Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Open Thread and Friday Links

Happy Friday! What do you have planned for the weekend? I want to take the kids to a family-friendly performance by a Zimbabwe hip-hop band tomorrow and to family day at the Guggenheim on Sunday but they are already complaining about both things, so we’ll see. I got a migraine last weekend that knocked me on my ass for 36 hours, so if I can remain pain-free this weekend, I’ll come out ahead regardless what we end up doing.

Hope you all have a great weekend, and here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

The Worst Dating Advice People Have Gotten From Their Married Friends

Can Marriage Counseling Save America? (TBH, I think it’s time for a divorce…)


“Many parents no longer want their children marrying people from a different political party — 35% of Republicans and 45% of Democrats, to be precise. Workers, like Richard, feel politics simply has no place in the office. And Americans at large dread the idea of Thanksgiving dinners with family members who might bring up President Donald Trump. Some on the right are even concerned we are on the verge of a new Civil War.”

— Welcome to the Fractured States of America

FYI: What Is the Best Pre-Sex Meal?

What I Wish I Knew About Finding Love Again After My Marriage Ended

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!
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  • Kate November 15, 2019, 5:52 pm

    I have a new baby. He weighs 6 lbs and his name is Ben. He’s all white with two tri-color ears. I thought I could never do it again, but my husband was so wrecked after our Mike passed, we’re at it again.

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    • Kate November 15, 2019, 6:12 pm

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      • Ange November 15, 2019, 6:22 pm

        He’s an absolute DARLING. That little face!

        I get it too, when my cat died we had a new kitten 5 days later. You have a lot of spare love to give once they go, might as well share it with another lucky animal.

      • Kate November 15, 2019, 6:37 pm

        Thanks Ange. And yeah, taking care of an older pet with health issues can be even more than taking care of a puppy. It leaves such a blank behind. He’s really helping us heal.

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      • ktfran November 15, 2019, 9:25 pm

        He’s super cute. Congrats Kate.

      • Part-time Lurker November 16, 2019, 9:53 am

        He’s adorable!

      • Fyodor November 17, 2019, 9:32 pm

        That is one cute puppy!

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      TheLadyE November 16, 2019, 2:10 am

      Oh my goodness, congratulations Kate! He is adorable and I know he’ll be well-loved and have an amazing life with your family.

      It’s so ironic you’d post this today because today…today is the day I brought my girls home. Two little poodle puppies, Lily Anne and Ginny Grace. Lily is white and Ginny is apricot. They’re 8 weeks old(ish) and I adopted them from Carolina Poodle Rescue. I was originally only going to bring Lily home (I’ve had my Lottie’s sister’s name picked out for years) but her apricot sister wasn’t adopted last week so I decided to bring both of them home! That way they have each other and won’t be lonely, something I always felt guilty about with Lottie. I haven’t posted any real pictures yet because I had to drive 4 hours one way to get them today but they’re sleeping together in their little playpen and I’m sure I’ll get lots of pictures in the coming days.

      Lily is ENAMORED with me. She spent the drive home on my shoulder with her face pressed against mine. I do wonder, woo-woo though it may be, if she is my Lottie come back to life (she was born after Lottie passed). She is IN LOVE with me. Her little sister Ginny is quieter, shyer, but is warming up to me too. It almost feels like Lily is for me and Ginny is for her. I’ve never had two dogs at once but I definitely want to develop a strong relationship with both of them!

      And also, I had a two hour long informal interview/working session this week with a friend who wants to hire me, so I should have good news on the job/career front by Thanksgiving as well. I need an offer so I can provide for these two little ladies!

      My boyfriend is meeting them tomorrow and I’m so excited to see him in dad mode. <3

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      • ktfran November 16, 2019, 2:54 am

        Congrats to you too @theladye.

      • Kate November 16, 2019, 6:06 am

        That’s awesome on both fronts! I’m glad you’re going to be a pup mom again, and sisters will be great!!!

      • Kate November 16, 2019, 7:01 am

        Also, speaking of “dad mode,” my husband never had a puppy, he met Mike when Mike was almost 6. They were BFFs and twinsies. They were home all day together most days, and he slept on the floor with him at the end. He got a tattoo of Mike’s paw print (from a stencil of the clay prints the vet made) right after he died.

        He’s learning how puppies are different, the type of care they need. It’s good!

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      • Miss MJ November 16, 2019, 11:38 pm

        I meant my fantastic! For @LadyE’s new pups! (But also fantastic – again – for @Kate!)

        Rescuing a new pup definitely has helped me work through my grief of losing my older dog. She’s obviously a different dog, not the same at all, but it’s healing to have something to love.

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        TheLadyE November 18, 2019, 2:02 am

        Lol, well, I was wrong. Ginny is super attached to me, even more than Lily now. They’re on the bed tonight (they cry unless they get to be on the bed) and I walked away for 2 seconds to change the laundry and Ginny JUMPED OFF THE BED. She’s 3lbs. It was super scary and she cried, but she seems fine. She snuggled with me awhile and now they’re both asleep on the bed again.

        Lord, puppies.

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        Copa November 18, 2019, 10:50 am

        I think my dog is some kind of anomaly because he was honestly so easy as a puppy. There were accidents, of course, but not that many. He had full run of the living room when I went to work at five months old and never got into anything. The worst thing he ever did (chew the corner of my couch) happened while I was sitting right next to him but not paying attention.

        He also has the biggest crush on my boyfriend and it’s the sweetest thing. Sometimes I’ll hear my boyfriend talking to the dog when I’m in another room and it makes me so happy.

    • Miss MJ November 16, 2019, 11:33 pm

      Awwww!! Adorable!

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      • Kate November 17, 2019, 10:52 am

        Yeah, I need someone to take care of and give a bath and brush their teeth and dress them up in a little warm coat. And cuddle and kiss. I have a maternal instinct but only for animals.

    • Vathena November 17, 2019, 10:33 pm

      Congrats, Kate and LadyE! This warms my heart. The puppies of the world are so lucky to have caring folks like you. Hope everyone is settling in well!

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      MaterialsGirl November 18, 2019, 10:16 am

      Congrats! So adorable, look at that cute face

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      Copa November 18, 2019, 10:42 am

      Aw! So cute! Are you keeping the name Ben? My dog was named Carl when he was at the shelter. Haha. I re-named him and almost named him Doug.

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      • Kate November 18, 2019, 11:28 am

        My husband named him Ben. He didn’t have a name yet, he was just one of the puppies.

        There was a “Doug” where we used to live. He was a “Chug” – chihuahua/pug – so he was Doug the Chug. So tiny and adorable. Once he showed up alone when my husband was in the dog park, so he let him in and then stuck around until his dad showed up freaking out because Doug had run away. He decided to go to the park and have fun, haha.

  • Howdywiley November 15, 2019, 9:56 pm

    Worst dating advice I’ve received was right as I was leaving on a date with my now husband.

    “He is totally out of your league so try to get accidentally pregnant.”

    Advice was from my grandma.

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    • ktfran November 16, 2019, 2:53 am

      Oh my god. Hilarious.

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    • ron November 16, 2019, 10:41 am

      Not to mention cruel.

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  • Sara November 18, 2019, 2:15 pm

    Wendy do you have any tips for fellow migraine suffers?

    Sorry to hear you had a bad one, hope you’re feeling better!

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