Last week, a (male) LW wrote in complaining about how a woman he’d been out with seven times or so had only paid for about 10% of their dates. This, he noted, was not uncommon in his and his friends’ dating experience. He wrote: “This isn’t the first woman that I’ve had to spend money on. There’ve been others, of course. I’ve heard complaints from friends and other men about women NOT offering to pay. And you know what? I’m tired of it. Men are tired of it.” He went on to say that women have credit cards, educations, and good jobs, and he doesn’t understand where they get this old-fashioned idea that men are supposed to always pay for dates. “Personally, I work just as hard as any woman does for my money,” he said, “and I don’t find it fair. I just don’t want any woman getting the idea that I’m OK with it or that she can take advantage. I don’t want to be her ATM.” Lovely, right?
As of this morning, the post has nearly 230 comments; people have a lot of thoughts about his argument, and there seem to be different ideas of what is normal and expected. So I thought I would open the discussion up further and ask: