remain calm, since if you get nervous it´s just going to get the kid more worked up.

    • Kalipzo November 2, 2011, 6:32 pm

      I try to make sympathetic faces at the parents and coo and cluck and the baby like an idiot. And I have no children!

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  • Flake November 2, 2011, 11:29 am

    Just want to say that your little one is adorable, and you all will get through this. And believe it or not, one day, relatively soon, you will wake up RESTED before the baby on a weekend, and will have to resist the urge to go and wake the little bundle of joy up.

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    • Skyblossom November 2, 2011, 12:01 pm

      And the moment you wake up all rested because you woke before they did you rush to check the baby and make sure they’re still breathing.

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      • JK November 2, 2011, 12:07 pm

        I thought I was the only one that did that!!!

      • Wendy November 2, 2011, 12:20 pm

        I posted on Facebook last week asking when parents typically stop doing that and i got a bunch of replies, most of which were along the lines of “never.”

      • GatorGirl November 2, 2011, 12:41 pm

        I don’t think it will ever stop. I’m 26 and my mom still says she doesn’t sleep well when my siblings and I aren’t home.

      • BriarRose November 2, 2011, 1:12 pm

        True story re: setting, age of kid, etc. That’s why I threw in “tending to said baby”. People like what you described are so clueless and rude it’s ridiculous. Like the parents who brought their kid (not infant–I’m talking like 18 months old) to an 11pm showing of a movie I had been dying to see–and had hired a babysitter for my daughter so I could go see it. I was practically crying right along with the poor little guy who was overtired, squirmy, and scared (imagine that, in a dark, R rated movie).

        Wendy’s situation though, those coffee shop people can suck it.

      • BriarRose November 2, 2011, 1:18 pm

        Oops, sorry for replying with the above reply here…wrong thread. I was going to say that my daughter is 7 and if I wake up in the middle of the night I try to force myself to not go check on her. Usually I do go check though, because I convince myself that I “woke up for a reason”. Ugh. She’s always fine, of course. I don’t think parents ever stop checking.

      • sweetleaf November 2, 2011, 1:17 pm

        Haha, isn’t that funny how we do that? Mine is 6 now and I think I stopped checking to make sure she was still breathing about a year ago. This morning I went in her room to wake her and get her ready for school and all I saw was a pile of blankets and no kid. I got the mommy heart pound and thought she was gone!! Then I saw her hair sticking out. She was just all nestled in.
        *And Wendy, when she was a newborn she would just cry and cry and I wasn’t getting any sleep and I couldn’t comfort her and I just cried my eyes out on several occasions. After her first month everything was fine and at 3 months I started to put rice cereal with her milk at night time. It would fill her belly up so she wouldn’t wake up at night and I can finally get some sleep. Some people don’t agree with this, but I don’t care. It worked for me and she’s a perfectly healthy 6 year old now.

      • Skyblossom November 2, 2011, 1:23 pm

        I had to quit checking on my daughter in the night when she was about six and she said that she kept getting the creepy feeling that someone was standing by her bed in the night. I knew that the someone was me and I had to quit sneaking in to check on her if it was scaring her. So I would lay awake hoping to hear her moving in the night.

      • LittleLuWho November 2, 2011, 1:30 pm

        Agreement on the rice cereal! I’m not a mom but my baby brother is 9 years younger so I took a lot of responsibility with his infant care because I was SO EXCITED to finally have a sibling. My brother was super colic-y, basically didn’t stop crying for his first 3 years of life and we all ate dinner in shifts so someone was entertaining him while the others ate. When he was 2 or 3 months old my mom started adding rice cereal to his bedtime bottle (which she also did with me and I was a much more pleasant baby) and he immediately started sleeping through the night. She waited another month or two before also feeding him the rice cereal with a spoon which was the pre-cursor to starting baby food. Now that he’s almost 14, he’s Mr. Athletic and incredibly healthy (and much more smiley)!

      • silver_dragon_girl November 2, 2011, 1:44 pm

        I have totally done that with my cat before.

      • Rachel November 2, 2011, 6:26 pm

        Haha, I’m glad I’m the only one. I do it with my cat and my dog.

