Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

New York Cats in Need of New Home

Since I know so many of you who read this blog are crazy cat people like I am, I’m posting this in hopes of finding a good and loving home for my friends’ beautiful cats. These two sisters, both almost four, are sweet and affectionate but, unfortunately, don’t get along with the 1-year-old baby they currently live with and are looking for a new home. They have to be placed together and would thrive in a home where they could get all the love and attention they deserve. They would be sure to return it in spades (once they settle into their new digs, of course). If interested, please email me for more info, and please share with friends who may be interested. They currently live in Brooklyn and could be picked up there or dropped off locally.

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  • Fabelle October 9, 2012, 12:59 pm

    Aw, I’m pretty local & I would LOVE to take these gorgeous girls, but we already have 3 ๐Ÿ™ I’ll ask around for you, though!

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    • Wendy October 9, 2012, 1:23 pm

      Thank you, please do!

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  • Addie Pray October 9, 2012, 1:17 pm

    If you can’t find a home for the cats, I’m happy to take the one year old!

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    • Wendy October 9, 2012, 1:21 pm

      Bwahaha. You’re funny, Addie Pray.

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    • iwannatalktosampson October 9, 2012, 3:03 pm

      Addie Pray you are one creepy comment away from getting a full blown intervention. (cough babynapper cough)

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      • Addie Pray October 9, 2012, 3:18 pm

        Does “intervention” mean friends fly in, whisk me away from work, and spend the next 48 hours eating and drinking with me, talking, relaxing in a spa, getting massages, and taking walks? If yes, how’s this: I SAVE MY BOYFRIEND’S USED TISSUES SO I CAN HAVE A PART OF HIM CLOSE TO ME AT ALL TIMES EVEN WHEN HE’S AWAY. Ok, come intervene me!!!

  • jlyfsh October 9, 2012, 2:08 pm

    When I was a kid we took in a cat that didn’t like the new baby in it’s house. I wish I was closer so that I would know more people and that I wasn’t allergic now and I could take them! I really hope they are able to be adopted together!!

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  • HmC October 9, 2012, 2:43 pm

    Those look like sexy kitty boudoir photos!

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  • quixoticbeatnik October 9, 2012, 2:46 pm

    Aw I want the kitties! Too bad I live in Houston and not New York….I want a cat so, so bad. But I can’t afford it right now, so I’m not.

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  • ele4phant October 9, 2012, 2:48 pm

    One of my biggest fears about my theoritical child – that it will be them or the cat (and its obvisouly not an option to choose the cat).

    Obvisouly you gotta do what you gotta do for the kid’s safety – but poor kitties!

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    • kerrycontrary October 9, 2012, 2:51 pm

      same with me and my dog….she doesn’t like the loud noises kids make now.

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  • sarolabelle October 9, 2012, 2:52 pm

    What do cats do to new babies? To me, you can just keep the kitties and the babies in separate rooms right?

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    • rachel October 9, 2012, 2:59 pm

      If they are really stressed out about it, it’s not good for them. Also it might lead to them peeing where they are not supposed to.

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    • Addie Pray October 9, 2012, 3:02 pm

      I’m sure the cats do something – I doubt anyone would give up their beloved pets lightly! My guess is the cats attack the baby with the daggers they hide in their bellies. Besides, this is NY; there is no such thing as “separate rooms”! That reminds me, did you guys see the world’s smallest condo in London selling for like close to $300,000? It’s a shoe box!

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    • jlyfsh October 9, 2012, 3:13 pm

      Wendy listed some great examples of why it’s not easy to have the cats and baby together. The cat we adopted just did not adjust to the new baby at all. She pretty much hated the baby. She tried to smother it a few times before the people just gave up and had to find her a new home. She slept behind the dryer in the days before we took her. And I mean what are you going to do, keep the cats in another room until the kids get to be school aged and finally learn to stop bugging the cat? That could be years, is that fair to anyone? If they’re not getting along now by the time the baby is really walking around and grabbing at things, like cat tails. Things are really going to get bad and one of the cats might hurt the baby. It sucks but it’s easier to try and find homes then deal with something like that down the road….

