Dear Wendy
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Reader of the Week: Meet Tracey

There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet Tracey.



1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?

I’m Tracey on the site and Tracey in real life – Tracey Morris. I’m 44-years-old and live in Detroit.

2. What’s your relationship status?

Divorced (Yay!) and currently not dating. (Sigh….)

3. How do you spend your weekdays?

I’m an executive administrative assistant for a payroll company, and I write poetry on my blog, href=”http://www.viewofthetem.blogspot.com”>The View of the TEM.

4. How do you spend your free time?

Writing, volunteering at a service that reads for the blind, studying writing, hanging out with my family and friends, writing for my blog, acting as a sometime model for my cousin, Richard Lewis – a very successful and talented artist (he painted the picture of me above; If you’re interested in seeing more of his work, you can click on the link to the Kresge Arts in Detroit website.), writing, caring for my three cats, writing….

5. What are your top likes and dislikes?

Likes: Writing – it’s something I’ve done off and on since high school, but I’m just becoming serious about it; classic movies – it’s my dream to be a guest host on TCM; humor – anything or anyone that makes me laugh is a treasure; my family – we’re very small (mom, sister, three cousins who are like siblings, aunt), so we’re very close; volunteering – Shirley Chisholm said it best, “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on Earth”; Music – all kinds and genres, but I can’t sing or play a note; pets – I have three cats (Bucky – 11, Cal – 10, and Muffin – 4) — my sister (who lives above me) has two dogs (Boot-C and Blond-E, both 14) — and I wish I could have more; NPR – another dream is to be a guest on “Fresh Air,” “Snap Judgment,” or “Wait, Wait…Don’t Tell Me….” My guilty pleasure is cheesy reality shows like America’s Next Top Model and Snapped.

Dislikes: Politics – the current “whatever it is, I’m against it” mentality that has taken over our government is wearing me – and the country – out; dishonest people – it’s why I’m divorced, plus lies are too much work with too much hurt for too little result; cooking – my mom and sister are excellent cooks (taught by my late grandmother) and one of my cousins runs a catering business, but the cooking gene skipped me (guess someone had to be the tester after the cooking was done); boredom – if I have nothing to do, I go out of my mind, so I have to keep busy; mornings – they start too early.

6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?

It’s actually two pieces. My mom always told me to make sure that a man always respects you, treats you well and makes you happy and do the same for him. And I recently saw a quote on a calendar that I thought spoke volumes: “Never, ever go to bed with a man on the first date. Never. Unless you really want to.”

7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?

Don’t disregard your gut instincts. If you feel like something’s wrong, something’s wrong. If you feel like things are going well, things are going well.

8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?

Besides yours (which I read everyday), I love Josh Reads (a site that spoofs comic strips), my three local papers (Detroit Free Press, Detroit News, and Metro Times), Freekibble, U-Comics, The Onion, Mrs. O., Lisa deMoraes and Carolyn Hax in the Washington Post, MSNBC, Savage Love, Ask Amy, Yahoo’s Shine, and (if I may make a shameless plug, my site – The View of the TEM. I’m having some trouble getting Google to list my site on their search engine, so they are not one of my favorites right now. If anyone has any suggestions on how to get them to list it, I’d really appreciate it.

*If you’d like to be a Reader of the Week, shoot me an email at wendy@dearwendy.com with “Reader of the Week” in the subject line and I’ll send you some questions to answer.

24 comments… add one
  • ForeverYoung December 6, 2011, 12:14 pm

    I LOVE snapped! Nice to meet you!

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    • MsMisery December 6, 2011, 1:38 pm

      Me too!

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      • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:21 pm

        I always feel so guilty about watching Snapped, but it’s so good. So many Sundays have come and gone with me in front of the screen going, “Oh no she didn’t!” at the screen and calling my sis to see if she’s watching….

    • va-in-ny December 6, 2011, 6:53 pm

      Me too!

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  • Alecia December 6, 2011, 12:31 pm

    TCM is one of my favorite channels too and I love ANTM as well, especially daylong marathons!

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:22 pm

      Here’s a question for you…how come they only show certain seasons of ANTM? Oxygen loves the past four cycles, but there’s been 17 of them! Come on Tyra, let us go back in time….