      • L November 2, 2011, 1:57 pm

        Ha. Definitely true! Now I’m not a mom, but apparently the first time I slept through the night was when I was 2 weeks old. My mom said she almost had a heart attack when she realized it was 7 am and I hadn’t woken her up at night. I can only imagine! When she ran into my room, I was still sleeping soundly.

        And I still like to sleep. A lot. 🙂

  • JK November 2, 2011, 11:31 am

    Jackson is so gorgeous!!!
    I HATE those people that make drty looks when a baby is crying, either they mustn´t have kids or they´ve forgotten what it´s like. My oldest daughter went through a phase at around 3 months that she HATED going out in the stroller, she would just cry and cry until I took her out. The amount of bad looks I got on the street was amazing, but I wasn´t going to do all the shopping etc with baby in arms just because of that.
    I know in some contexts crying babies are annoying (movies, etc), that´s why I don´t go to those places with my kids!
    So true what BGM said this too shall pass, I repeat it daily, at every stage and phase my daughters go through!!! This weekend I had the nearly 4 yo with scarlet fever and the 6 month old cutting her top teeth, so you can just imagine what my household was like! Luckily come monday things calmed down to the usual level of crazy. 🙂
    Wendy, I remember at the beginning you said you were having some difficlty breastfeeding, if it´sbetter now, don´t feel guilty if you have Jackson latched on just to calm him down, with my 1st I repected what the dr said down to the letter, now with my 2nd I´m a lot calmer and she is too. Sometimes there is nothing better for the baby than that touch (of course lots of hugs work as well!)

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  • bethany November 2, 2011, 11:34 am

    Wendy, he is SOOOO cute, I can’t even stand it!!! Thank you for sharing the good and the bad with us- Not only is it helpful for all of us non-parents to get the true scoop on parenthood, I’m sure it’s also nice for you to be able to vent!

    I hope Jackson is feeling better and that you’re getting some sleep!! You’re doing a great job!

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    • honeybeenicki November 2, 2011, 11:42 am

      Completely agree. I have 2 (step)kids but didn’t experience the young stages. They were 5 and nearly 8 when their dad and I started dating (They are 11 and nearly 14 now). We are not talking about having our own child and it is actually very interesting to read about Wendy’s experience. Having nephews/nieces/a godson/etc isn’t nearly the same because you can LEAVE, so its awesome to get the whole (good and bad) story from a new mom to start to prepare – although I know I’ll never actually be prepared.

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  • Foots November 2, 2011, 11:38 am

    He’s adorable!! Hang in there, Wendy. It WILL get easier, I promise!!

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  • melikeycheesecake November 2, 2011, 11:56 am

    Thank you so much for sharing this new mom experience with us! He is precious!

    I hope you get some rest now that he is feeling better!

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  • rangerchic November 2, 2011, 11:57 am

    Awe….cute chipmunk cheeks! I remember after my youngest (I have two daughters now ages 11 and 16) was born I had the “blues”. I never really understood what that meant until I had it. Oh man, someone could just be talking to me and I would burst into tears. I cried for days off and on and I didn’t even have a good excuse b/c my daughter just slept and slept. I felt totally stupid but it did pass just as his cold will get better and it will be but a memory.

    Maybe try having your husband take him out for a walk or something for an hour or so so you can get some restful sleep that will help you feel energized.

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    • 6napkinburger November 2, 2011, 12:01 pm

      Yes, was Drew able to take any paternity leave?

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      • Wendy November 2, 2011, 12:18 pm

        Two weeks, but luckily he has great hours and is usually home between 4-5 and then i can get out for an hour or so and clear my head.

  • bethany November 2, 2011, 12:05 pm

    Just looked at the picture again, and I think he looks so much like you, it’s not even funny!! I think it’s the nose.

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  • Skyblossom November 2, 2011, 12:07 pm

    I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all that crying. It is so nerve wracking, especially trying one thing after another hoping something, anything, will work.

    My daughter cried every moment she was in her infant carseat. There was something about the position of it that was uncomfortable to her, she was a gassy baby and her belly and the carseat didn’t get along. We avoided going out as much as possible but had to test drive a new car with her along and it was sheer misery. The young car salesman just stared at us, he didn’t know what to think.

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  • Carolynasaurus November 2, 2011, 12:28 pm

    Everybody loves a little Kermit!

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  • Rosie November 2, 2011, 12:38 pm

    Oh my he is just the cutest!