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    • katie October 9, 2012, 3:13 pm

      yea, a new baby is like any other change to a cat… a new home, another pet, the switching food brands, ect. cats dont like change anyway, and a baby is a huge change, and one that doesnt really ever “go away”- its a new normal, not a little blip on the radar and then everything goes back to normal. some cats dont do change well…

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    • Wendy October 9, 2012, 3:07 pm

      Well, we were really lucky that our cats did very well โ€” surprisingly well โ€” with the transition of Jackson’s arrival. But not everyone is that lucky. Babies could develop allergies to the cats, for one thing. Cats are often very jealous of the attention a new baby gets and will pee on baby’s things or swat at the baby (much the same way an older, jealous sibling may “act out”). Families who live in small apartments don’t really have the luxury of keeping the cats in a separate room. And if you happen to have a baby with special needs, any of these “regular” challenges can become completely overwhelming, making it damn near impossible to create a living environment that’s happy for anyone. It’s certainly not ideal, but in a situation like this, obviously a family chooses the baby and the cats are often re-homed. If a home isn’t found for these two lovely kitties, I fear they will be taken to a no-kill shelter, unfortunately. So if anyone knows of anyone in the NYC area who could give them the home they deserve, I’d be so grateful for your help! i’d take them myself if I didn’t already have a full house. Luckily, working from home allows me the time and energy to give lots of attention to Jackson AND the cats (but two is our limit).

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  • TaraMonster October 9, 2012, 1:52 pm

    I’ll ask around. I just can’t take on any pets right now because I’m living w a friend while my ex stays in our place and watches my kitty (who I miss SO MUCH) until I find a new place. I’m looking for a 2br in the Park Slope area w a friend (Brooklyn here I come!). But I have lots of crazy cat lady friends. ๐Ÿ™‚ I will spread the word.

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    • Wendy October 9, 2012, 2:04 pm

      Thanks! If you move to Park Slope, we will be neighbors (I live in Prospect Heights).

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      • TaraMonster October 10, 2012, 10:17 am

        Cool! I love Prospect Heights, but my soon-to-be roommate would prefer Park Slope and I’m a new to BK, so I’m following his lead.

        I’m a little sad to leave Manhattan. I’m afraid I’ll never catch a cab again after a night of drinking lol.

  • Emma October 9, 2012, 2:01 pm

    Those are some beautiful cats. Wish I lived in NYC/my own sister kitties got along with other kitties.

    I hope they find a good home.

    I want ALL the kitties.

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    • bethany October 9, 2012, 2:19 pm

      I want all the kitties, too!

      We have 2, and my husband says no more ๐Ÿ™

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      • katie October 9, 2012, 3:15 pm

        me too. im tapped out, and not by choice… lol

  • katie October 9, 2012, 3:17 pm

    cat question totally unrelated to this:

    i just saw a picture someone posted on facebook with a girl and her cat, a little baby kitten, and the caption said, “i hate leaving him alone for 12 hours a day, but the welcome is so sweet when i get home” or something.

    i really want to say something to her about how she is probably ruining her cat by leaving it alone for 12 hours a day. socialization issues, seperation anxiety, ect… it happened with me and my cat, and she is a total bitch and will never like anyone else except me and jake. i want to write her a message and warn her about this. i know, i know, its “none of my business” but the world doesnt need another seperation anxiety ridden cat that might be given away because of behavioral issues.


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    • iwannatalktosampson October 9, 2012, 3:28 pm

      Hmmm I would be really insulted if someone sent me a message like that. I thought cats could be left alone even if you just went away for the weekend? I kind of agree with you – when you adopt an animal you should assume you can be gone 8 hours a day – max. But that’s not really realistic. Maybe instead just try to educate any friends or anyone you know if they talk about wanting to get an animal. I know a lot of people do it very willy-nilly (I sure did) and don’t realize how much time/energy/money animals take.

      Do all cats have anxiety issues? I know Sampson’s specific breed is more anxiety prone so when I have to be gone for 8 hours I’ll try to take him on a walk that morning before I leave so that he’s too tired to be stressed. Eventually when I get a job that requires both Ethan and I to be away from the house for 10 hours I will look into daycare’s for him. I actually already have and know that as long as I work in cherry creek, the tech center, or downtown – which are the three most likely places I’ll end up working – there are great daycare’s for him. I just consider it the cost of owning a dog.

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      • Addie Pray October 9, 2012, 3:34 pm

        OH SHIT LIGHT BULB LIGHT BULB: We don’t leave cats home alone all day long because they are angry/vicious creatures, cats are angry/vicious creatures *because* we leave them home alone all day! Cat owners, you got to step it up, to save man kind. Otherwise the cats will revolt.

      • katie October 9, 2012, 3:38 pm

        Yea I figured. Dang it

        And I think it depends on the cat, but cats are just as social as dogs are. It’s cruel to leave a social animal alone for so long. And, worse, like what happened to my cat, they will develop socialization issues.

        It’s actually illegal to only own one social animal in like Norway or something. You have to have 2 or not work.

      • iwannatalktosampson October 9, 2012, 3:45 pm

        Yeah Ethan and I have actually considered adopting an older dog so that Sampson can have a friend – but then we would have two dogs. I am happy with just one… he’s work enough! Although he already sleeps about 18 hours a day – we’ve discovered this on weekends and stuff – and he always gets his energy late at night – like right before we go to bed – so we assume he’s awake for one hour tops during the day. This is one of the reasons I would love to set up the video camera to tape him while we’re gone – I’m so curious about what he does. He normally sleeps in until 10 unless we wake him up – and then goes back to sleep around 11 on the weekends – so we guess he just sleeps all day – but I want proof. What if he’s like plotting against us? Or even worse what if he’s freaked out?

      • katie October 9, 2012, 3:54 pm


        well, i will tell you, because we got another cat after i begged jake forever, and zoe is *so* much better now with someone to chase around the house if were not there (and, i like to think, just someone else there. someone with her, her friend, her other half, ect..), but after you own one animal, two is really nothing extra. and i told my mom that, and she said that its the same with kids… you know? like taking care of one other being is a huge change if youve never done it, but if you taking care of one, taking care of two is not a big leap.

    • bethany October 9, 2012, 3:38 pm

      Some cats don’t enjoy human company at all. I had one that wouldn’t ever want to be in the same room with me or anyone else, for that matter! Some cats are fiercely independent.
      As long as she’s taking care of the cat, I don’t see the harm in her being gone 12 hours a day. In a few years that cat will probably be asleep the whole time she’s gone, anyway!

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      • bethany October 9, 2012, 3:40 pm

        Also, if it’s a kitten that she just adopted from a shelter, ANYTHING is better than the life it was going to have before she adopted it. It’s no fun in the shelter.

      • katie October 9, 2012, 3:41 pm

        Well, that’s what I thought about my cat too and now she is ruined…

      • bethany October 9, 2012, 3:51 pm

        Yeah, but at least she’s alive.

      • katie October 9, 2012, 3:55 pm

        yea, i guess.

        i dunno though, i really hate that agrument against any living thing- like atleast the kid wasnt aborted, even though his life completely sucks, he is alive.. or like for animals or anything. i dunno.

    • ele4phant October 9, 2012, 4:29 pm

      I wouldn’t say anything, unless you have a very candid relationship with this woman.

      I mean, I agree that its probably not wise (or kind) to leave home alone all day. However, I don’t think its as clear-cut as “leave a cat alone all day it turns into a hellion”. Cats do have different personalities to start with, and isolation may or may not extrabate that.

      While its not responsible, its not abusive, so I don’t think its anyone elses business to comment.

      Side-note – I read someone elses comment on facebook where my friend wanted tips in how introduce her cat to the outside, and some causal acquantice (of hers) was all “Oooh don’t its dangerous!!!” And I had my bite my tongue not to respond and tell her to STHU. A similar situation to yours I think. Cats obvisouly can get hurt or killed going outside, but they’re animals, it makes them happy. Staying inside all the time does not. Plus, my friend lived in an area that could not be any more perfect for letting a cat out, very little traffic, not too many natural predators. If someone personally doesn’t want to risk it and let their cats to go outside, that’s fine, but again, its not abusive.

