“In [a] survey, one in five men claimed to have fallen in love at first sight. Just over half were smitten after one meeting and nearly three-quarters had lost their hearts within three dates. In contrast, only one in ten women said they had experienced love at first sight. Most waited until at least the sixth date before deciding whether or not they had found the ‘real thing.'”
A new survey of 1,500 men and 1,500 women ages 16-86 found that men are (or claim to be) more likely to fall in love (uh, lust, maybe?) at first sight than women. Explaining the findings, British psychologist Alexander Gordon said that men use more superficial categories, like a person’s looks, to decide whether there’s potential for life-long commitment, while women actually, you know, weigh important things like, perhaps, shared interests and values and common goals for the future.
A couple of other interesting findings from the study:
* “The average (British) man falls in love just over three times in his life while the average woman falls in love only once.”
* “More men than women claimed to have loved someone who did not love them back.”
* Both sexes said that their first love took the longest to get over.
So, what do you think? Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? How many times have you been in love and how long (or how many dates) did it take you to feel that way? And for those of you who have experienced multiple heartbreaks, would you agree that the first one took the longest to get over?
I’d say I’ve been in love three times. The first two times happened pretty quickly — like maybe within six weeks or so? When I met Drew — obviously the last man I fell in love with — I knew there was something special between us right away. But I was older and wiser by then and looking for something long-lasting. I really took my time to decide whether he was “the one.” And we were long distance, too, and saw each other maybe once every three weeks, so that also sort of forced us to take things slowly. I’d say it was about six months before I really felt in love with him, and then maybe another two months after that before I seriously considered the potential of a future with him. For what it’s worth — and because this is such a hot topic around here — Drew said “I love you” first, but I waited months and months for those three little words. It’s OK to take things slowly sometimes!
Oh, and yes, the first heartbreak was a fucking bitch to get over. Oy vey.