Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Happy weekend! What are you all up to? Unfortunately, it’s rainy and dreary here in New York (the picture above was taken a couple days ago when it obviously was not rainy and dreary, and I was very excited about SPRING!), but at least it’s not cold so there’s that, I guess. We have Joanie’s best friend’s birthday party today, some volunteer gardening at Jackson’s school tomorrow, and tonight Drew is going to a concert with some friends which means I will probably take a bath (with my fave bath product), binge watch some Queer Eye, and maybe finish my library book that’s like two weeks overdue (i.e. living my best life tonight).

Sorry I didn’t post any Friday links yesterday. I had some appointments and then the day got away from me, but here are a few for weekend reading:

You Are Not as Good at Kissing as You Think. But You Are Better at Dancing.

Just posting this as a sort-of PSA as I know so many women, including good friends of mine, have embraced the Keto diet and have had success with it. I don’t have much opinion about it except that I’m not really a diet person and so I won’t try it. If you do though, this is maybe something to keep in mind: “Why Long-term Success On Keto Can Be Challenging For Women, According to Hormonal Experts”

America is in ‘sex drought’ and here’s why it matters

I Thought I’d Make a Handsome Man. I Was Wrong.

Tiny Love Stories: ‘He Left Me on April Fools’ Day’

Cloth, cow dung, cups: how the world’s women manage their periods (I usually take two Advil, a shot of tequila, and calculate how many more months until it’s reasonable to expect menopause to begin)

Chrissy Teigen Reveals The Blunt Phrase Women Should Use More Often

Have a great weekend!

My boyfriend of a year has been divorced from his son’s mother for 21 years. They attempted to reconcile several times years ago. He had a terrible drinking problem then but has been sober now for 13 years. They have not attempted getting back together in many years but have maintained a pleasant relationship, mostly on the phone. He emphatically says that, while he loves her as the mother of his child and respects her for bringing up his son in a loving, appropriate home, he has no romantic interest in her whatsoever. She tends to hit him up for financial help every now and then (maybe once every 1-2 years). She is facing retirement due to ongoing sickness and I foresee financial woes. I’m worried he may want to help her out and I don’t like it. Should I, if I find out he is going to help her at times, break it off or just not worry about it? — Suspicious of Financial Woes

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This week in the forums we’re discussing:

Had sex on third date – now what? How to bring up exclusivity?

Should I bring a gift to a potluck wedding?

Love Triangle

Working out when to have kids

My MIL and SIL attacked me out of nowhere

Gut feeling/red flags again

My mum is seeing someone else, should I tell my dad?

Family didn’t celebrate my 30th birthday

What is he thinking? Do I have hope?

“My Fiancé Wants to Postpone Our Wedding”

Questioning how I take care of our dog

Favorite low carb recipes?

Trouble in paradise

Anyone going on awesome dates?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].


If you’ve enjoyed watching these DWDW videos but haven’t actually tried any of the recipes yourself yet, I urge you to break the trend and make this one. It’s loosely inspired by a drink served at a restaurant in our neighborhood that I’ve always loved. I watched how the bartenders made it — with vodka, aperol, among other ingredients — and tried to replicate it at home with no luck. Then, unrelated, I had an idea to mix gin and cappelletti, along with some lemon juice and honey syrup and club soda. I played around with ratios until I finally had something undeniably delicious. And then it dawned on me – even using different alcohol, my drink tasted a lot like the Painted Ladies I’d been drinking at Faun for the last year. I call mine a Pink Lady, and I hope you’ll try it and let me know what you think.

Pink Lady

2 ounces cappelletti
1 1/2 ounces gin
3/4 ounces lemon juice
1/2 ounces honey
2 ounces club soda

Shake the first four ingredients in a martini shaker filled with ice, fill a glass 3/4 full, and top with club soda. Garnish with lemon wheels and an adorable paper straw.

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