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Reader of the Week: Meet Sonia Aurora

There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet Sonia Aurora.


1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?

Sonia Aurora Lepe, though as a writer I just use Sonia Aurora, I’m 38 (I’ve been told I look younger so I don’t mind telling people my real age…my philosophy is once people stop being impressed with my age I’ll start evasive maneuvers). I live in North Jersey…I like to say ‘by Giants Stadium’ to New Yorkers, and Exits 16W/ 153 to everyone else, cause apparently Jersey is known for it’s exits…(I learned this when I went to college in Maryland my freshman year).

2. What’s your relationship status?

I have been in a long distance relationship with Scott, who lives in southwest Iowa, for over 4 years. We met at his brother’s/my best friend’s wedding. After no bites on my recurring column idea discussing LDR’s, I decided to write a blog instead at llddr.wordpress.com (soon to be llddr.com, if I can wrest the name back from homestead.com…)

3. How do you spend your weekdays?

By day, I’m an Office Manager at an accounting firm; not terribly exciting, but I am good at admin work and as a creative type I could use the structure.

4. How do you spend your free time?

My free time is spent writing, reading, watching TV, discovering new music, and figuring out ways to earn as many frequent flier miles as possible with the least amount of spending. In the wintertime I tend to crochet and sew a lot…I actually just recently dusted off my sewing machine to make my 17-year-old niece a purse for Christmas, and I’m seriously considering branching out to make and sell stuff on etsy. I’ve also been trying my hand at selling lia sophia but I’m not much of a sales(wo)man…

5. What are your top likes and dislikes?

My top likes are ice cream (I believe ice cream makes everything better), football (I just started getting into college football this season, go Hawkeyes!), my dog Chewy (he’s a big softy…); my dislikes are people that think because I own a Rottweiler he must like to try to bite people and other dogs. I take pride in having an obedient dog, but other dogs actually make me nervous; I’m astonished by poor dog owners that open their door and let their little dog come at mine.

6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?

It was actually from Wendy, from a letter of mine that she answered, where she told me that I needed to stop listening to my family’s well-meaning but warped advice: “Don’t listen to them anymore. Do what feels right for you, and accept that whatever decision(s) you make are ones that are going to be impacting you the most, so listen to your inner voice and try to shut out all the other noise.” I’ve always been wishy-washy about taking a stand for myself, but that final Wendy-push has helped me take significant strides in figuring out what I want for myself, overall, and saying so.

7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?

When a guy asks for space/time, give it to them. I’ve also learned to ask/take it for myself. That part of me that gets anxious has finally started to abate if I just take time to breathe. It does WONDERS for communication, overall, because sometimes you just need to let the emotions settle down, whatever emotions they might be.

8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?

I love advice columns generally, but Wendy and Carolyn Hax are my faves. I also love PinkRaygun.com (I’m biased, as I write for the site), and I’m a little Etsy.com and Ebay.com obsessed. I also love Amazon.com.

*If you’d like to be a Reader of the Week, shoot me an email at wendy@dearwendy.com with “Reader of the Week” in the subject line and I’ll send you some questions to answer.

22 comments… add one
  • Painted_lady January 24, 2012, 12:09 pm

    Re: people who don’t put their tiny dogs on leashes and let them run wherever, I hate that too! I have a massive labradoodle who wouldn’t hurt a fly without provocation, but when some little rat dog runs at him snarling, I can’t prevent my otherwise very sweet dog from acting like…well, a dog. Many people who have little dogs seem to think leashes are just for keeping other people and dogs safe from your dog, but they’re for keeping your dog safe, too! Just because your dog can’t do any damage doesn’t mean he comes with a force field!!!

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    • kittyk January 24, 2012, 12:24 pm

      I hear you on the dog thing! It irks me to no end when someone has a little yapper that hasn’t been trained worth a damn that they let run up on my much bigger (still learning his manners) puppy. They get all nervous and worked up when my puppy then wants to ‘play’ – their solution is usually to just pick the thing up, thus continuing the cycle.

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    • amber January 24, 2012, 12:39 pm

      I agree, also those little dogs terrify my one poor baby like shaking in a corner terrified.He pees when he gets scared and there’s this lady that lets her little dog run around, she scared my dog he peed on the stairs and the lady said to me, looks like someone doesn’t take their dog out enough. I was so mad! I give her the evil eye whenever I see her and her little monster walking around.

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  • JK January 24, 2012, 12:14 pm

    I love Rotts! Some of the sweetest dogs I´ve known have been rotts(another was a pit bull, and several of my dogos argentinos-which also have a terrible reputation).

