Dear Wendy
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Reader Recs: LBH Gets Us Started


New feature alert! Dear Wendy readers are some of the most intelligent, stylish, super cool people around (it’s a proven fact), so when a commenter suggested I create a regular feature for them to recommend some of their favorite products, it was a no-brainer. See what cool stuff cool people are liking and get some affiliate traffic and potential commission to help support the site? Double win. (I accidentally typed “double wine” first, which, yes, please).

To get us started on this brand new feature is the reader who recommended it: LBH (or “lets_be_honest” if you’re being formal.). LBH is trying to compete with Miss Addie Pray on number of comments left. She’s from NY and lives with her partner and daughter. Her hobbies include mimosas, naps, HGTV and spreadsheets. Keep reading to see what cool stuff shopaholic LBH recommends.

voluspa-candles-santiago-largeVoluspa Candles
They are made of soy, so they are healthier to burn indoors (I’m told) and they smell incredible. Put one in every room you have. Seriously. My two favorites are Santiago Huckleberry and Japonica French Cade. If you don’t like Voluspa, try Simpatico Hobnails. The hobnail glass is so pretty!


6a0148c84f372a970c014e8c3665d2970d-500wiAnthropologie Monogram Mug
If only I had more initials!




31lRy-ud-tL._SX342_AG Stevie Slim Ankle
I’ve had several pairs of these for years and they maintain their shape and are really soft and high enough that they hold your belly in without giving you a muffin top. [Dudes, these are like 70% off β€” Wendy].



life-factory-classic-22-ounceLifefactory Glass Water Bottle
Easy to clean and you can leave it in your car without getting poisoned by plastic. Plus, its got polka dots, so really it’s perfect.




41cMLbFy5mL._SY300_Batiste Dry Shampoo
For those of you that don’t like to wash your hair every day, but its too greasy not to, this is the best I’ve tried yet. I used to use Klorhane, then Oscar Blandi and luckily found this which is better and not $25 per bottle.



Thanks, LBH!

If you have some products you’d like to recommend to the DW audience, shoot me an email at wendy@dearwendy.com with links to five recommendations (write “reader recs” in the subject line, please). Your recommendations can be from any store or website, but need to be accessible online β€” and I would love it if at least two items could be found on Amazon where I am an affiliate. If your list is a good fit for the site, I’ll ask you to write a brief description of each item/ explain what you love so much about it.

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  • iwannatalktosampson February 20, 2014, 1:04 pm

    Oh I’ve been needing a new water bottle and needing to try new dry shampoo, these are the best!

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  • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 1:07 pm


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    • Addie Pray February 20, 2014, 1:25 pm

      i’m not at all jealous by anything that is happening here.

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      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 1:26 pm

        LBH is ALL OVER DW. ALL OVER IT. Go look at the sidebar. And above. And in Wendy’s paragraph. And the headline.

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      • bittergaymark February 21, 2014, 6:48 pm

        Wait? Who is this Addie Pray? Is she some newbie? If so, welcome…

  • CatsMeow February 20, 2014, 1:12 pm

    How much color does the dry shampoo have? I’ve been using Bumble and Bumble hair powder in brown and it’s expensive BUT IT WORKS SO WELL and hides my roots!

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    • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 1:18 pm

      I don’t have roots, so I’m not sure really, but I gave my blonde sister the one for blonde’s and she likes it.

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    • GatorGirl February 20, 2014, 1:28 pm

      I have the dry shampoo, and I don’t love the way the color sits on my hair. Maybe I have the wrong shade (it was a gift) but it looks…filmy? on my hair.

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  • Lianne February 20, 2014, 1:24 pm

    Do they have those pants in other colors? Love.

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    • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 1:27 pm

      They do. I have a few colors (the red is really nice, not too bright) and regular blue.

      They also never give bag ass!

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  • muchachaenlaventana February 20, 2014, 1:25 pm

    @lbh – for future reference how do AG jeans run? Pretty TTS? I am usually between a 27 and 28 and it is always a bit tricky with brands I have not tried before.

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    • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 1:26 pm

      True to size. If you are between sizes, I’d go with the 27 because they stretch.

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      • ktfran February 20, 2014, 2:54 pm

        But not stretch in a bad way! Just enough to make the jeans a comfortable fit without losing shape. I promise.

        I buy them a hair too tight, but fit perfectly after about five minutes.

  • the_optimist February 20, 2014, 1:28 pm

    LBH I want to buy all of these things. Like yesterday. I need them all.