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      • theattack October 9, 2012, 4:45 pm

        Omg, I think HmC would want to collaborate with you in telling that person to shut up.

    • LM October 9, 2012, 4:43 pm

      Katie – I wouldn’t leave a message like that. The same thing can be argued about the cats my husband and I have. We now have 4 (yes, we ARE the crazy cat people on the block) and we leave them at home alone for at least 11 hours a day. They are still very sweet tempered and affectionate and we don’t have any shredded up or peed on things when we get home. In situations like this, I think it is the quality of life and love the cats have. I think that if this girl was really worried about it, she’d adopt another kitten so the first one could have company during the day.

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      • ele4phant October 9, 2012, 4:56 pm

        Well, I think technically, you’re not leaving them alone because they have the company of each other. Without human supervision, yes, but not alone. That’s why people are usually advised to get two or more siblings, so they can have company.

        Sometimes I have to leave my older cat alone for long periods of time, and I feel bad but sometimes that’s how the day goes. (Although, I was a student when he was a kitten, so he got plenty of attention as he was developing). It happens.

        Either way, its not ideal, and I hope someone considers their lifestyle before getting a cat – particularly a kitten, but at the end of the day, I think leaving a cat alone for long periods of time isn’t a guarantee its going to have behavioral issues. It may up the liklihood, but ultimately, I wouldn’t call it abusive or worth sticking your nose into.

      • katie October 9, 2012, 5:03 pm

        exactly what elephant said- your cats arent alone because there are 4 of them. and that is my point, not that she should be home more, but that the kitten should not be left 100% alone for such long periods of time.

        i mean just imagine the poor little kitten, young and not even understanding the world yet, in a completely dark (for atleast some of the time), completely silent, completely empty house. it makes me want to cry. and i want to cry knowing i did it to my cat. ugh im a terrible person.

        ok fine, everyone, i wont say anything and just let the poor thing have a terrible life. ugh.

      • ele4phant October 9, 2012, 5:12 pm

        How well do you know this girl? Is she like a friend of a friend? Or is she someone you know well and who’s living situation well?

        Maybe she has roommates or a live in SO, so while *she* doesn’t get to see it for 12 hours, maybe *somebody* does in that time.

        And while I know you hate “Well at least its not dead!” sorts of arguements, it is kinda true. Living as a stray, being abused (like really abused, not just left for too long) and yes, being dead, are all worse alternatives. There are so so SO many cats without caring homes (and she is meeting the cat’s basic needs, so this qualifies as a decent enough living situation), so its chances of getting a decent home if it was put back in the shelter are pretty low. The older and older that kitten gets – and you know they grow lightening fast – its realistic alternatives for a better life melt away.

        I guess the take home is – everybody spray and neuter your pets! The supply of good homes far outstrips the demand!

      • katie October 9, 2012, 5:44 pm

        i knew her in high school, she was a grade under me. she is in college, i assume she has roommates, but i dont know. i havent talked to her since i graduated, so like… 4-5 years?

        and i know that is true, that there is worse alternative then being alone, but i dunno. i think isolation, especially for a social being, is a certain specific kind of torture. it makes me think of the scientist who took newborn monkeys away from their moms at birth (or whenever they could be on their own) and put them in 100% isolation for their childhood. he did it to study the link between mother and child, and to study love. something happened mentally to them, and even after being socialized after that period as a “child”, they were never ok again. i would say that isolation is something truly terrible, much worse then a lot of other supposedly “just fine, atleast they arent dead or in a shelter” situations, you know? AND i honestly would say that most people would have given away my cat if they had to deal with her. and i would hate for another person to go through that, when there is something that they can do (even simple things like getting them a stuffed animal to sleep with, so they feel like they are with their mom and siblings) to prevent another cat being given away when it is 1. older and 2. has behavior problems, because we both know what happens to those cats.

        ok, ill write a really nice letter. i can word it good, im sure of it. and i promise, if it sounds bad, i wont write it!