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  • GatorGirl November 2, 2011, 12:38 pm

    Wendy he is beautiful!! The first few week/months are definitely the most challenging. As another commenter suggested, I would look into the reflux- I’ve heard it makes for miserable babies. Keep hanging in there!!

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  • Tax Geek November 2, 2011, 12:48 pm

    Things that have worked for me to stop a baby crying: Loud continuous noise. No Kidding. Bathroom fans, running water in the sink or bathtub, even vacuum cleaners. I remember reading somewhere that it is very loud (like VERY LOUD) in the uterus and that loud continuous noise will calm a newborn.

    Also, make sure your swadling technique is correct. Try not to worry about being too tight.

    Now maybe it is just the cold, but hopefully some of this might help too in the future. Good luck Wendy.

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    • amber November 2, 2011, 1:38 pm

      my friend’s baby like the sound of a hair dryer!

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      • SpyGlassez November 2, 2011, 9:19 pm

        Apparently for me it was the sound of a vacuum.

    • Britannia November 2, 2011, 2:30 pm

      From what my grandparents have told me, putting me inside a running car would always work… or, if that didn’t work, grandpa would take me down to the dock and let me listen to the waves crashing against the pier, and the ocean air would have me out like a light.

      Nowadays, I turn on a floor fan and I still fall asleep in an instant. Maybe Wendy could try getting one of those floor fans? On their higher levels, they make a loud and continuous whirring “white noise” that helps the brain calm down.

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  • AKchic November 2, 2011, 1:43 pm

    Things get better. In a few months, he’ll have a better disposition, schedule, etc. Your crying is natural, both from lack of sleep and post-partum. Anyone who can’t understand that has no children, or is not meant to have any.

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  • MissDre November 2, 2011, 2:05 pm

    Wendy, he’s really beautiful 🙂 Absolutely perfect! I hope you’re able to get some rest soon. Sending you, Jackson and Drew all of my love! Xo!

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  • titian November 2, 2011, 2:23 pm

    As a 34 year old woman who is still unsure whether she wants kids I am following your posts with so much interest! Thank you for talking about the amazing moments and the amazingly difficult ones. So, maybe one day….

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  • mandalee November 2, 2011, 2:36 pm

    Awww, your little frog is adorable! I don’t have kids yet, but have worked with them (infants on up to the crazy teenagers), and you should never feel bad about a infant crying in public! Is it embarrassing the first time for the mom? Sure. But should it be? No. If it was a toddler or a five year old pitching a fit and the mom was going about her day, then I’d be annoyed as someone watching because I know from experience what message that sends to the kid, but an infant’s major form of communication is crying. I’m tired-cry. I’m hungry-cry. I want to be tilted this way a little but I can’t move- so I’m gonna cry.

    It happens and how strangers can stare at you like the ebola virus is beyond me. I’m sure you are an amazing mom and will handle all the great days and crazy days amazingly well.

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  • 6napkinburger November 2, 2011, 2:45 pm

    I’m not sure if his outfit has a hood with froggie eyes, but if it does… swoon. I am totally going to dress my babies, basically exclusively, in outfits with duck beaks, eyes, ears, etc. I think they are so freaking adorable.

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    • JK November 2, 2011, 2:50 pm

      My 6 month old had a winter jacket in a red furry material with teddy bear ears on the hood, gorgeous!!!

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  • Grace November 2, 2011, 3:17 pm

    My nephew is about 8 months old and the first baby in the family. He has been sick a few times so she has dealt with EXACTLY the same thing. If anyone is shooting you angry looks they are just ignorant. Keep up the great work! He is gorgeous!

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  • fast eddie November 2, 2011, 2:38 pm

    I fervently wish I could infant-sit for a few hours so you could have some time to yourself. He’s adorable and your being a fabulous mom. 🙂

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  • kf November 2, 2011, 4:40 pm

    Screaming at the top of his lungs when he’s out with you in public? MOA.

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  • SGMcG November 2, 2011, 11:05 pm

    Oh my goodness – that’s got to be the most adorable pose he’s striking there. Judo-CHOP! You have quite the ninja froggie Wendy!

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  • Christina November 3, 2011, 12:26 am

    What a huge culture shock it must be to be a new mom. I hope Jackson feels better soon.

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