On New Year’s Day, I woke up and brushed my teeth in the bathroom like I do every morning. As I leaned over the sink to spit, something caught my eye in the mirror. Not something, but somethings — two of them. Two strands of white hair beaming from the crown of my head like a light show. Well, I guess I’m really not getting any younger, I thought to myself, as I finished wiping my mouth. 2011 is the year I turn 35, after all.
“I’m ready to make a baby,” I announced to Drew as I crawled back in bed.
“Really?” He asked.
I’d originally told him I wanted to wait until after my birthday in September so I could enjoy one last carefree summer of unencumbered bike rides and Mojitos at Happy Hour.
“Fuck it,” I said, “Let’s just do this. It’s probably going to take awhile anyway, so let’s get this show on the road.”
“Yes!” He exclaimed.
The next month my period was due and didn’t come, so I took a pregnancy test. It was negative and I threw it in the trash.
I guess I’m just late, I thought, It’s not going to happen this fast anyhow.
Then I sat down at my computer and started working. A couple hours later, I had this gnawing feeling I couldn’t shake. “Look at that test again,” a little voice in my head urged.
So I fished the test out of the trash and studied it. Still negative. I mean, right? There are supposed to be two lines if you’re pregnant and I saw just one. Or maybe there was a really, really faint second line. I held the test under a lamp. Hmm. There was sort of a faint second line there. I Googled it: “Faint second line, pregnancy tests.” A bunch of images popped up. They all looked just like my test. I read the descriptions of those images, many of them from blogs. I followed the links to the blogs and read about babies — babies that had been born eight months after those faint second lines showed up on pee sticks.
Oh wow. Was I going to have a baby?
I took six more tests over the next three days. Yes, really, six. They were all positive, and clearly so. (Tip: if you want to skip the “Is it or isn’t it” riddle, go digital!).
Last week, we had our second OB/midwife appointment and got to see our baby squirming around during an ultrasound. He (I have a feeling it’s a he, but of course don’t know for sure) was moving around so much — kicking his legs and flapping his arms — it was hard to get a good picture, but the sonographer managed to snap this:
Yesterday I started my second trimester. I’m hoping to start feeling better soon. Luckily, I haven’t had much nausea, but the fatigue, among other unpleasantries, has been relentless and unbearable. Some mornings I can hardly lift my head off the pillow. And most nights I’ve been asleep before nine, sometimes even before eight. I’ve been so tired, and there have definitely been days it’s been hard to focus on this site, but your enthusiasm and support and just general investment has really helped keep me motivated, so I wanted to thank you for that. Thank you, thank you, thank you! It’s really meant more than you know. And here’s something cool: my due date is October 24, which is exactly nine months to the day after I launched this site. There must have been “new beginnings” in my chart that week.
Anyway, Drew and I are very excited. Very excited! We didn’t anticipate this happening so quickly, and as much as I’ll miss drinking champagne when I’m in Paris next month, I’m so, so grateful we have what seems to be a healthy baby snuggled in my belly (oh my God, I have a baby in my belly!). I’m sure we’ll have plenty of parenting struggles in the not-so-distant future, so I’m happy that getting pregnant is one we were spared — at least this time. Thanks, again, for your support, and I’ll be sure to keep you updated as things progress.
Now, show of hands: how many of you saw this coming a mile away?
emjay April 11, 2011, 9:14 am
Wendy congrats! I’m very happy for you both! And i want to wish you the best of luck! and drew of courrse! :):):)
emjay April 11, 2011, 9:24 am
P.S. my fiance and I are in the process of trying too! So maybe this year will be our lucky year as well. ( its a lil bit harder for us though because I don’t ovulate every month so its a lil tricky) but I am just so happy for such a good person like you to have this blessing given to you!
PFG-SCR April 11, 2011, 9:26 am
Good luck to you, emjay!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 9:36 am
Good luck! I’ve heard acupuncture is very helpful.
Mainer April 11, 2011, 9:19 am
That’s awesome, Wendy! Congratulations! I think we all saw it coming, but it’s great it finally did! Though our familiarity with you is limited to blogs, websites, and contributing pieces, for those who have followed your work over the years and have been witness to you opening your life up (at a moderate level, which I applaud you on), my – and probably most of our – excitement comes at a genuine level as if it were news from one of our own friends. You two are going to be great parents!
Beckaleigh April 11, 2011, 9:28 am
We definitely all saw this coming but it definitely doesn’t make it less exciting!!! This is soo wonderful! Congrats to you and Drew!! Now you’ll have to do the open forum asking those of us with little ones for tips!
Christina April 11, 2011, 9:24 am
Congratulations! It’s great that your due date is nine months from your launch date.
PFG-SCR April 11, 2011, 9:24 am
*raises hand* 🙂
Congratulations, Wendy and Drew! It’s such an exciting time in your lives, and I’m so beyond thrilled for you guys!!
Morgan April 11, 2011, 9:25 am
emjay April 11, 2011, 9:27 am
Oh! What was Drew’s expreseeion when you told him! You left that part out! Did he faint on the floor?
Jess of CityGirlsWorld.com April 11, 2011, 9:28 am
Oh yes, do tell!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 9:31 am
I told him when he got home from work that day. I showed him the two tests I’d taken earlier that afternoon and he was like, “What does that mean?” And I said, “I’m pretty sure it means I’m pregnant.” And then his eyes bugged out of his head and he threw his arms around me and sort of jumped around. He’s been wanting this for a long time. I was the one who needed a little more time to get ready, so he is over the moon (well, I am too! … but you know what I mean).
jottino April 11, 2011, 5:54 pm
This made me tear up! Congratulations again. So happy for the three of you 🙂
Addie Pray April 11, 2011, 8:45 pm
Does anyone find it odd/annoying when people say “‘We’ are pregnant” instead of just “‘I’ am pregnant”? “We are going to have a baby” – ok. But “we” are pregnant? No, the woman is pregnant. (Wendy wrote that she said “I’m pregnant,” and it just reminded me of this girl on facebook whose status update today said “We’re pregnant!”) Not a huge deal. Maybe “annoying” is too strong. But it’s something I’ve heard a lot before and always think is odd.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 9:41 am
P.S. Miles’ expression was not so excited… (and neither was Simone’s, for that matter).
Jessica April 11, 2011, 9:44 am
lol.. aww. it’s going to be an adjustment for little Miles.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 9:48 am
Yes, he is a big-time Mama’s boy (Simone, on the other hand, is far more independent), so I worry about how he’ll adjust. But I think there will be enough love to go around for everyone, so hopefully it will all be fine. And Miles will just be 6 when baby comes, so there will be many years left — I hope — for them to become good friends.
Jessica April 11, 2011, 9:28 am
Knewwwwwwwww it!!! Congratulations!!!!
So exciting and amazing! 🙂
Christy April 11, 2011, 9:28 am
Congratulations!! You were very fortunate to get pregnant so easily. I’ll keep you and your baby (and Drew) in my thoughts. Good luck with the pregnancy!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 9:33 am
I know! I have friends who have not been so lucky, so I am very grateful this was one hurdle we were spared (this time). My heart goes out to everyone who has not been as fortunate.
sweetleaf April 11, 2011, 9:34 am
I knew this. Don’t know how, but I did and I think it’s fantastic!
margblogger April 11, 2011, 9:36 am
Congratulations!!! The world definitely needs more red-headed babies!!!! I wish you and Drew the best. Enjoy your last few months as a family of two!
harum-scarum April 11, 2011, 9:41 am
So awesome! Congratulations!
delilahgem April 11, 2011, 9:41 am
Yay!! Congrats Wendy and Drew!!
Septicidal April 11, 2011, 9:45 am
Congratulations! When I saw you post about not feeling so great, I was hoping for baby news! Babies are so, so much more awesome than stomach bugs…
Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!
Eljay April 11, 2011, 9:47 am
Oh how wonderful! Congratulations to you! What a wonderful time for you. I’m even a little jealous….my “little” one is 11! Enjoy this magical time, it goes by all too fast!
elisabeth April 11, 2011, 9:54 am
OMG, this is exciting. Congratulations, Wendy! I imagine it’s mindblowing to wrap your head around having a tiny Wendrew in your belly. ♥
Elle April 11, 2011, 10:03 am
Congrats, Wendy and Drew. Wish you all the best!!!
I like “Wendrew” – that’s so cute 🙂
Eljay April 11, 2011, 10:51 am
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:12 am
I like it, too. Our friends call us the Condellberry’s, which is a combination of our last names, so Wendrew Condellberry it is. Poor kid.
Maracuya April 11, 2011, 11:59 am
No way. With a name like that, s/he is guaranteed their own sitcom.
Painted_lady April 11, 2011, 10:00 am
*Raises hand* YAAAAAAY! I hope he/she is redheaded. We all know it’s going to be an adorable baby – with you guys as parents, how could he (?) be anything else?
Hope the fatigue passes soon. Enjoy the hell out of your secod trimester – from what I hear it’s the best part of being preggers!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 10:06 am
Oh, I hope so, though I’m beginning to think the best part of being pregnant will be when it’s OVER. So far, I’m not really enjoying the experience. Grateful to be having it, yes, but enjoying it? Eh, not so much.
PFG-SCR April 11, 2011, 10:39 am
When the baby gets bigger and starts moving, it gets so fun!
As a mother of three, my biggest piece of unsolicited advice is to enjoy these last six months of being husband and wife because parenthood is going to change things. It changes life in wonderful ways, but it’s very different for your relationship as you shift to husband and wife to dad and mom. Don’t forget to still find time to be husband and wife once the baby arrives.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 10:47 am
Yes, we talk about that often. It’s scary! We have always been so happy just the two of us — it’s one of the reasons we waited as long as we did (though, really not that long). But we both really want to be parents and are getting a little long in the tooth, so it seemed the right time to start. But I will mourn the ending of “just us” and hope we are able to afford regular babysitters so we can get out on dates and be wendy and drew together and not just “mom” and “dad.”
PFG-SCR April 11, 2011, 11:16 am
The more I think about it, though, it’ll likely be that you don’t even _want_ to go out because you’re both so enamored with this baby that you “made”. You’ll both be perfectly happy to just sit and stare at the baby and talk about who he/she looks like, how perfect he/she is, what a miracle a baby is, etc. It’s such an amazing time, and your love for one another will grow so much as you see one another nurturing _your_ baby.
I’m so excited for you guys!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:19 am
That’s what I hear (and what I’ve witness with friends). I’m sure there will definitely be a honeymoon period when we don’t want to be away from the baby too much. Eventually, though, that must change … right??
PFG-SCR April 11, 2011, 11:56 am
Yes, and that’s about the time you end up pregnant again! 😉
Beckaleigh April 11, 2011, 11:57 am
With my first child, for the first year, I was so scared to be away because I was certain I would miss those huge milestones, like rolling over and smiling. With my second child, I was more than willing to take some me time 🙂
ReginaRey April 11, 2011, 10:00 am
Wendy I’m so happy for you!!! I was hoping you’d be telling us all some news like this soon! I can’t wait to hear all of the pregnancy updates! Smiling big time for you 😀
MissDre April 11, 2011, 10:02 am
I KNEW IT I KNEW IT I KNEW IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!
Andrea April 11, 2011, 10:07 am
Congratulations!! I am so happy for you and Drew. 🙂
And the good thing about pregnancy in the summer is you can show off your great pregnancy boobs! 😉
Megan April 11, 2011, 10:07 am
Congrats Wendy! That’s so exciting!! Looking forward to updates….maybe even one from Miles!
sesl April 11, 2011, 10:07 am
Congrats! I don’t comment much, but I’m a long time follower from The Frisky days and I was legitimately excited to read this! Best wishes for a healthy, happy pregnancy and baby!!
Eagle Eye April 11, 2011, 10:48 am
I second this comment!
LennyBee April 11, 2011, 10:14 am
cdj0815 April 11, 2011, 10:18 am
Congratulation Wendy. May you have a safe delivery and a healthy baby. Many blessings to your family. Good news at the beginning of the week, I needed that. Thanks.
Rachelgrace53 April 11, 2011, 10:21 am
This is so awesome! Especially the due date relating to your site launch… Sincere congratulations to you, the man, and of course, our favorite guest writer Miles!
shoegal88 April 11, 2011, 10:22 am
Congratulations Wendy!!!!! That’s so exciting–I’m so happy for you and Drew!
Jessica April 11, 2011, 10:24 am
Not surprised but very happy for you! Hope the baby is a redhead!
SGMcG April 11, 2011, 10:26 am
Congrats on the future Mom and Dad! I know that ultrasound says 11 weeks and it’s too young for this – but it looks like the baby is sucking it’s thumb! Are you going to find out the baby’s gender in advance or will you make it a surprise in the delivery room?
Mazel Tov to you both!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 10:34 am
From what I’ve been reading, a fetus can start sucking its thumb toward the end of the 11th week, though it’s more typical to start in week 13. But I was a big ol’ thumb-sucker — embarrassed to say I did it til i was ELEVEN YEARS OLD! — so I wouldn’t be totally surprised if an offspring of mine is taking after me early.
We haven’t decided yet if we’ll find out the gender, but we are leaning towards yes, which we’ll be able to do in about eight weeks or so, I guess. We both like the idea of a delivery room surprise, but when you live in a small apartment in Brooklyn, don’t have a car, and space is of the essence, careful planning is a must. I just think it would make things a little easier if we knew what gender we were shopping for, you know?
jessicaxmx April 11, 2011, 10:45 am
Wendy, I too, was a thumbsucker. I sucked my thumb up until HIGHSCHOOL. And the only reason why I stopped was because I got braces and it hurt too much. My parents tried everything to make me quit and nothing ever worked. I am happy to say that I no longer suck my thumb even though sometimes I get the urge..feeling like somethings missing…and that’s when I’ll realize if I was doing the same thing I was doing about 7 years ago I would have a thumb in my mouth. Congrats Wendy on you and Drew expanding a wonderful family! And the fact that you can share it with us means a lot also! Best of luck to you..
Eljay April 11, 2011, 10:54 am
Haaahaaaa! 19!! Quite the tough habit to break.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 10:49 am
Braces were the only thing to get me to quit the thumb, too. And now pregnancy is what it takes to get me to quit my Margarita habit (but only temporarily). Thanks for the well-wishes!
MissDre April 11, 2011, 10:47 am
Don’t feel bad I sucked my thumb til I was 13!
callmehobo April 11, 2011, 10:26 am
WENDY!!! I am so so so excited for you!!
Oh my gosh- you have a PERSON inside of you. That is amazing!
Jess of CityGirlsWorld.com April 11, 2011, 9:27 am
SOOOO excited for you Wendy!! Thrilled actually! And wow, so fast! Great to hear that you had no trouble at all. CONGRATS!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 9:28 am
Thanks so much, everyone! I’m excited to finally share the news with you (after dropping a fair amount of hints ;)).
MissDre April 11, 2011, 10:07 am
LoL Wendy, I have been wanting to email you and ask for a while now but I thought it would be totally rude of me to poke my nose in your business… I even told my boyfriend last night that I thought this was coming… We don’t even know each other and yet I am bouncing up and down in my chair at work, I am just completely thrilled beyond belief!! Congrats, Congrats!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 10:14 am
Thank you! That’s so sweet of you. I’ve always been good about guessing other people’s pregnancies, so I know how fun it is to get confirmation when you’re right. And you didn’t even have my lack of drinking as a clue, which was a dead give-away to anyone who knows me in person. 😉
BecBoo84 April 11, 2011, 10:32 am
Congratulations, Wendy and Drew!
Maracuya April 11, 2011, 10:35 am
Ah, congrats Wendy! That’s great news! 🙂
LTC039 April 11, 2011, 10:40 am
CONGRATS!!! How exciting!! I wish you & Drew the best in this new chapter of your lives!
atlimbo April 11, 2011, 9:40 am
Congrats, Wendy!! Best to all three of you and keep us updated!
Bdubs629 April 11, 2011, 10:43 am
MellaJade April 11, 2011, 10:47 am
Congrats Wendy & Drew!
camille905 April 11, 2011, 10:49 am
Congrats!!! I’m super thrilled for you both!
Rachel April 11, 2011, 10:53 am
Congrats to you and Drew!
Lexington April 11, 2011, 10:53 am
cat-i-z April 11, 2011, 10:58 am
YAY!!!!!!!!!!! I’m so so so excited for you both! What a blessing to get pregnant so soon!!! I hope you begin to feel better soon!!!
AllisonAnn April 11, 2011, 10:59 am
First time commenter, but I’m so excited my sister and brother-in-law are having a baby! They are going to make the best, most fun parents, and you know Mom will always have good advice for her kid(s). Yay!!!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:10 am
Jennifer April 11, 2011, 11:03 am
Omg that’s so wonderful!! Congratulations! I wish for you a safe and healthy pregnancy and baby 🙂
cmarie April 11, 2011, 11:07 am
Congratulations you guys!! Good luck on your new adventure, although I’m sure you’ll be wonderful parents.
honeybeenicki April 11, 2011, 11:07 am
Congratulations! We look forward to updates 🙂 I hope you have a happy, healthy, and fairly comfortable pregnancy (as comfortable as it can truly get)! My husband and I are thinking about having a baby (he has 2 kids 13 and 10 but I don’t have any), unfortunately we will have to either do AI or IVF.
PFG-SCR April 11, 2011, 11:17 am
Good luck, honeybeenicki!
honeybeenicki April 11, 2011, 4:32 pm
Thanks 🙂 I was watching a show yesterday about someone doing IVF and the shots she had to take 3-4 times a day were really scary, but I think it would definitely be worth it. And my step-kids are the ones who have been telling us since… well, since we started dating… that we should have a baby.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:10 am
Good luck with your decision!
MrsVB April 11, 2011, 11:11 am
First of all I want to say congratulations! I am SO excited for you and your husband! I think I speak for all of us when I say that you have helped us all at one point or another, and we wish nothing but the best for you!
Having said this, I have a favor to ask of you. No one really tells you all of the transformations your body takes while being pregnant, and it’s honestly a little scary to think about. For those of us who are planning to get pregnant sometime in our lives, it would be awesome to hear someone’s first hand experience. (Really, one of my friends who is pregnant posted on FB that she was losing feeling of her arm or something, and it totally freaked me out.)
Again, I wish only the best for you and your GROWING family! I’m excited for you and I know that you’ll be a great mom! Please, if you ever don’t feel like updating Dear Wendy, we would all understand, so please don’t push yourself.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:17 am
I will have to strike a happy balance of updating just enough to keep those of you who are interested in the know, and those of you who couldn’t care less about pregnancies and babies from getting bored. I’ll count on you guys to let me know when I’ve tipped too much on one end or another. 😉
As for updating DW, I think the real test will be when I’m caring for a newborn. Obviously, there will need to be some adjustments made, but I full intend to keep the site running, and hope, hope, hope it will eventually become a way I can contribute financially to the family while being a stay-at-home/ work-from-home mom. That’s always been the long-term goal — the pregnancy part just happened a little more quickly than I anticipated, but I’m definitely not complaining.
_jsw_ April 11, 2011, 11:36 am
If we tended to become bored and drop off after too many columns about the exact same topic, we would never have hung around that other site. While I’m sure that columns about the trials and joys of pregnancy and parenthood won’t be as exciting as reading endless stories about about drinking, celebrity body parts, and one-night stands, I feel fairly certain we’ll manage to wade through your updates without too many complaints. It might help, though, if you’d get a small dog and post frequently about it.
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:42 am
Oh, Joe. You make me giggle.
WatersEdge April 12, 2011, 9:12 am
hahahaha… “that other site” has REALLY gone downhill in the new year. I’m on Dear Wendy 5x/day but that other site, maybe 1x. Yes my desk job is a little slow sometimes and I am on the internet too much.
MissDre April 12, 2011, 9:22 am
Totally agreed. I used to love “that other site” but it’s been pretty crappy lately. I am all about Dear Wendy! And my desk job gets slow too, which is why I’m always commenting on here 🙂
Wendy you rock!
TheGirl April 12, 2011, 9:49 am
The ‘other site’ has TOTALLY gone down hill. I’ve been very disappointed. Dear Wendy is my new crack.
Wendy April 12, 2011, 9:24 am
Thanks! I’m so glad some of you have found your way over here — and seem to like it enough to stick around. It really means a lot.
Wendy April 12, 2011, 9:19 am
Aw, that means a lot! You don’t even know.
Elle April 12, 2011, 9:28 am
Haha, I go to that ‘other site’ twice a week – usually, when Wendy’s column is supposed to come up.
TheOtherMe April 12, 2011, 9:33 am
“other site” ? what ” other site ” ??
– Bad T.O.M., Badddd !!!
SpaceySteph April 11, 2011, 11:14 am
Heh, not to rehash things that have been said a million times above but… CONGRATS!
And thanks alot for sharing with us. 🙂
TheOtherMe April 11, 2011, 11:15 am
Wonderful news Wendy !! It was such a nice surprise to read after a tough week, so in a way, you made my mood much, much better — thank you !!
