This article in the Times over the weekend made me think of this column from last week where the bride-to-be was annoyed that friends were sharing photos on Facebook of the save-the-date cards she’d mailed. While her annoyance is totally understandable, I’m not sure how I feel about this new trend of couples asking their guests to leave their cell phones, cameras, and other PDAs at the door before attending their wedding. Like, who do they think they are?? The groom interviewed for the Times article said: “A wedding is about having people paying witness. How can they do that if they don’t even hear your vows because they’re too busy taking pictures?” Oh, please, get over yourself!
Luckily, I’ve never been asked to leave all my technology at the door when attending a wedding, but if I were in the future, I’m really not sure how I’d respond. I’m happy to turn off my phone and refrain from taking — and certainly posting — photos if I’m asked, and of course, I’d never surf the net in the middle of a wedding ceremony, but frankly, I’d be offended if I had friends who actually confiscated my phone and camera until after the wedding. I’d probably hand over my gadgets, but I’d definitely re-evaluate my relationship with the couple afterward. What about you? How would you respond?