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Some call it the “Irish Goodbye,” some call it the “French Exit,” some call it “Ghosting,” and others just call it “rude” or “brilliant.” It’s slipping out of a party without saying goodbye to the host (or anyone else), and some people would love for the trend to catch on here in the states:
“Goodbyes […] represent the waning of an evening or event. By the time we get to them, we’re often tired, drunk, or both. […] These sorts of goodbyes inevitably devolve into awkward small talk that lasts too long and then peters out. We vow vaguely to meet again, then linger for a moment, thinking of something else we might say before the whole exchange fizzles and we shuffle apart. Repeat this several times, at a social outing delightfully filled with your acquaintances, and it starts to sap a not inconsiderable portion of that delight.”
If you’re worried about seeming rude, it’s suggested that you send a heartfelt email the next morning, which can double as a formal thank you to the host.
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