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    • Sonia January 24, 2012, 2:46 pm

      Chewy is the best dog, but I’ve become such a nervous owner with him…he acts like a puppy still and he’s a whooping 140 lbs….but he does listen to me, thank goodness…

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  • honeybeenicki January 24, 2012, 12:41 pm

    I love Rotties 🙂 If I ever get another dog that isn’t a Bulldog, it will most likely be a Rottweiler. A lot of people think that the big, “scary” dogs are mean (hell, people think my adorable bullies are mean!) because they just don’t understand. I’ve been bitten by 2 dogs in my whole life: one was a tiny little fluffy white psycho and the other was a chihauhua.

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  • AKchic January 24, 2012, 1:00 pm

    Or people who let their little dogs run at your kids. Dude! I train my kids not to pet your strange animals without permission. Train your animals not to pet/lick/touch my strange kids without my permission! *giggle*

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  • TaraMonster January 24, 2012, 1:21 pm

    Ooohh be careful calling it Giants Stadium! I’m sure there’s a DW reader who’s a Jets fans out there getting all riled up… But I’m not one of them so GO GIANTS!! SUPERBOWL WOOOO!!

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    • Budj January 24, 2012, 1:23 pm

      YES! I didn’t want to stick my neck out on the Giants rooting because so far I’ve seen mostly Pats fans here (Sorry, everyone, I hate hate hate the Pats…) GMEN!

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      • TaraMonster January 24, 2012, 1:34 pm

        I hate them too. And I always get the “Why, they’re not even in our division” spiel. I hate them because I have a bunch of NY transplant friends from Rhode Island who are OBNOXIOUS Pats fans -though great friends otherwise haha.

        That, and Tom Brady bores me to tears. Even when they tried to make him interesting on that episode of Entourage it was just like Turtle was hanging out with a Tom Brady cardboard cut out!

        I can’t wait to wipe the field with them AGAIN. Also- my nails are still blue and red from Sunday. And I’m sleeping in my Giants tee every night until the Superbowl. I’m just a tad superstitious. Can you tell?

      • Budj January 24, 2012, 1:36 pm

        haha – I have a weird thing of leaving the room when the Giants start their drives down the field because they seem to do better when I do that….

      • Something More January 24, 2012, 2:05 pm

        I “hate hate hate the Pats” as well; mostly because they are in my division (Bills’ fan here) and because Brady is such a baby.

      • Budj January 24, 2012, 2:15 pm

        agreed. I don’t like how in every major game I have seen him play that he loses he runs straight into the locker room…class act.

      • TaraMonster January 24, 2012, 3:17 pm

        And that freakin scowl he has on when he runs off the feild… Someone throw him a tissue and remind him he’s in the NFL.

      • Lili January 24, 2012, 6:35 pm

        I Recently discovered I have a love-hate relationship with Tom Brady. HATE the man, but LOVED his shiny glossy brown hair. Seriously, during the niners game I was googling tom brady hair products-didn’t come up with anything tho ;(

      • LadyinPurpleNotRed January 24, 2012, 6:38 pm

        I’m a huge pats fan and I’m not a fan of him as a person.

    • Sonia January 24, 2012, 2:48 pm

      lol, I’m actually a Jets fan, and I hate hate hate the Pats too, (obviously!) but so many people still call it Giants Stadium…I’m still trying to remember it’s MetLife Stadium (driving home I can see the name glowering at me)…but it took me forever to call Brendan Bryn Arena Continental Airlines Arena, and now it’s the Izod center *sigh*

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  • kittyk January 24, 2012, 2:05 pm

    Ok its been bugging me because when I first saw your picture I thought you looked like that actress who was in Jericho- so I just IMDB’d you- and got really excited when there was an actress link to click- but no, you’re not her. But way cool you actually are on IMDB!

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    • Sonia January 24, 2012, 2:49 pm

      Thanks (I have no idea which actress but I’ll take it as a compliment ) ! I actually wrote a short film that i *think* is on imdb and did some extra work back in the day when i thought i could be an actress 🙂

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      • kittyk January 24, 2012, 3:00 pm

        It is a compliment 🙂

  • Sonia January 24, 2012, 2:50 pm

    Why did I submit such a big picture of my head?

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  • Anna January 25, 2012, 2:31 am

    Nice to meet you Sonia! And I hear you about big dogs. When discussing our dream future and house, my boyfriend and I came to the conclusion we would like to have 3 dogs: a pitbull for indoors (who will be named Ruger) and two Rottweilers for outdoors (names: Smith and Wesson 🙂 We have to be careful where we choose our home because many communities are biased against those breeds of dogs, saying they are “vicious.” *eye roll* I’ve seen more vicious little terriers!

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