Wendy April 11, 2011, 11:18 am
I’m glad to hear it!
AnitaBath April 11, 2011, 11:20 am
Yaaaaaay, Wendy! I’m so happy for you! With his genes, he (or she) is going to be an adorable baby!
JJ April 11, 2011, 11:24 am
Congratulations to both !! =)
Bethany April 11, 2011, 11:25 am
Congrats on your wonderful news!!!
_jsw_ April 11, 2011, 11:26 am
Congratulations, Wendy and Drew! Also, welcome, Aunt-to-be AllisonAnn!
I do feel sorry for the kid, though. His/her teenage years will be difficult.
“You don’t know anything, Mom!”
“Well, millions of people follow my advice daily, but I’m sure you’re right, and your little friend Timmy/Susie knows more about it all than I do. By the way, if you don’t clean up your room, I’ll post a picture of it in my blog.”
fallonthecity April 11, 2011, 11:28 am
Congratulations Wendy & Drew!!! I’m looking forward to updates 🙂
belongsomewhere April 11, 2011, 11:29 am
spaceboy761 April 11, 2011, 11:29 am
Desiree April 11, 2011, 11:31 am
Woman of Words April 11, 2011, 11:38 am
Oooh, I was hoping this was your reason for not feeling well! Congratulations to you both, you have so much to look forward to! 🙂
baby.blanka April 11, 2011, 10:39 am
Congrats times a thousand Wendy!!!! SOOO happy for you!!! I think a pregnancy/parenting column is in order!
abby April 11, 2011, 10:42 am
Eeep eeeep eeeeep! So happy for you! Congrats 🙂
Elizabeth April 11, 2011, 11:43 am
Super happy for both of you! Now s/he will just need some captain america underoos to match her proud papa!
MilesTheCat April 11, 2011, 11:52 am
Last night I had a dream I was flying in a space ship and landed on another planet. On the other planet, there were chicken parm subs and pretty ladies everywhere you looked, and best of all: no babies!
Sometimes I dream about mice and birds, and also in my dreams, Simone does not hiss at me when I try to eat her food.
Well, I am going to go take a nap now.
MissDre April 11, 2011, 2:21 pm
Miles, my kitten just caught a mouse in my apartment this weekend! I think she’s been dreaming about that! She was very upset that I took it away from her…
applescruff April 11, 2011, 11:54 am
Mazel Tov, Wendy! I can’t wait to read all of your fantastic blog posts about parenting.
caitie_didn't April 11, 2011, 11:56 am
Starla April 11, 2011, 12:00 pm
Congratulations to you both! I have read your Blog for awhile, but not commented often. I recently found my way to over here, and have read all the archives. I think you give great advice! I have also been checking out a lot of stuff at The Frisky.
I am really pleased for you, and I hope you enjoy your upcoming trip to our London shores. We’ve had some lovely spring sunshine, but I would bring a brolly anyway, April showers etc. Enjoy! And congrats again!
sarahthegreat April 11, 2011, 12:02 pm
Congratulations!!! I’ve been waiting on this! I knew you guys were gonna start trying soon. I’m glad it wasn’t a struggle for you! Being a parent is the best, best, BEST thing that will ever happen to you, I promise. Also, it’s exhausting. Good luck!
spot April 11, 2011, 12:05 pm
Congrats Wendy and Drew! Your baby is going to be very lucky to have such ‘hip and with it’ parents!!
kali April 11, 2011, 12:53 pm
CONGRATULATIONS! My children are the best thing I ever did and they are marvelous human beings. I know you and Drew will be terrific parents – and we’re all here to help! (don’t be scared)
love n hugs!
Golden_Key April 11, 2011, 12:54 pm
I am so excited for you! Congratulations Wendy and Drew!!
themintyness April 11, 2011, 1:16 pm
Congrats!!! I did not see this coming, but I hope to hear more updates about this!!!!
themintyness April 11, 2011, 1:21 pm
Is Drew making clothes for the baby already?!
Dani April 11, 2011, 1:23 pm
*Joins the sea of raised hands*
A very enthusiastic congratulations to you both! (I love it when two mature adults make a thoughtful decision to have a child. I’m always a little uneasy and hesitant to remark on unplanned pregnancies.)
Maynard April 11, 2011, 1:30 pm
That’s great news Wendy!
anna728 April 11, 2011, 1:45 pm
Aww wonderful news, congratulations! You two are going to be fantastic parents!!
Lumpieza April 11, 2011, 1:48 pm
Awwww!!!! Big masive Yayness!! Congrats Wendy and Drew! 🙂 🙂 🙂
HmC April 11, 2011, 1:51 pm
Congratulations Wendy, you and Drew are going to be amazing parents!
Emiree April 11, 2011, 2:05 pm
Fairhaired Child April 11, 2011, 2:16 pm
Yay how exciting! Congratulations to both of you and thanks for sharing that story as well as a picture! I’m sure most other readers are looking forward to more “Bun in the Oven” updates in the future as well!
Bricka April 11, 2011, 2:23 pm
Felicidades all the way from Mexico n_n. No matter if its a boy or a girl, his or her mom will always be there to give great advice! Lucky lucky baby!