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  • ktfran February 20, 2014, 2:50 pm

    So, when I e-mailed my favorites, I sent in a link to AG Stevies too. CRAZY!

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    • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 2:56 pm

      Haha, what colors do you have?

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      • ktfran February 20, 2014, 3:22 pm

        In the ankle, I have gray. In the slim/regular fit, I have just about every denim wash imaginable. Except a light wash. I need a light wash.

        You get the fun colors! I might have to buy one. Using your link to Amazon of course.

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 3:27 pm

        Oooh, grey. I don’t have that.
        edit: haha, yes I do, but not in ankles. Have you ever bought something without realizing you already have it?

      • Banana February 20, 2014, 3:39 pm

        Most definitely yes. The other day I discovered the stuff in the back of my closet. It was like going to Narnia.

      • Banana February 20, 2014, 3:40 pm

        Whoops, I misread that. Hm. Don’t think I’ve actually bought duplicates of clothes accidentally, but I’ve definitely done that with food. (Some of my favorite shopping sprees are gourmet-related.)

      • ktfran February 20, 2014, 3:50 pm

        Ha! I have not, but I do buy lots of similar things. Like, you might not even be able to tell they are different……

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 3:53 pm

        Yea, that too! haha. I got into this ridiculous argument with Peter when he commented about having 15 of everything, so I pointed out he has 15 of the same tight shorts in his top drawer. He’s like, they are underwear asshole, that doesn’t count!

      • ktfran February 20, 2014, 5:05 pm

        You. Are. Awesome.

  • Banana February 20, 2014, 3:38 pm

    I love all these! I want to buy all of them, use them all at the same time, and then know what it feels like to be LBH.

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    • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 3:41 pm


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    • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 3:47 pm

      Psst, this is only like 1/3 of the list I sent. If you get the whole list, you can really be me.

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      • Banana February 20, 2014, 3:50 pm

        IS WENDY PROTECTING YOU? Is she afraid of what will happen to the world if we all know what it feels like to be LBH?!

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 3:59 pm

        It feels REAL good, but only after a back rub and 3 martinis.

  • iseeshiny February 20, 2014, 4:03 pm

    I also would very much like that waterbottle.

    In other news, I’ve decided I am going to try going no poo (haha poo) over my maternity leave from work. Has anyone else made this leap? How did you like it?

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    • jlyfsh February 20, 2014, 4:05 pm

      i tried it and i liked it ok. but, my hair just wasn’t getting enough moisturizing so i was ending up with frizz all the time. i know quite a few people who love it though πŸ™‚ they have ‘normal’ hair though, straight and normal thickness. unlike mine!

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    • Kate February 20, 2014, 4:18 pm

      Nope, but I have started washing my hair less, going from every other day to twice a week. And it’s fine. One reason is I have expensive highlights and that llumin (sp?) stuff in my hair, and I don’t want to wash it all out. Another reason is I have natural curls, and my hair gets dry because of that and the color. So washing it less preserves the moisture. Some days I do just “wash” with conditioner if I need to wet it, but I don’t love how that makes my hair feel. I’ve heard there’s a nasty, gross transition period with the no-poo thing, and then it gets better.

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    • iseeshiny February 20, 2014, 4:46 pm

      Yeah, mine is really fine and straight and tends toward grease like a lot, so dryness shouldn’t be an issue for me, ha. I have kind of been training it so I can go two – two and a half days without washing (I used to have to wash it every day and by the next morning it looked greasy) but by the third day it feels gross even if it doesn’t look terrible. I hear using a boar bristle brush helps with that but I’m not really brave enough to go work too unwashed. Hopefully there will be so much going on when the kid gets here that a hair transition period will be the least of my concerns.

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      • CatsMeow February 20, 2014, 5:47 pm

        I’ve got thin/fine hair too, and I used to be an every day washer. I’m down to every other day or every other other day (just depends on how my hair feels) BUT only if I use my dry shampoo.

  • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 4:10 pm

    If you guys are daily coffee or tea drinkers, I really will try to force you to buy cute mugs. I tossed all my uncute mugs once I built up a collection of ones that I like and its so nice opening my mug cabinet and picking out which one I’ll use. They all make me smile, and since I use it all day long, it makes the whole day slightly nicer.

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    • Banana February 20, 2014, 4:25 pm

      I am so in favor of this. I basically did the same thing recently — last year, I got a set of super adorable hand-painted (and slightly funny-shaped) mugs from a flea market (okay, my cousin found them and then I won them in charades). I put away all my old, bland, came-with-the-plate-set ones (I didn’t get rid of them entirely because when I have guests, especially for winter parties with hot beverages, it’s nice to have extra mugs). Now my mug shelf is full of those beautiful, short, round, colorful mugs mixed in with the random singletons I’ve picked up here and there.