      • katie October 9, 2012, 5:47 pm

        haha.. i can word it good… OH YES I CAN. lol

      • ele4phant October 9, 2012, 6:01 pm

        Well, again, if it will make you feel better go ahead and write it, go for it (and seeing as you haven’t talked to her in years if you alienate her its no skin off your nose), but you are making some big presumptions. If it were me I wouldn’t want to make judgements about the situation and inserting myself in there without being sure of what was going on.

        She could have roommates and the kitten is getting plenty of attention, just not hers. She could have an older cat already (or a dog or some other creature to keep kitty company). Her work schedule could be temporary, maybe next week she’ll have all the time in the world. Maybe she’s asked a neighbor to drop in every now and again because she’s gone so long. You can’t tell just from one Instagram with a short comment on facebook what this girl is doing or what environment the kitten is actually living in. For me there would be too many unknowns to feel comfortable putting my opinion out there, but again, its probably a low risk situation on your end.

        And I can certainly sympathesize that your experience makes you particularly sympathetic to this kitty’s plight, but ancedotes can be a dangerous thing when we try to generalize them. So what was terrible for your kitty might not be be the same for others.

        I’m not trying to dissuade you from doing what you feel is necessary, but just trying to raise some points.

      • katie October 9, 2012, 6:08 pm

        No, no, there perfectly valid and correct points.

      • katie October 9, 2012, 5:14 pm

        ok- but what if i worded it like, hey, i was in your same spot with a kitten and leaving it alone, and this bad stuff happened to me, so watch out for these signs and here are some websites that helped me if it happens to you to. i went through like 1 year and a half of pretty much hell with my cat, so hopefully you wont?

      • ele4phant October 9, 2012, 5:28 pm

        Eh, maybe. Honestly, while its not really your business, its still not like you’d saying something really incinderary like “You are a terrible parent to your human child.” If you offend her, its still probably not going to be hugely so. And if its going to make your conscience feel better, the risk of royally pissing her off is probably pretty low.

        (At the same time, if you’re worried about cats having misreable lives, focusing on ones that have sub-par but acceptable lives seems a little misplaced, ya know? How about skipping straight to the ones that have absolutely terrible lives? Maybe volunteering at a shelter, trying to get older kitties placed in homes or giving them *some* human attention would really make a difference in some cats’ lives. You know, this one is ultimately going to be fine, or fine enough. Others are already not so lucky.

        If you contact her, I’d take the following into consideration: How well do you know this girl? If you’re just an acquantice, I wouldn’t contact her. Have you met this kitten, do you know its disposition? Has she met your cat, and noted what a hellion it is (erm used to be), maybe making her more receptive to your experience?
        I still wonder how much of it has to do with kittens natural personality. I’ve had friend’s who’ve adopted kittens from shelters that were born as strays, and no matter how much attention that they were given as kittens, part of them never got fully domesticated. I’ve also seen kittens that are just so lovey-dovey as babies, and there’s maybe something hardier about their mental dispositions. Being alone for long stretches doesn’t seem to make a difference, at least they seem to turn into loving and contented adults.

        Anyways, if it REALLY bothers you, I guess go for it. Personally, I think there are bigger kitty-related battles to fight, kitties in far more dire straights who need advocates, and if it were me I wouldn’t say anything, but I don’t think you have a ton to lose.

    • theattack October 9, 2012, 5:12 pm

      I think if you’re REALLY REALLY careful with your wording you can suggest that your friend get another cat. Respond to the part about how they hate leaving the cat alone, not the part about the welcome. Like “I hated having to leave my cat at home. The cat did so much better when we finally got another one to keep it company. Maybe your cat would enjoy a new kitty friend too?” It’s not giving unsolicited advice really, but it’s more like commiserating in how sad it is to leave a kitty home and sneaking in some advice.

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    • Addie Pray October 9, 2012, 5:39 pm

      If you’re dying to tell this FB friend something – and I’m not sure, I haven’t read all the replies above – but why don’t you just say something like: “Aww, cute kitty cat! Be careful with leaving her home alone for so long – we did that and our cat has turned into a sociapathic people-hating little monster!”

      There. Done. Is it time for wine yet?

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      • katie October 9, 2012, 5:48 pm

        aw, AP what would i do without you?? simple, to the point. awesome.


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