Michelle April 11, 2011, 1:30 pm
Congrats, congrats Wendy from a long-time reader who saw this coming. 🙂
absurdfiction April 11, 2011, 1:34 pm
Mazel tov! This is awesome news! I have this feeling you and Drew are going to be awesome parents. 🙂
(So hard to suppress the selfish urge to say, “Don’t even think about taking maternity leave, Wendy!”)
Helen April 11, 2011, 2:47 pm
Congrats! How exciting for you.
I thought I’d let you now that this quote might be my favorite thing ever!
“”Fuck it,” I said, “Let’s just do this. It’s probably going to take awhile anyway, so let’s get this show on the road.””
Also, I did a report (I’m a chem/biochem grad student) on alcoholism a month or so ago, and a lot of studies showed that having a glass or wine once in a while doesn’t do terrible things to the fetus/baby if you’re in later trimesters, the point of this little fact being, you could have a glass of champagne in France (or at least bring a bottle back!) in celebration without fear (that is if you believe the science, I’m a fan).
_jsw_ April 11, 2011, 3:37 pm
It is an excellent quote, but I really thought “fuck it” was a bit too direct. I mean, I’m sure Drew knows what to do with it, and it left me wondering if Wendy is perhaps a little too direct and commanding at times. Hopefully, motherhood will mellow that a bit.
WatersEdge April 12, 2011, 9:15 am
Christy April 12, 2011, 1:11 pm
Actually laughing out loud is generally not a good thing in my office, so this comment earned me a few odd looks. All I’m gonna say is, if this is not the comment of the week, there is no justice in this world. <3 <3 to _jsw_
MiraGeauxRound April 11, 2011, 3:04 pm
I have never been more happy for two people I don’t know personally… It’s almost creepy. Lol. Congratulations Wendy and Drew!!! You two are going to be awesome parents. 🙂
Just Max April 11, 2011, 3:29 pm
Congratulations to you and Drew!
sobriquet April 11, 2011, 4:10 pm
CONGRATULATIONS! Of all the bloggers I like to live vicariously through, you’re my favorite 😉
SpaceySteph April 11, 2011, 4:17 pm
Mine too. I think its because she’s so damn adorable.
callmehobo April 11, 2011, 6:28 pm
I know. That baby’s adorable quotient is gonna be over +9000
Maracuya April 12, 2011, 11:10 am
What’s the scouter say about that baby’s cuteness level?!
Hana April 11, 2011, 4:12 pm
fast eddie April 11, 2011, 3:12 pm
hooray! and congratulations. This kid to be is the luckiest to be born of love from two wonderful people. About 200 of us want to be godparents. 🙂
Emi April 11, 2011, 4:36 pm
YAY WENDY!!!!!!!!! Your baby is going to have the coolest, sweetest parents around. You are going to be such an amazing mom. All the best to you on such an amazing, wonderful moment.
silvii April 11, 2011, 3:59 pm
Congratulations!!!!!! Awesome stuff! Cute babies on the way!! yaya!!!!
phoenix287 April 11, 2011, 5:19 pm
congratulations!!!Best wishes to you and your family!
Heather April 11, 2011, 5:43 pm
oh wow. i’ve been away from my computer all weekend and it looks like i missed a lot!!
having said that, wendy i’m beyond ecstatic for you! 🙂
Yammy April 11, 2011, 5:51 pm
Long time reader, first time poster…
Just had to say congradulations. I have a 10 month old myself and I can remember a lot of what you’re probably going through! I’m so excited for you! You are going to be a great mom.
And to Miles- my kitty, Sly, was not too keen on sharing me at first, but now she and my son are good buddies. I bet you and Wendrew will be best friends, too! Remember, when he gets big enough, he’ll be able to share his food with you. Sly loves rice cereal, maybe you’ll like it, too!
Addie Pray April 11, 2011, 5:58 pm
Congratulations, Wendy! I’m excited to hear about this pregnancy and see pictures of your baby. Man, that kid is going to be so cool. Growing up in Brooklyn, with a blogging mom, and a dad who gets to cover the Olympics and Royal Weddings. Can I be your kid?
SpyGlassez April 11, 2011, 6:22 pm
Congrats to you, Wendy and Drew! Don’t worry, I’ll drink a Mojito for you in celebration. 😀
Jenny April 11, 2011, 6:39 pm
Wendy!!! I am so happy for you 🙂 Congratulations!
kerrycontrary April 11, 2011, 7:00 pm
Congratulations wendy! I was at the airport when I read it on my iphone and it definitely made my travel day better. I’m so happy for you and Drew.
eel avocado April 11, 2011, 8:36 pm
Congratulations, Wendy and Drew! Enjoy every moment! 🙂
Spark April 11, 2011, 8:40 pm
Jen April 11, 2011, 8:10 pm
Congrats!!!! A baby! Yay! 🙂 So happy for you both.
Amanda April 11, 2011, 9:20 pm
Amy April 11, 2011, 11:44 pm
AB April 12, 2011, 5:47 am
Congratulations on this exciting news!!!
WatersEdge April 12, 2011, 9:37 am
I knew it! I’ve been following your writing for a while, with citywendy, The Frisky, and now Dear Wendy. You started writing for The Frisky (I think) about being ready to try soon, and all the things you wanted to do before baby. I know a lot went into the whole leaving The Frisky thing, but I hoped that the move to your own website was done at least in part to set you up for a family life. Then you kept saying you weren’t feeling well, so I figured you were pregnant.
