There was such an overwhelming response when I asked readers to introduce themselves on a weekend open thread that I decided to give you all a weekly column to do just that. I’ve always said this site wouldn’t be what it is without the engagement and participation of its readers and this column is the place to learn more about who you are what makes you tick. After the jump, let’s meet MissDre.
1. What’s your name, age and whereabouts?
My name on the site is MissDre and everyone calls me “Dre” in real life. I’m 25 and I’m proudly Canadian!
2. What’s your relationship status?
Happily coupled up. 🙂
3. How do you spend your weekdays?
I work for a software company as a Marketing Copywriter, and I also work as a Media Planner for my family-owned dance company (YaY KaliAndrews Dance Company!).
4. How do you spend your free time?
Reading, cuddling with my cats, cooking with my boyfriend, talking on the phone with my mom, hanging out at the dance studio, watching The Wire and Oz.
5. What are your top likes and dislikes:
Likes: Spicy food, good coffee, cheesecake, dresses and shoes! Oh and 90s hip hop music (yeah Biggie!).
Dislikes: Can’t stand pineapples and raisins (barf) and I pretty much hate all pop/hiphop music released after the year 2000 (except Adele, she’s awesome).
6. What’s the best relationship advice you’ve ever been given?
I was going through a very serious depression after my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. I reached out to an important male role model in my life (he was actually my grade school teacher, and has remained a mentor to me in many ways until this very day). He said to me:
“We meet people, we have relationships with them for a reason. We are there to learn from them and for them to learn from us. When the time comes that the learning is no longer happening the relationship will fade. Think about the things you have learned, sometimes they are things like what not to do or how to deal with conflict. If your boyfriend has decided to leave there is a reason.
D, you need to focus on yourself. You are wise when you say you are not happy with you right now and you will not be happy with anything until you come to terms with who you are and why you are such an amazing person. Forgiveness is key. When you do not forgive you carry all that resentment around with you to your own detriment. It is virtually impossible to move forward when you hold on to resentment. Sometimes it includes forgiving yourself.”
7. What’s the best relationship lesson you’ve ever learned?
To always focus on loving myself first. When you value someone else more than you value yourself, you lose all of your power! Sometimes it is still a struggle to convince myself that I am worthy of a man’s love (I think my biggest fear is that no man will every marry me). But the only way to stay strong is to believe in myself and focus on what makes ME happy.
8. Besides DearWendy.com, what are some of your favorite websites?
I have to rep my family-owned dance company! Some of the most amazing acrobatic dance videos you’ll ever see! Here’s our YouTube channel:
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