Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy
I’m 28 and have had chicken pox scars my whole life that cover my entire body. Some are big. All these years I haven’t had an issue opening up about my scars to guys whom I have dated, but lately I feel so self-conscious about my scars. There’s a guy I like and we have been talking for months, but we haven’t been intimate yet. How do I show him my scars without turning him off? How do I handle rejection if he starts to pull away? I don’t wear shorts or loose clothes because it’s that bad. — Chicken to Show My Scars

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updatesIt’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Feeling Abandoned” whose mother essentially abandoned the family in 2007 for a controlling boyfriend when the youngest sibling was 17. In more recent months, the LW has cut her mother off, and stopped paying the bills she was helping her mother with, after years of increasing issues with her mother. In her letter, she was grappling with how to negotiate this estrangement and what it meant for her, going forward. Her update below:

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Here’s what we’re discussing this week in the forums:

Family/financial trouble – I don’t know what to do

First dates fail – advice needed

How can I stop being attracted to men?

Missing my ex to the point of it affecting my daily life

Boyfriend Lies to Friends About Me

Losing my friend

Does anyone feel weird because of income/net worth?

Aging Parents

Son at home

Passions vs. School and stability

Coronavirus/ Covid-19/ At-Home Support Thread