Congratulations to you and your family! I am recently married and I have to say, I have a hard time relating to the Frisky writers. They used to have such diverse topics- money, sex, love, marriage, dating, pregnancy, family… the whole gamut of the female experience. Now it’s slideshow after slideshow of things that I already know- like which stars wear glasses. I think that the changes in your life would be excellent fodder for this site. As a woman who is only somewhat into fashion, first date stories, and celebrity slideshows, I am in need of a site with some down-to-earth, real-life content. I just wanted to let you know that, and let you know that there are definitely a few of us who would love to hear about your journey into parenthood.
ReginaRey April 12, 2011, 11:05 am
Quite well said, WatersEdge! I totally agree. Wendy, you emanate such poise, class, and wisdom with everything you write, and I know that we’d all be thrilled to see that shine through in *anything* you do, whether it’s relationship writing or the trials of new parenthood. In my humble opinion, sites like TF could use a whole lot more people like you, and way less know-it-all ‘feminists’ who actually know next to nothing about relationships, and whose writing is painful to read at times.
Eagle Eye April 12, 2011, 11:20 am
I agree…I came to The Frisky to read writers like you and ever since they changed hands the quality of writing has dropped precipitously, which is really too bad.
I, however, also discovered your blog citywendy and I found that I just really enjoy your writing style.
I always look forward to reading more of your work!
MissDre April 12, 2011, 11:26 am
I think one of the things that SUCKS about some of the writers on The Frisky, is that when I first discovered the site the girls were writing about recognizing their past mistakes and all of the positive changes they were making in their lives… it was really inspiring.
And then they met new guys, all those positive changes went out the window, they immediately fell back into the old patterns they were working hard to change, but it’s all ok because that’s just how they are and this new guy is the right one.
I dunno, the site just seems to be on level with Cosmo Girl now… which is NOT a good thing.
spaceboy761 April 12, 2011, 11:40 am
Why? Because slutting around town and hurling yourself down emotional chasms isn’t the path to true fulfillment? I would argue that one must OMG CUTE SUNGLASSES !!!!!1!!!1!!1!!!
MissDre April 12, 2011, 11:43 am
ReginaRey April 12, 2011, 12:08 pm
Haha! Dead on, Spaceboy.
_jsw_ April 12, 2011, 5:32 pm
To me, this (spaceboy761’s) is comment of the week (so far). 🙂
Wendy April 12, 2011, 5:48 pm
Well, it would be ungracious to my former employers — and the people who continue to send me a lot of traffic each week — if I made this the comment of the week. That doesn’t mean I didn’t giggle.
WatersEdge April 12, 2011, 3:37 pm
I so agree, MissDre.
LolaBeans April 12, 2011, 11:44 am
i agree. i love wendy’s writing style. it’s hilarious! and just hits you.
The Frisky isn’t a good read anymore.. there are rarely any personal reflections etc etc. I just don’t like it anymore and don’t frequent it as much as i had in the past.
i only went to the frisky for dear wendy, and now she has her own site! so why even both checking out frisky.
i spent an entire work day reading citywendy one day… so awesome. love the a-z thing.
Addie Pray April 12, 2011, 11:57 am
Agreed. The A-Z thing is my absolute favorite! When I first discovered City Wendy I printed off all the A-Z posts and read them one night after work at a local bar. With wine of course. Was a lovely evening.
WatersEdge April 12, 2011, 3:35 pm
I totally agree about the know-it-all “feminists” who have the answer to everything in theory, but whose actual lives are nowhere near where they want them to be and they can’t figure out why. I feel like I figured out everything they’re writing about relationship-wise 5 years ago. Meanwhile they are a good 7 years older than me. It really is painful to read sometimes. And every time I post on that site I get slammed for being ridiculously traditional, which I’m really not in the grand scheme of things. But things that I see as being very basic, like “if he doesn’t call you, it means he didn’t want to talk to you and it is not an invitation for you to hunt him down” are considered to be anti-feminist. Ooookay…
I’d love to give this feedback to the Frisky writers themselves, but I can’t magically make them more mature or make them have more diverse interests, so I don’t see the point.
ReginaRey April 13, 2011, 9:49 am
Thank you for saying this! I agree – I’m younger than everyone on the site, and feel like I figured these things out a while ago, and they’re still fumbling around. I also get burned for posted logical, common-sense, “traditional,” responses and so I don’t comment most of the time anymore. That’s why I love DW so much, everyone here seems so much more logical, mature, thoughtful, and open-minded, even if some of us are only in our early 20’s! Also agree with you about how they use “feminism” as a transparent excuse to be desperate and needy at times…it makes me so frustrated.
Wendy April 12, 2011, 10:06 am
Done. I’ve been wanting to incorporate more personal writing on this site, but as with my personal blog, I just got really, really bored writing about myself and my life. For the most part, I’m pretty happy — which is totally boring to read about — and the things I’m maybe not as happy about — some minor friendship issues, the way I was treated at my last job (ahem), and a few other things — would not be appropriate for me to discuss publicly. Now that there’s a new adventure on the horizon, I know I’ll have more to say. I’m glad to hear there are people who are interested in reading about it!
Jess April 12, 2011, 10:38 am
mommy blogger? I think you’d be great!
spaceboy761 April 12, 2011, 11:36 am
Hell to the no.
The world does not need another mommy blogger to add to the millions of mommy bloggers. What the world does need is a continually engaging, smart, and entertaining relationship blogger, preferably with red hair.
