Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Reader of the Week: Meet Honeybeenicki

There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet Honeybeenicki.



1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?

I am honeybeenicki, also known as just Nicki. I am 25 and from the wonderful city of Madison, Wisconsin. I included a picture, but since I hate having my picture taken, it’s not the best.

2. What’s your relationship status?

I have been married for about 2 1/2 years, but have been with my husband for about 5 1/2 years.

3. How do you spend your weekdays?

I mostly spend my weekends working. I work for the state government doing a job that isn’t even close to my chosen field of work, but it pays the bills. I mostly work with employment statistics and while the job isn’t quite my cup of tea, I do enjoy it most days and I love working with my coworkers.

4. How do you spend your free time?

I was a student straight through until December of 2010, so I never really had “free time” because I spent all of it studying or preparing for classes. Apparently, graduate school was a lot more work than I thought it would be. But now that I have free time, I mostly spend it reading and hanging out with my animals. I have two awesome (although a little strange) cats named Ares and Rayne, a hedgehog named Sophie, a bearded dragon named Mushu, two rats named Jiminy and Merlin and two fantastic English bulldogs named Emma and Justy.

I love to read and spend quite a bit of time doing that. I love true crime books and have recently taken a liking to certain sections of “fantasy” – pretty much anything by Charlaine Harris, Patricia Briggs, and Laurel K. Hamiliton keeps me going. I’m also a huge V.C. Andrews junky as well as J.D. Robb.

When I’m not caring for my menagerie or reading, I enjoy watching random television shows. If anyone were to look at my DVR, they would probably conclude that I’m a very strange person.

I also spend time volunteering with my favorite organizations, such as Planned Parenthood, NARAL, the Humane Society and various political organizations. And when I have the time (and money), I love getting tattoos or watching other people get them. I have spent many hours going with friends as moral support for their first ones.

And finally, I love live music. I love to go to club shows and big concerts and love to listen to new music. I am more inclined toward rock and metal, but I’m pretty willing to listen to whatever.

5. What are your top likes and dislikes?

Likes: Music, animals, Halloween (LOVE it), politics, horror moviestattoos, family, Italian food, education.

Dislikes: People who take things for granted, mean people, most Asian foods, abusers (anyone who abuses their spouse, children, animals, etc), chick flicks.

6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?

When I was a teenager, my mom told me something that I wish I would have listened to earlier: It is better to be alone and happy than in a relationship and unhappy because you are never truly alone. She taught me (eventually when I was smart enough to listen) that I didn’t need to be with someone to make me whole. When I finally embraced that, I was open to anything and my husband just kind of fell into my life.

7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?

My motto is “You can’t fool fate.” Basically, if it is meant to be, then it is meant to be and you can’t force something to happen (or not to happen). It was a tough lesson to learn, but I’m happy to have learned it.

8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?

I love perusing many different funny websites, like www.icanhascheezburger.com (and all of its affiliates, www.passiveaggressivenotes.com, and www.damnyouautocorrect.com. I am also a news junky, so I spend a lot of time on www.CNN.com and various other news websites.

*If you’d like to be a Reader of the Week, shoot me an email at [email protected] with “Reader of the Week” in the subject line and I’ll send you some questions to answer.

38 comments… add one
  • Addie Pray November 29, 2011, 11:06 am

    It’s nice to meet you, Nicki! Why did I think you were much, much older? Maybe because you’re wise beyond your years? I bet the list of your DVR-recorded programs *is* an interesting read! I love it.

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 12:38 pm

      I’m told that a lot. Now, I’m trying to revert back to childhood and its not working since I still have responsibilities.

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  • cookiesandcream November 29, 2011, 11:41 am

    Nice to meet you! If you haven’t read it already, I HIGHLY recommend the book “The Bond: Our Kinship with Animals, Our Call to Defend Them” by Wayne Pacelle (the president and CEO of The Humane Society). It’s a really well-written overview of various topics concerning animal rights and the relationships that form between humans and animals.

    Also, if you love Italian food, then I recommend the restaurant Giacomo’s at the North End in Boston, MA (if you ever find yourself there!).

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 12:39 pm

      I haven’t read that, but I will definitely add it to my list. I’m always looking for new books to read. I love the James Harriot books about his time as a small animal vet in a time that didn’t really embrace the idea.

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  • sweetleaf November 29, 2011, 12:04 pm

    I don’t know why you hate having your picture taken. You are cute as a little bugs nose!

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  • McLovin November 29, 2011, 12:09 pm

    Really nice to meet you Nicki!

    What was your first concert and who would you pay insane money for front row seats to see now?

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 12:41 pm

      My very first concert was Metallica when I was 8 or 9 and then I was hooked. The only band I’ve never seen and would pay pretty much anything to be front row center is Megadeth. I have been to hundreds (if not more) of concerts and live shows, but have never had the chance to see them.

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    • Addie Pray November 29, 2011, 5:37 pm

      Now see, McLovin, “Really nice to meet you” was a very girly [slash, normal] thing to say. How would we have known by this that you are in fact a super handsome, manly man? If I were a guy, I would have said “Well, helloooo, how you doin’?” I’d probably never get a girl.

      I can’t work.

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    FireStar November 29, 2011, 12:18 pm

    I’m seriously jealous you have a hedgehog… they are so adorable looking!

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    • silver_dragon_girl November 29, 2011, 1:27 pm

      Me too!

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      • McLovin November 29, 2011, 1:32 pm

        so let’s have it, how did the holiday go SDG?

      • silver_dragon_girl November 29, 2011, 3:36 pm

        It went very, very well πŸ™‚

  • BroGoddess November 29, 2011, 12:36 pm

    Nice to meet you, Nicki! Your menagerie sounds awesome. What exactly is a bearded dragon?

