Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Dear Wendy readers are some of the most intelligent, stylish, super cool people around (it’s a proven fact), so it’s a no-brainer to feature some of their favorite products. Many of the recommended products happen to be affiliate products, which means I’ll receive a commission on any click-throughs or purchases you make through the affiliate links. As always, I appreciate your support! Today’s recommendations come from my friend, Emily, whose writings have graced DW here, here,here, here, and here. Fun fact: Many, many moons ago, Emily and I wrote a product recommendation blog together. These days, Emily lives in Boston with her musician husband and her insane and adorable dogs. She’s currently drinking too much coffee, watching movies she’s already seen, or bleaching her roots. Here are some of her current favorite things:
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I have been dating my boyfriend for four years now, and my parents clearly disapprove of the relationship. Their disapproval mainly stems from my boyfriend coming from a different culture (ethnicity as well) and nationality.

They have been very logical in their approach, explaining that the negative impacts of differing cultures will not show in the dating phase and that they will only show after a long-term marriage, children, and home cultures are involved. And they know a few intercultural married couples who divorced because of eventual cultural clashes. And because my boyfriend and I have different nationalities, they argue that our future is very uncertain. They value stability a lot. They want me to stay in the same country as they are in or at the least a neighboring country.

Now, my boyfriend is working in Europe, while I am working in Asia, which means we are doing a long-distance relationship, and my parents are expecting me to just slowly ease out of the relationship. Of course, that is not happening. My boyfriend and I are still very much in love.

I understand that the potential risk is definitely there, but I don’t want to end my relationship because of things that could possibly happen in the worst case scenario. I don’t want to end my relationship because of my parents’ perspectives. But because their argument is logical, I don’t know how to persuade them. I discussed it with my boyfriend too, about family, education, and all the possible things that might clash in marriage, and we managed to find middle grounds and solutions. Of course, I’m sure there will be many more problems after marriage that we can’t see now, but I believe that if intercultural marriage can work with some people, it can work with us too. I wanted to just let them get familiar with my boyfriend and slowly accept him, but now they are expecting me to slowly break up with my boyfriend, to the point that they refuse to meet him because that would be investing too much in the relationship.

I don’t know how to deal with my parents. What should I do? — Parents Don’t Accept My Cross-Cultural Love

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This week in the forums, we’re discussing:

Friends Wife – accidentally cut her hair with the dog comb

Want to Change First Name

How to meet new friends when you are a single women and in your 40s

My boyfriend slept with my friend after we broke up

Is my friend really my friend?

Fell in love, didn’t work out, need advice

Ideas to Celebrate Fiance’s HUGE Bonus

Deciding to move away from my soon to be EX and daughter

Is this man interested in me?

Blending Family Dynamics

Realized I liked his friend more…I ended things, can I make a move?

Anyone going on awesome dates?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].


Yesterday was Drew’s 48th birthday, but maybe as exciting: it was Jackson’s half birthday and he is now 6-1/2. Parenting a 6-1/2-year-old is way different than parenting a 2-1/2-year-old, which might not come as a big surprise. There are little things about this age that I wasn’t expecting, not because they’re surprising but because, like a lot of parenting, they’re experiences you don’t think about until you have to or until they happen. Some recent experiences that highlight how grown-up 6-1/2 is these days: [click to continue…]


After a stressful couple of years in which I didn’t prioritize myself (my health, well-being, etc.), I vowed to make 2018 a year of good self-care (or at least, relaxing a bit more). So far, I’m pretty on track: On the medical front: I’ve started bimonthly acupuncture sessions to treat my alopecia and anxiety; I had a dental cleaning last month; I get a full physical and gyne exam next week; and I see my endocrinologist a few weeks after that. I still need to see the dermatologist, but I’ll get to it. I’m also working toward changing my diet, eliminating/reducing foods that increase inflammation and eating more of those that fight inflammation. I am sleeping better and have more energy during the day.

More fun that all of than though are the small (and big) pleasures I enjoy as a way to practice self-care. A few of my favorites that I’ve embraced this year:
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