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Reader of the Week: Meet Blackbird

There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet Blackbird.



1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?

My name’s Jessi, aka blackbird. I’m 23 and moved to Chicago from Phoenix this summer. I don’t post often, but I still feel like I’m part of the Dear Wendy “family.” Maybe a distant cousin or something.

2. What’s your relationship status?

I have been dating my boyfriend Adam off-and-on for the last two and a half years. He’s from Chicago, and we met at Lollapalooza ’08. After about a year of sporadic LDR-ing, he figured out that he wanted to commit to me, and moved to Arizona with me for a few months, and drove
with me (and my cat) back to Chicago. It’s been like a dream ever since, especially after only being in non-serious relationships since high school.

3. How do you spend your weekdays?

I work at one of the busiest Starbucks downtown, so my day is spent being yelled at by people who think they’re better than me, kicking half-naked homeless people out, and more recently, having our windows broken by people wanting to cause chaos, and using Occupy Chicago as an excuse. It’s exhilarating. I try to work on artwork when I’m not at work.

4. How do you spend your free time?

Trying to meet new people, which has never been one of my strong suits. Taking advice from a few columns past, I’ve started taking classes for things that I’ve never tried before, but always wanted to (burlesque dancing!). I’ve been trying to progress my artwork by drawing a comic or illustration a day. I spend way too much time on the internet.

5. What are your top likes and dislikes?

I love food. Seriously. The best dating advice I have to offer is to date a chef (except for the long hours and the binge drinking/heavy drug use types). I have never been more happy to gain 15 pounds in my life. I love great conversation and I love alone time. I love discovering new things. I love politics and history. I love comics and music. I love dressing up for no reason.

I dislike know-it-alls (probably because I myself am a know-it-all; we don’t play very nice together). I hate ignorant racism and sexism. I dislike lack of work ethic and constant complaining. I strongly dislike Skrillex, mostly because he brought Korn on stage at Coachella and it was terrible and I wanted to die but my friends were really into it for some reason. I dislike when people don’t look me in the eye or get off their cell phone when they’re in line at Starbucks. I’m going to stop now because if I type out every little thing that Starbucks customers do that annoy me I’d have a War and Peace-sized tome (and I just said I dislike complaining).

6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?

“If he wanted you, he’d be with you.” I can’t tell you how many times I’d been told this (in some form or another) and it I felt like it didn’t apply to me at the time. The time I could have saved! My friends knew what they were talking about, and I never listened.

7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?

To never settle. Staying in relationship because it was comfortable or easy always made things worse in the long run, and looking back, there were so many other worthwhile people I could have pursued.

8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?

Notcot.com for cool artsy stuff, thedailywh.at for pop culture and interesting stuff, and npr.org for news. Oh, and Regretsy. Vice Magazine’s Do’s and Don’ts is my guilty pleasure.

*If you’d like to be a Reader of the Week, shoot me an email at [email protected] with “Reader of the Week” in the subject line and I’ll send you some questions to answer.

20 comments… add one
  • Addie Pray October 28, 2011, 2:22 pm

    Nice to meet you! And where in the loop are you? I need some coffee. I promise I will put my cell phone away.

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    • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:21 pm

      Nice to meet you, too! I’m at State and Adams. I’m sure you’re very polite! I usually work nights, so feel free to stop by.

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  • Taylor October 28, 2011, 2:27 pm

    Great relationship advice! And thank you (I think) for the intro to regretsy…I feel my afternoon slipping away =)

    How was your move to Chicago? I made a similar move from out west to Cleveland, and it’s been interesting (mostly good).

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      JK October 28, 2011, 2:32 pm

      Regretsy is awesome, amazing what people try to pass as craft!

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      • lets_be_honest October 28, 2011, 5:11 pm

        Had never been on it before today and just spent an hour literally LOLing.

      • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:23 pm

        Oh my gosh, I spend most of my time refreshing the Regretsy site. April Winchell has me lol’ing for reals all the time. They also have a “secret” club too at cf4l.regretsy.com… the password is cf4l. I’m sorry in advance.

    • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:25 pm

      It’s been good! It’s been interesting adjusting to the different climate and culture here, but I think I’m a good fit. Why did you move to Cleveland? How long have you been there?

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      • Taylor October 29, 2011, 11:01 pm

        I moved for a job/fella (mainly the fella, the job was a well timed piece of awesome that happened because of the fella). I’ve been here a year… I am gearing up for winter # 2 =)

  • Ktfran October 28, 2011, 2:30 pm

    Try http://www.meetup.com to meet new people. I used it when I first moved to Chicago three years ago and now a few of the girls are some of my closer friends.

    Oh, and welcome to Chicago!

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    • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:45 pm

      Thanks! I’m happy to be here! I’ll definitely have to try Meetup.com. I think I’ve been hesitant for a while, but it seems like the best way to find groups of people that have the same interests as you do.

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  • Joanna October 28, 2011, 2:52 pm

    Hey Wendy, can we still sign up to be reader of the week? If so, I’d like to.

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      Wendy October 28, 2011, 3:06 pm

      Sure, just send me an email with Reader of the Week in the subject line.

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  • Britannia October 28, 2011, 3:12 pm

    I agree with you on all the likes/dislikes, as well as the relationship advice! Also, what are your tattoos of?

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    • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:27 pm

      Thanks! My left arm is a Dia de los Muertos-style phoenix that’s unfinished, but I’m lucky that my tattoo artist knows what he’s doing. The one on my right arm is (go figure) a blackbird with lyrics from The Beatles’ “Blackbird.”

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  • AKchic October 28, 2011, 3:45 pm

    Love what I can see of the tattoos. Veddy veddy nice šŸ™‚

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    • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:40 pm

      Thank you!

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  • Me October 28, 2011, 5:05 pm

    I work in the loop, and hope i’ve never been one of your rude customers! I do my best to be nice… my sister is a barista at a starbucks in seattle, and she has the most insane (and hilarious) stories! she is also not shy about being sassy to her customers.

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    • blackbird October 29, 2011, 9:42 pm

      Thank you! You should stop by sometime! I can’t even imagine what it would be like working in the Motherland. I went to the original store some years ago and that place was insane – all the baristas had thousand yard stares.

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    katie October 28, 2011, 9:28 pm

    um, regretsy is amazing. thank you.

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  • Beth October 31, 2011, 12:08 pm

    Any good tips for touristy stuff in Chicago? I go for the first time this week!

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