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 12:42 pm

      Bearded dragons are really great lizards. They are sweet, don’t get too big (between 18 and 24 inches long as adults) and are very easy to care for.

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  • AKchic November 29, 2011, 12:48 pm

    Somehow – you look kind of like I imagined you.

    *laugh* Our dvd collection is eclectic. We just finished rewatching the entire series of “The Adventures of Brisco County, Jr.”. The first sci-fi/western. It too, suffered the Firefly curse. Cancelled before it’s time. *sniff* *sob* *whimper*

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      • AKchic November 29, 2011, 7:33 pm

        Finally! Someone else who knows who Brisco County, Jr. is! I had to explain it to my SO, and even then, he didn’t actually “know”. I got the dvd set and he vaguely remembered seeing a few episodes as a kid (I was in the second grade when the show was on tv).

    • Caroline November 30, 2011, 11:12 pm

      Brisco is one of my favorite tv shows ever! I watched it as a kid and for Christmas a couple years ago, my boyfriend gave me the DVD box set. As a 10 year old, I wrote a fan letter to Bruce Campbell and I still have the postcard I got in return with a photo of him dressed as Brisco on one side and Bruce Campbell’s autograph on the other!

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  • Me November 29, 2011, 2:09 pm

    yesssssssss j.d. robb and hedgehogs!!! we would totally be best friends. and i was just in madison last weekend and spent waaaay too much time in the awesome bars around the capitol πŸ™‚

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 2:19 pm

      There are some excellent bars around here. I’m not a drinker, but we have tons of awesome live music and great bar food. πŸ™‚

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  • visharoo November 29, 2011, 2:33 pm

    Nice to meet you Nicki! Your website list is exactly the same as mine! It is nice to know that there are others out there that are news junkies and find silly Internet humor entertaining!

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    L November 29, 2011, 2:46 pm

    If you like crime novels, you should watch the show NCIS…unless it is already part of your eclectic DVR collection of course! πŸ™‚ I’m seriously addicted. NCIS is amaaaazing.

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      Firegirl32 November 30, 2011, 10:27 am

      Which is exactly why I couldn’t live without USA…I get my NCIS instead of news EVERY night! I <3 that show.

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    TaraMonster November 29, 2011, 3:09 pm

    I pictured you with short, curly brown hair for some reason!

    I just finished Definitely Dead by Charlaine Harris yesterday! I’m slowly making my way through the Sookie Stackhouse series because I request them through the NYPL- their new online system is fantastic for requesting books. When I get a new one, I devour it in about a day. She’s a fun writer. You might like Kim Harrison. She writes urban fantasy pretty well.

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 3:22 pm

      When my hair isn’t long (and it was straightened in that picture), it is really curly but I am definitely very, very blonde. I used to hate having blonde hair, but I’ve come to love it.

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  • Rachel November 29, 2011, 4:33 pm

    Great to meet you Nicki! I think we would totally be friends in real life. I also volunteer a bunch at the Humane Society and <3 a good metal show. I'm super jealous of your hedgehog!

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    • honeybeenicki November 29, 2011, 5:05 pm

      She’s not the most pleasant of hedgehogs but she is beautiful. I happened to be at the pet store when a customer returned her. It was the 2nd person who brought her back because she wasn’t social, so I offered to take her at a discounted price. She just chills in her little house and does laps around her cage every night.

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      • Nadine November 29, 2011, 9:39 pm

        Who would expect a hedghog to be social??!

      • honeybeenicki November 30, 2011, 7:44 am

        Crazy people. I guess some of them can be pretty nice with their people, but mine hates everyone except me. She will just curl up in a ball and hiss and tick until other people leave her alone, but she lets me pick her up and rub her belly.

      • Nadine November 30, 2011, 7:32 pm

        Aw so cuuuute! I have terrible animal withdrawal, none of my friends here have any pets…..

  • blackbird November 29, 2011, 7:06 pm

    Nice to meet you! Your pets’ names are fantastic, by the way.

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  • Nadine November 29, 2011, 9:40 pm

    Nice to meet you!
    I have just recently discovered VC Andrews, and she is creepy and much to my liking.

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    • honeybeenicki November 30, 2011, 7:45 am

      She has been one of my favorite authors for years. She passed away a long time ago (1986 if I’m not mistaken), but had so many finished, partially finished, and rough ideas that “she” has been publishing books since then. Her family and a ghost writer are doing books in her name now. A new one just came out last month.

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    Firegirl32 November 30, 2011, 10:30 am

    Nice to meet you – a fellow Wisconsinite! …who also loves J.D. Robb! (and live music and not wanting to grow up)

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    • honeybeenicki November 30, 2011, 11:54 am

      I sure love Wisconsin πŸ™‚ It is a fantastic place to live… if only there wasn’t winter. Where are you from?

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        Firegirl32 November 30, 2011, 5:28 pm

        Near Menomonie (Stout). I love it here – I agree on the winter thing. I just wish it would finally snow – at least then it at least seems like there’s a reason for the cold!

  • TheOtherMe November 30, 2011, 11:25 am

    Hello “honey” πŸ˜‰
    I am very glad to have gotten to know you a little bit more. I always enjoy your posts and am pretty floored to see how young you are, your comments are always so mature.

    I had also been wanting to ask you why you changed your avatar pic a while back ?

    ++ For every one else, I miss you guys !! xox

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    • honeybeenicki November 30, 2011, 11:53 am

      I try to change it up every once in awhile. I am going to change it again soon. It was me and my husband, then it was my cat Church (he passed away almost 2 years ago due to diabetes) and now it is the cool sand dollar I found while in the Pacific Northwest earlier this year.

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