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      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 4:31 pm

        Love that!
        I read somewhere that the things that are closest to your body and the things you spend time with most often, should be the best, highest quality stuff that makes you smile. For example: buy crappy curtains, but 500tc sheets.

      • Banana February 20, 2014, 4:41 pm

        That’s a great philosophy! And I think there are lots of creative ways to apply it without having to break the bank. (Hi, TJ Maxx and Homegoods!) It’s kind of the same reason I love using serving dishes. Food — cooking it, sharing it, trying new things, learning about different kinds of food — is a big obsession for me. It’s my main hobby. I spend a lot of time around it, preparing it, serving it, admiring it. So I like to put it in nice dishes, even though I think that’s kind of a “stuffy” thing for a single 20-something to do. It makes me happy to get these pretty things here and there — flea markets, discount home goods stores, or on my travels — and then have a chance to appreciate them on a regular basis when I eat. That’s why I also never intend to have china/serving dishes that I consider “too good to use” on a regular basis — because even if they’re really nice, I’m going to bust them out and use them regularly because looking at them makes me smile!

      • theattack February 20, 2014, 4:44 pm

        I so do not understand people who refuse to use their china. Why is it taking up space in your house if you don’t want to use it? All of our china is still packed up (no china cabinet yet), but I plan on using it like once a week once we have it out. If you have the opportunity to eat off of GOLD, then why wouldn’t you do it?!

      • bethany February 20, 2014, 4:49 pm

        I think people worry about breaking it?

        I didn’t get nice china, but I eventually I want to get an extra place setting or 2 of my dishes to keep in storage in case I break any and they discontinue it.

      • theattack February 20, 2014, 4:55 pm

        That’s probably smart since you’re planning on having a baby. Kids seem to destroy everything in their paths.

        I just don’t understand the worry about breaking things you own. Obviously don’t juggle your china, and don’t let your five year old carry it, but there is literally no point in having it if you’re not going to use it. Take a risk, people.

      • Banana February 20, 2014, 4:56 pm

        Yeah, I think people are worried about breaking it. Plus, especially on bright white china, scratches and other flaws pop up with frequent use. You might not break a plate, but weekly use will scratch it up, weekly washing might fade the pattern, taking it down or putting it away might chip the edge, etc. So I see where the put-awayers are coming from. My grandma was a put-awayer and it was a big joke in the family that she bought a plain, ugly brown teapot because she was convinced that only pretty things broke (I guess she’d lost a lot of teapots over the years) so she bought an ugly teapot to assure she’d always have one that wouldn’t break.
        I just figure if I use my pretty things frequently and they wear down and aren’t as pretty anymore, I’ll get other pretty things — plus, then I get to enjoy the continual process of updating/replacing my dishes, which is actually kind of fun for me since I’m going for a mismatched, bohemian, artsy and unique feel for my kitchen. But I also don’t buy super expensive things.

      • Banana February 20, 2014, 5:00 pm

        PS — I took that brown teapot when we went through her things after she passed away, and I treasure it and use it often. That’s another reason why I’m a thing-user instead of a put-awayer — because many of my things have some kind of memory or sentimental value attached, and in my family we say that one way to remember someone is to use their old things and think of them. I also have her old ceramic mixing bowls and even though they’re heavy and inconveniently shaped and difficult to wash, I use them every time I bake, because she taught me how to make bread.

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 5:07 pm

        I love that you took the ugly teapot. What a cute story.

      • sarita_f February 20, 2014, 7:23 pm

        Seconded :). I have and treasure this old plastic tray my granny used to serve tea – as Irish people, this is a multiple-times-per-day event. From my parents all I want are these ugly brown mixing bowls my mom has had forever and this particular mug my dad has had forever. I tell them I’m going to sell off the waterford crystal and my mom practically cries. Although in all seriousness I have zero use for it and won’t be in a nice home with a nice china cabinet maybe ever.

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 4:54 pm

        YES! I read a story about a grandma who passed away and they found all her “prized” soaps that she was saving for a special occasion. Not to sound so beyond lame, but you can make every day a special occasion.

      • theattack February 20, 2014, 4:57 pm

        Hahaha, prized soaps? That’s kind of funny. I totally agree though. If you save the “best” stuff for some other day, you’re passing up an opportunity to have luxury in your life. Buy more soap if you use it up.

