This lady is so possessive, controlling, selfish and territorial. Everything has to be done her way, she asks so many questions about things that are none of her business, she always wants something material, she’s always complaining and whining about her pain and suffering, and she refers to every part of the house as hers. She agreed to sell it to us, but I don’t know if I can tolerate her at all. I am angry at her sight and constantly crying.
I told my boyfriend how I feel. He said that, if I don’t want to continue with the purchase, we don’t have to. I’m already in the mortgage process and have started some construction on the house. I don’t know what to do; I’m so lost. Please help!!! — The Mortgage Isn’t the Highest Cost
Get out now and move into a home your boyfriend’s mother does not live in and has never owned. Even if you can’t afford to buy another place right now, it’s best to stop the buying process on this home and just move into a rental. Actually, even if you CAN afford to buy a different place, I’d still stick with a rental if you still plan to live with your boyfriend. To go from him living with his mother to him living with you is already a big transition. Give it a year of cohabitating before you decide to commit to buying property together.
For now, buying a home from your boyfriend’s mother, whom you don’t get along with and who plans to live in your basement and boss everyone around and continue acting like she owns the place, is a recipe for disaster. If she can’t afford her mortgage, she needs to sell the house (but not to you) and move into a home she can afford. People do it all the time. And if your boyfriend isn’t ready to move out of his mother’s house, where he’s so comfortable, maybe he’s not ready to live with you or to be away from his mom. Better you accept that now than after you’ve closed on his mother’s house.
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