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Reader Recs: LovelyRita’s Lovely Picks

unnamed-2Dear Wendy readers are some of the most intelligent, stylish, super-cool people around (it’s a proven fact), so it’s a no-brainer to feature some of their favorite products. Many of the recommended products happen to be affiliate products, which means I’ll receive a commission on any click-throughs or purchases you make through the affiliate links. As always, I appreciate your support! Today’s recommendations comes from LovelyRita, a long-time daily DW reader (since 2008, back in The Frisky days) who has recently come out of lurkerdom. LovelyRita is a freelance graphic designer (that’s her design of herself on the left) in her late twenties. Originally from Venezuela, she now lives in Brooklyn with her husband and their Boston Terrier puppy, Moe. She loves Martha Stewart, The Beatles, and wine (in no particular order). Fun fact: She’s also a trained pastry chef, but she uses her skills mostly at home, baking dog treats or goodies for friends and family. Keep reading for LovelyRita’s recommendations:

Twist Hair Pins
I have extremely thick hair, and it simply won’t stay in a bun with a simple elastic or bobby pins. These little things were a life saver when I had to work ten- to twelve-hour shifts with my hair up. You simply twist your hair into a bun and screw the pins in on each side, voila! They also make a mini version for people with fine hair, and they come in different colors.

Dog Feeding Toy
Our trainer recommended this feeding toy, and it changed our lives. It’s intended for treats, but we use it for our pup’s dry food and it works great. Just pour the kibble into this ball, and then, as your dog rolls in around, it releases them. It’s challenging enough to keep our Boston “Terror” entertained for a good half hour! Just enough time to sip some wine or eat without him begging.

Poo-Pourri Toilet Spray
I got this as a gag gift, but, guess what? It totally works. As their slogan goes: Spritz the bowl before you go, and no one else will ever know! A must -if you ask me- for one-bathroom apartments. I’ve tried many of their scents, but by far my favorite is Poo La La. I’m including a link to their commercial, good stuff.

Color Changing Lipstick, magic!
I normally wouldn’t spend this much on lipstick, but this stuff is amazing. It goes on green and instantly works with your skin’s PH to transform into the most flattering rosy-pink shade. Magic! Plus, it’s really fun to see people’s reactions when you apply it in public.

The BEST bra for flat-chested ladies
My boobs are so tiny that they don’t even fill an A cup. So why do I even bother? Well, most of the time I don’t, especially if I’m wearing 2+ layers of clothing. But on days that I do, this is the only bra that I can justify wearing. It’s ridiculously soft and well made; I promise you won’t even feel it on.


The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, by Sarah Knight
I thought his book was just a tongue-in-cheek parody of Marie Kondo’s infamous book, but it totally surprised me. I’m a little bit of a people pleaser, and I constantly feel guilty when I decline invitations or don’t donate to absurd GoFundMe pages. Sarah’s advice is spot on, and I think it will resonate a lot with DW readers.

Thank you, LovelyRita!

If you have some products you’d like to recommend to the DW audience, shoot me an email at wendy@dearwendy.com with links to five recommendations. (Write “reader recs” in the subject line, please). Your recommendations can be from any store or website, but they need to be accessible online. If your list is a good fit for the site, I’ll ask you to write a brief description of each item/explain what you love so much about it.

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35 comments… add one
  • Lianne April 28, 2016, 1:34 pm

    As a fellow thick-haired woman, I am excited to try those pins. Also, I started the Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up at a friend’s recommendation and just couldn’t…maybe this is more my style 🙂

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    • MaterialsGirl April 28, 2016, 1:51 pm

      i’ve used these pins before when my hair was REALLY long (and I have fine hair). They are solid!

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      • RedRoverRedRover April 28, 2016, 2:04 pm

        Is your hair thick too? I find the thick/fine combo is killer. It’s heavy AND slippery, which means putting it up (or rather, keeping it up) is nearly impossible.

      • MaterialsGirl April 28, 2016, 4:29 pm

        yeah I have a lot of it. (and a lot in the drain of the shower.. ugh, i’m going through a shedding period). My sister has coarser, curly/wavey thick hair, but it’s surprising EASIER to manage as long as it doesn’t really involve brushing. However, she’s starting to go gray (25) and I’m still a brunette (30). So, we each have our pluses and minuses

      • RedRoverRedRover April 28, 2016, 9:15 pm

        Seriously? MY sister has curly hair too! And I agree that it’s easier for her to manage, now that she’s figured out how to deal with it. It always looks great, and she can put it up so easily because there’s something for pins/barettes/elastics etc to “grab”. But I’ll try the Twist pins, if they worked for you they will probably work for me too. Thanks!