        That soap thing is actually really sad now that I’m thinking about it.

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 5:17 pm

        It is, isn’t it? We have a fairly big wine collection, but Peter will still go out and buy the cheap stuff and I’m always like BUT GRANDMA’S SOAP!!!! (i told him the story, obviously)

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 4:52 pm

        Oh yea, you can definitely find cheap ass ways to have things you love. Make your own art (or frame your kid’s art), garage sales, stuff someone might hand down to you, etc.
        Lil found a calendar that had really pretty pictures on the top half, so when it went on sale (50% off), we got it, went to Michaels and got buy 1 get 1 free frames for $5 (nice too, mats and all) and framed the pictures. Super cheap and really cute.

      • Banana February 20, 2014, 5:03 pm

        I love that! I’ve done that with calendars too — and a lot of calendars actually have very nice art prints that you’d pay a lot for if you bought them at a museum gift shop.

    • bethany February 20, 2014, 4:48 pm

      I’m a mug loyalist and can’t add any more to my collection! Dave makes me cat mugs πŸ™‚

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    • sobriquet February 20, 2014, 5:02 pm

      I love unique mugs, too! I eventually want an entire collection of random mugs. My favorite right now is my little miss sunshine mug:

      Sometimes Nigel makes me breakfast and I used to hate it when he brought me coffee in one of our standard came-with-the-set mugs (that I really want to throw out/donate). Now he knows not to! haha

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      • CatsMeow February 20, 2014, 5:51 pm

        Mugs are my favorite. I have sooo many. I buy them as souvenirs whenever I travel.

      • lets_be_honest February 21, 2014, 9:23 am

        I always get a magnet when I travel. Now I wish I had done mugs πŸ™

      • Addie Pray February 21, 2014, 9:40 am

        I just decided with my recent trip that my new “thing” would be to collect magnets. Now I want to do mugs too!

    • Addie Pray February 20, 2014, 5:06 pm

      I don’t like buying mugs just to buy – except for my DW MOA mug. I like my mugs to have some sort of meaning. Gift mugs are good for that reason. But most of my mugs I stole (or bought or was given) from my various employers. I have a lovely collection of law firm mugs: from the firm where I worked as a secretary for like 9 months before law school and as a clerk during law school; from the firm where I was a 1st year summer associate; from the firm where I was a 2nd year summer associate/junior associate; from the firm where I was a mid-level associate, and from my current firm…. God I’m like a law firm slut.

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      • Addie Pray February 20, 2014, 5:10 pm

        Plus I’m really picky about my mugs. I like to be able to cup the whole mug with one hand and have a nice grip on it – so none of those huge mugs that could also be bowls. And I don’t like fat rims. It’s gotta have a really thin rim. That’s it.

      • Addie Pray February 20, 2014, 5:11 pm

        ^ That there is some riveting information by AP

      • lets_be_honest February 20, 2014, 5:18 pm

        haha, I just broke a mug from my first job at a pizza place last week.
        I’m with you on being picky about mug shape, thinkness.

    • Lianne February 21, 2014, 9:50 am

      This is totally something I’d do. It’s the little things!

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  • mylaray February 20, 2014, 5:59 pm

    I love those Anthropologie mugs! I think our initials are really cute together (MC) so I’ve been into a lot of initialed stuff lately.

    And those jeans look perfect for me so I must get them.

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  • Lee February 20, 2014, 8:47 pm

    I love the idea of dry shampoo, and I currently have a bottle of the dove brand. My scalp/skin is incredibly dry, so washing every day is not super necessary, but my hair is thin and gets oily if I don’t. The frustrating thing about the dove dry shampoo is that it tends to make my blondish hair look gray because it leaves behind this slight whiteness. Does anyone know how to counteract this? Am I using it incorrectly or just using cheap stuff?

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    • mylaray February 20, 2014, 9:00 pm

      I used to use Dove and thought it was good for the price. I found that it turned my hair gray when I sprayed it too close or overdid it. I also didn’t feel like it did enough overall compared to other dry shampoos. I like Batiste a lot but my favorite is Pssst and it hasn’t turned my hair gray or left a film.

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      • Lee February 20, 2014, 10:03 pm

        Thanks! I’ll definitely check those out!

    • Fabelle February 20, 2014, 10:12 pm

      The Batiste one shown come in a blonde tint, I believe! I have the brunette one, but I remember seeing blonde too πŸ™‚

      eta oh PSSt is good, though!

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