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  • ReginaRey December 6, 2011, 12:34 pm

    You sound like a really cool person, Tracey! I love the calendar quote, so true and so funny. And as an art/art history nerd, I just LOVE your portrait. It looks quite like a painting that hung in a museum I used to work at; it has the same kind of earthy, old-timey feel as that artist’s work – which is a compliment to your cousin (and you!).

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:25 pm

      Thank you! My cousin would be delighted to hear that comment about his work. He studied at Yale and concentrated on figurative painting. He uses old masters like Rembrandt and Velasquez as points of reference, but has a touch of modern artists like Francis Bacon as an influence too. It’s my dream to see his work in the Met or the Louvre, or have that portrait as my driver’s license photo. 😉

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  • cookiesandcream December 6, 2011, 12:41 pm

    It’s nice to meet you! I love your portrait; your cousin is very talented!

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:27 pm

      Cool screenname! Nice to meet you too. Here’s a fun fact about my cousin’s art skills – he started out tracing comic book characters with carbon paper when he was a kid. Pretty soon, he was drawing them freehand and kept going from there. I can only draw stick figures, so I live out my dream of being a painter through him….

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  • rainbow December 6, 2011, 1:07 pm


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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:28 pm

      How are you doing today? Hope all is well and that the day is a colorful as your screen name.

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  • silver_dragon_girl December 6, 2011, 1:20 pm

    I still remember your first comment and how you came out of nowhere to give fantastic advice to someone who needed it. Now you’re one of my favorite commenters!

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:30 pm

      Thanks. I want to reply more but I’m usually surfing during slow periods at work (shh…don’t tell anybody). It’s getting to be the busy season at my job now (I work at a payroll company), so I may not be on as much as I’d like, but I’ll hop in when I can. Here’s hoping the advice helps, or at the very least makes people think.

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  • Eljay December 6, 2011, 2:15 pm

    Hi Tracey! It’s so nice to meet you! I too, love your wonderful heartfelt advice.

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:31 pm

      Cool! Great to meet you too. It’s fun reading everyone’s advice and the letters – especially the ones that make you go, “Okay, this HAS to be made up….”

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  • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:19 pm

    WOOT! I’m in the spotlight! Hope everyone’s doing well today, and thank you for the compliments about the painting and my writing. It’s always good to make new friends. Thank you for featuring me, Wendy. I absolutely love your blog. Hugs to you and the family….

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  • honeybeenicki December 6, 2011, 2:40 pm

    That is a beautiful portrait! I have very little artist talent, but I really enjoy seeing other people’s talents like that. And if it helps any, my family is full of great cooks but that gene seemed to have skipped my mother (thankfully I had cousins and other family members to teach me how to cook) but she makes an excellent taster 🙂

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 2:48 pm

      There always has to be one taster in each family. It’s a tough job, but someone’s got to do it. 😉 I can’t draw or paint to save my life, so I live the dream vicariously through my cousin, try to make my writing as vivid as a painting, and ask my mom to cook when it doesn’t quite work out.

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  • callmehobo December 6, 2011, 3:23 pm


    I have always loved your comments, and I’m so glad you linked your blog- I really enjoyed your recent post about The View. Thank you for sharing with us!

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    • Tracey December 6, 2011, 3:26 pm

      You’re welcome, and thanks for the blog link. I’ll be adding more to it very soon. Hope you’re doing well. It feels good to help out someone asking for advice.

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  • FireStar December 6, 2011, 5:26 pm

    Nice to meet you! My husband downloads NPR and plays it in the car and so now I’m hooked. I like Fresh Air too – and my guilty pleasure is Car Talk (and I can barely drive!)

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  • AnotherWendy December 6, 2011, 10:21 pm

    Hi Tracey! That calendar quote has been cracking me up! And I love Snapped, especially the monotone narrator as she describes what happened. Very interesting profile Tracey!

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  • Addie Pray December 6, 2011, 10:35 pm

    Yay, Tracey, so nice to meet you. Sorry, I’m late to the game today. I’m taking a break from work to say hi and, damn, your profile is awesome! And I love your portrait.

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