Match.com recently conducted a survey of 5,000 single Americans — the “largest and most comprehensive study of single adults to date,” according to USA Today, and the results may surprise some people. Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist, who helped develop the survey, sums up the general findings this way: “Men are now expressing some traditionally female attitudes, while women are adopting some of those long attributed to men.” Specifically:
Data show men are quicker to fall in love and more likely than women to want children: 54% of men say they have experienced love at first sight, compared with 44% of women; among singles without children under 18, more men (24%) than women (15%) say they want children.
And, across every age group, women want more independence than men in their relationships: 77% of women say having their personal space is “very important,” vs. 58% for men; 78% of women say the same about having their own interests and hobbies (vs. 64% for men). And 35% of women (vs. 23% of men) say regular nights out with the guys/girls are important.
After the jump, a few more findings that may surprise you — perhaps even pleasantly.
•Singles can fall in love with a friend. Seventy-one percent fell in love with someone they did not initially find attractive after having great conversations or shared interests or both; 35% fell in love with someone even though they felt no sparks initially.
•Love can last. Twenty-nine percent report remaining intensely in love with their last partner two to five years; 8% for six to 10 years; and 18% for more than 10 years.
•Hookups and one-night stands can turn into partnerships. Thirty-five percent have had a one-night stand that turned into a long-term relationship.
Being in a marriage — albeit a pretty new one — that reflects some of these findings to a certain extent (I won’t say exactly which findings it accurately reflects), I’m not all that surprised. What I do find a little odd is that thirty-five percent of the people surveyed had “one-night stands” that turned into “long-term relationships.” It’s not that I’m surprised that sex with someone soon after first meeting can lead to a relationship; it’s that I’m surprised we’re still calling those hook-ups “one-night stands.” If those interactions between the sheets lead to long-term relationships, then, by definition, they aren’t really “one-night stands,” are they? Clearly, those relationships last longer than one night. We need to come up with a different term for when sex with a near-stranger leads to something meaningful. Any suggestions?
And what do you think of these findings? Are you surprised — pleasantly or otherwise?
[via USA Today, Jezebel, Time]