Wendy April 12, 2011, 10:45 am
Ooh, I don’t know if I’m ready to embrace that title just yet. I still like to think of myself as a “relationship blogger.” I’m just adding another type of relationship to my collection!
MissDre April 12, 2011, 11:23 am
Just create static page tabs across the top of your blog. “Relationship Advice” and “Parenting” and so on 🙂 You’ll be fantabulous Wendy!
Jessica April 12, 2011, 10:43 am
I think this is a great idea! I completely agree with WatersEdge. I would love to see more personal stuff from you as you go through your pregnancy. It would be great to read about your experience as a first time mom etc.
I think you have a great thing going here.. you are my absolute favourite blogger. Definitely excited to see some more from you!
Jessica April 12, 2011, 10:45 am
i think i need to change my “name” on here. Too many Jessica’s lol.
Christy April 12, 2011, 1:23 pm
Can we ask when TF was sold to another company and everything started changing? It’s been hinted at for a while now, both on DW and TF, but no one’s said anything outright. Does anyone in the Wendysphere know? I’ve read TF for around two years now, and I just want to know what’s going on.
But seriously, Wendy, your column was always my favorite thing about TF (that and the column about being a lesbian–something else actually relevant to my life). Now that it appears both are gone (and I can get my Wendy fix here) I don’t know if I’m going to keep reading TF.
Maracuya April 12, 2011, 1:34 pm
I think it happened in January officially. I’m not sure how long it was in the works, though.
Wendy April 12, 2011, 1:49 pm
Well, I think now that it’s all over and I know they’ve mentioned on TF that there was a sale, it’s OK for me to talk about. Basically, in mid-November, we staffers were warned that the site was likely going to be put up for sale and we needed to prepare ourselves for whatever that might mean (i.e. staff reduction or in the event that the site failed to sell, it could mean ALL of us losing our jobs and the site being shut down). A few weeks went by and it was all very nerve-wracking for everyone, as you might imagine. Then, two weeks before Christmas, we were told that the site would likely be going dark on the 31st and we’d all be out of work. Everyone was then sent termination notices.
I had been tinkering with the idea of starting my own site for a while. I definitely had Drew’s blessing — he actually purchased the domain for this site a couple years ago — but I didn’t have the balls to leave a well-paying job to start something that might fail — something that had probably little-to-no income potential for many months, at least. Getting that termination letter changed things for me, and while most of the other TF staffers were loyal and vowed to stay on until the bitter end, with obvious hope that a sale could still be worked out and that the site — and their jobs — would be saved before the end of the year, I wished everyone well and said that whether the site sold or not, I’d be moving on.
Well, the site did sell, which is a very good thing. I was really relieved for my co-workers that their jobs were saved and I was hopeful I could still partner with TF somehow and leverage some of their great traffic for my own site. That has worked out well, and I’m grateful for that. Obviously, even though the site was saved, many staffers were still let go. I have no idea if I would have been one of them if I’d elected not to start my own site. I still think of myself as laid-off since I got an actual termination letter. And a termination letter less than two weeks before Christmas sucks donkey balls, let me tell you.
But, anyway, it has all worked out. I’m very happy where I am now, and I wouldn’t have done anything differently.
MissDre April 12, 2011, 2:04 pm
Sucks donkey balls! That is TOTALLY something I would say!!! Love love love it! And I know what you mean, I was let go 2 weeks before Christmas 2009. They couldn’t even pay out my last cheque. It was so shitty!
Anyway, congrats Wendy. We are all really glad you started your own site and we all support you 100%. I actually hope I’ll be able to buy an ad on your blog once I finished writing my e-book (if I ever stop procrastinating that is…)
MAC2011 April 12, 2011, 12:59 pm
Yayyyy Congratulations Wendy & Drew! Welcome to the wonderful & crazy world of parenthood!
_jsw_ April 12, 2011, 1:01 pm
I wonder what age young Wendrew will be when s/he first decides to look back in the archives of Mom’s blog to see the announcement of his/her pending arrival.
S/he will likely think two things:
(1) “Mom, you used to swear?!?”
(2) “What is ‘The Frisky’? I can’t find it anywhere!”
princesspetticoat April 12, 2011, 2:02 pm
Aww congratulations, Wendy! I’m very excited for you and wish you and Drew (and the little one!) all the best.
jena April 12, 2011, 3:17 pm
Anne (I Go To 11) April 12, 2011, 4:55 pm
Congrats to you both! How exciting!
suesues April 12, 2011, 6:01 pm
Yay!!! Aww, I’m so excited for you!! I know I barely ever comment, but I’ve been an avid reader of your various blog posts for a while now. This is awesome news – I’m really happy for you both! *Big hugs!!*
Skyblossom April 12, 2011, 8:23 pm
Congratulations!!! What a beautiful baby picture! Doesn’t your heart go out and wrap around that baby when you see it on the ultrasound! I’m delighted for you, Drew and the baby.
Joanna April 12, 2011, 8:57 pm
Diana April 13, 2011, 9:17 am
gosh i don’t visit here for a few days and look what i miss?! CONGRATULATIONS! so happy for you and drew!
Quakergirl April 13, 2011, 7:19 pm
Ah! I can’t believe I missed this in my brief internet hiatus! CONGRATULATIONS! That’s so wonderful for you guys. I’m sure you’re going to be an amazing mom– you’ve certainly been a great relationship/life guide for all of us thus far!