      • AndSoItGoes April 29, 2016, 12:06 am

        I have curly hair. I used to assume it was easier, too.
        But then I straightened it for awhile and was shocked by how wrong I was. I found straight hair to be much more manageable and less finicky.

        Each person’s curly hair is different, but in general it is so easy to ruin curly hair for the day — putting it up, laying or leaning on it, getting it wet, wearing a helmet or hat, being in too much wind or too much humidity or too much dryness — and even when none of that happens, some days that shit just doesn’t curl well.

        To summarize, curly hair is really labor-intensive AND sometimes that labor doesn’t pay off. 🙂

      • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 9:23 am

        Oh I know, but my sister’s isn’t frizzy, and it’s big corkscrew curls. She doesn’t even need product. Just dry it in a diffuser and it’s done. She used to straighten hers too, and the curls are so much easier for her. Plus she gets the benefits of being able to put it up and stuff, and it’s so curly you don’t see lines or anything on it, and the curls don’t crush down. Her hair’s really nice!

      • AndSoItGoes April 29, 2016, 1:02 pm

        Amazing, Your sister is the curly haired woman’s version of a unicorn, RedRover. 🙂

      • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 1:28 pm

        I know, I think she is! Super jealous. 🙂

      • LovelyRita April 28, 2016, 6:55 pm

        I had the same problem! As long as your hair is long enough to twist it into a bun, the pins will keep it up, I promise 🙂

    • LovelyRita April 28, 2016, 6:53 pm

      Yes! Those pins are legit, way more life changing than the Konmari Method.

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  • ktfran April 28, 2016, 1:36 pm

    I have that bra in gray and I love to wear on weekends when I’m running errands or lounging.

    So, I have super small boobs too, but I like to wear a bra almost always. It’s been about five years since I bought a bra (I know, gross) and a few days ago I went to Nordstrom and had someone help fit me. She was AMAZING!

    I use to buy Soma bras and when I was fitted for theirs, I was either a 32B or 34A. There always felt slightly off, but stores like that don’t have many smaller sizes. Well, come to find out…. when there are more sizing options, I’m a 30C. And damn, I finally found and tried on bras I could fill out! I even bought my first strapless that fit my chest and wasn’t gaping!!!!!! It felt like a spring miracle!!!!!!

    I ended up with a Betsy Johnson bra and I can’t remember the strapless, but it was expensive.

    So, what I’m saying is get fitted by someone who knows what they’re doing and it’s a game changer.

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    • RedRoverRedRover April 28, 2016, 2:06 pm

      Also FYI “bralettes” are becoming a big thing. I haven’t tried one yet, I’ll wait till I’m done with pregnancy/breastfeeding, but they look like they’d be really great for the smaller-chested among us!

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      • ktfran April 28, 2016, 2:14 pm

        I have a few of those now too. I like the lacy ones in the summer under tanks and sun dresses and such.

      • RedRoverRedRover April 28, 2016, 2:27 pm

        What I really like about them is it looks like they’d be cute when you have a backless top. I hate showing my bra hooks with a top like that, and I can’t go braless because then it’s nipples ahoy!

      • ktfran April 28, 2016, 3:04 pm

        YES! They’re great for that. So much prettier than seeing a bra and hooks.

        I don’t love shopping at Free People because it’s owned by Urban Outfitters and that company strongly supports the Republican party; however, they have so many pretty lace bralettes in so many styles and colors.

      • LovelyRita April 28, 2016, 6:43 pm

        This is awful, but have you tried covering your nipples with bandaids and going braless? That’s how I get away with it during the summer.

      • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 9:25 am

        Maybe this is TMI, but my nipples are kind of insane. There’s no way bandaids will do it, lol. They’re so pokey that even a lined bra isn’t really enough, but that’s the max I’m willing to do, so I put up with a bit of nip showing.

      • snoopy128 April 29, 2016, 9:53 am

        haha. That reminds me, the first time I ever slept with my boyfriend, I had bandaids on my nipples because I was wearing a really deep v-necked bodysuit. Somehow managed to get them off without him noticing. (I told him a few months into dating and we had a good laugh. I should bring it up again.)

    • LovelyRita April 28, 2016, 6:39 pm

      I thought I was a 34A too! I don’t know if you’re into the Real Housewives- but the NYC ladies had a bra fitting party on a recent episode, and the super skinny flat chested ones got measured as a 30C… Totally blew my mind. I should definitely get properly fitted!

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      • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 9:30 am

        I’m actually a 34D, which anyone who saw me would think is crazy! But I’m a “shallow” D. They don’t stick out far, it’s still just barely a handful, but the circumference is a D. It’s hard to find bras, but at least I know what I’m looking for now. And they are sooo much more comfortable, I was trying to wear A’s before I got fitted!

      • ktfran April 29, 2016, 10:37 am

        Stupid question, but what does “shallow” mean?

      • kmtthat April 29, 2016, 11:23 am

        It’s basically that your boobs have a wider base and are more spread out versus having a narrower “root”. Like if your breast tissue goes up high towards your collar bone and into your armpits a fair way it’s mroe likely to be a “wide root” or shallow shape. I have not super small boobs but a shallow shape, so I wear a bigger size than people would think just looking at me.

      • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 1:22 pm

        Exactly what kmtthat said. When I would wear an A cup, I filled it, but the underwire didn’t fit all around the base of my breast. So the cup kind of sat “on” my breast, instead of my breast being fully inside the cup. The woman who fitted me, as soon as she saw me she said I was a D and I thought she was crazy. But if you take a D cup and just put one cup over one of my boobs, she’s totally right. The circumference is a D. I just don’t fill a full-size D, so I have to look for manufacturers that make cups that are D-sized circumference, but don’t stick out as far as normal D’s. It’s very annoying, I wish there were two measurements for cups – circumference and depth. It would make it so much easier for everyone. But no, of course nothing can be easy for women’s clothing sizes.

      • LovelyRita April 29, 2016, 2:01 pm

        Wow, I’m so dumb when it comes to bras. I thought cup sizes went up by depth, not width… But it totally makes sense!

      • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 3:00 pm

        Cup sizes are basically nonsense. Look at this damn chart! It shows bra cup volume – but it depends on both the band and the cup letter. So check out the line for 1000cc, for example. If that’s the volume of your boobs, you might fit into any of 12 different cup sizes, depending on your band size. And that doesn’t even take into account depth/shallowness, which I have to magically figure out on my own.


        The whole thing’s a mess. I don’t know how they came up with this system, at all. It’s no wonder no one understands it. I didn’t know my proper bra size till I was 33 and getting fitted for my wedding!

      • AndSoItGoes April 29, 2016, 1:07 pm

        Agree that getting measured is worth the effort. I was wearing 34B, but found out my proper size is 32D. Like RedRover, you wouldn’t looking at me and think D, but that’s why it’s important not to guess.

      • ktfran April 29, 2016, 10:36 am

        Do it! I’m wearing my new bra today and it fits like a glove. I haven’t been this comfortable with a bra on (with the exception of bralettes) in a while.

    • kmtthat April 29, 2016, 11:21 am

      FINALLY you got fitted! I am pretty sure that’s the size I told you I thought you’d be. Just saying :).

      Please God everyone get measured. OR look up abrathatfits on Reddit and measure yourself. I bra-evangelize a lot,s o I’ll stop but DO IT PEOPLE.

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      • ktfran April 29, 2016, 1:07 pm

        I was actually thinking of you and your recommendations when I was trying on…. wondering if the lady was doing it right per what you said!!!! I think she did! And I think you did guess correctly. You’re like the bra whisperer or something.

        Also, thanks for the shallow info. I have so much to learn about boobs.

  • Anonymousse April 28, 2016, 3:33 pm

    I love Lipstick Queen!

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  • LovelyRita April 28, 2016, 6:58 pm

    Totally worth the splurge! Have you tried their Saint & Sinners tint? Amazing!!!

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  • Cleopatra Jones April 28, 2016, 8:50 pm

    Oh yes, I second the recommendation of poo-pourri. It’s awesome, it made Taco Tuesday in our house so much more bearable. 🙂

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  • zombeyonce April 29, 2016, 10:23 am

    Wendy, the first link to the Twist hair pins goes to the dog treat page on Amazon. It’s easy to find by searching but I want to make sure you get the affiliate credit.

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    • RedRoverRedRover April 29, 2016, 1:28 pm

      I think she gets the affiliate if you click through from here, period. No matter what you buy. So even if you want something that isn’t advertised on her site, you could come here, click through, and then just search it and buy and she’d get some credit. Is that right Wendy?

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