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Reader Recs: The Baby Edition

canstockphoto40992306Dear Wendy readers are some of the most intelligent, stylish, super-cool people around (it’s a proven fact), so it’s a no-brainer to feature some of their favorite products. Many of the recommended products happen to be affiliate products, which means I’ll receive a commission on any click-throughs or purchases you make through the affiliate links. As always, I appreciate your support! Today’s recommendations come from a few DW moms who have some favorite baby-related products that make their lives and their babies’ lives easier and happier. If you’re a new mom, a mom-to-be, or have babies in your life or family or friends in your life who are about to have babies, this post is for you!

LianneLianne is from Salem, MA and just got through the hell that is Salem in October…never has November looked so good! Lianne is a new, working mother and finds she likes that role very much. When she’s not working or mothering, she enjoys beer more than wine, binge watching Shameless (seriously, that show is so good!), and putting up her feet. My, how different life looks on this side of pregnancy!!

Let’s be honest. Socks never stay on babies’ feet. While I was pregnant, someone recommended Zutano booties. They come in fleece, cotton, and velour, are adorable, and stay on their cute little feet! We have already ordered the next size up for my son because he has giant feet. They’re a little pricey, but worth it. [One of my favorite baby products! — wendy].

Get a Fisher Price Rock n Play. The RNP is a lifesaver for newborns. It cradles them and is at an incline, which, after being in a tight little womb for nine months, baby feels familiar and safe with. It also can come with an auto-rock and/or vibration feature, which in our case helped him go back to sleep when he woke up sometimes. Add the swaddle and BOOM. Baby sleeps a long time. My son started sleeping eight-nine hour stretches at eight weeks old thanks to this combo. Unfortunately, he is averaging a five-six hour stretch now with two wake-ups, but who needs sleep once you’re back at work??

With a newborn, you’ve got only a small handful of options of where to put them while awake – in your arms, on a blanket on the floor, on a playmat with activities hanging above them, on a boppy…or in a Fisher Price Bouncer. We used this so much in the first few months with our boy. And despite how BIG he is in it now at five months old, it fits perfectly in my bathroom so he can sit and play with a toy while I am getting ready for work. In the early weeks and months, it was a great spot for him to nap, as well as hang out so I could interact with him in a more upright way. It vibrates and is bouncy, so perfect for soothing, too. And it’s CHEAP!

Two of the best toys for a little baby learning how to grasp is the Oball Infant Rattle and the Green Toys Twist Teether. My son loves playing with the Oball in the car…and often falls asleep with his hand grasping it. The Twist Teether was a gift and he can be entertained by it for hours – it is easy to hold, he can chew on it, AND it makes noise…the American Baby Dream!

Our little babe was a sniffly guy as a newborn. Those mini nasal passages are barely as big as a cocktail straw. So he was very snarfle-y. We were told by the pediatrician that the bulb syringe from the hospital was the best thing to get out the boogies, but not so, my friends. Nose Frida seems gross from it’s usage directions, but it works SO WELL to get out the snot. Basically, one end goes in their nostril and the other goes in your mouth and you suck them out. But there is a handy dandy little filter that goes in between so nothing actually goes into your mouth. (Note: don’t forget to put a filter back when one is used up…there is no protection. I may or may not know this from experience.)

Finally, my little cherub busted out every time we swaddled him. Since I was paranoid about the swaddle blanket coming up and covering his face in the middle of the night, we didn’t swaddle. “He hates it,” we said. “Sleeps fine without it!” we thought. Nope. I was lamenting to a friend from my moms’ group that he wasn’t sleeping more than three-four hour stretches at a time. She insisted I needed to swaddle him. I told her he didn’t like it. She told me, “It’s your job to make him like it. Try the Miracle Blanket.” Game. Changer. It has these little arm flaps that go over the arms and under the body – so their arms are kept down by their sides by their own body weight. Then you wrap them up like a little burrito! It’s amazing. Once we put him in that (still in the RNP) he started sleeping five-six-seven hour stretches (and then all the way up to eight-nine hour stretches until three and a half months old). The sleep!! It was glorious!

fullsizer4Shanna lives in Baltimore with her husband and their two adorable kids – two-legged 5-month-old son, Wesley, and a four-legged fuzzy maltipoo, Buffy. She loves cooking, reading, watching TV, and day drinking with friends, and she cannot wait until she has the time to do those things again! She is obsessed with politics, social issues, history, and podcasts about those things and everything in between, and will happily give you podcast recommendations as well! Here are her favorite baby products:

From my vast parenting experience with a 5-month-old (hahaha), I have a product recommendation – the Keekaroo changing table. I have a baby who LOVES to pee and poop while I am changing him (he has calmed down a bit on that though) and just being able to wipe down the changing pad instead of washing and changing something else has been AMAZING!

I LOVE this one-piece outfit. The zipper makes it a great item to wear around the house and while sleeping because diaper changes are a breeze. Plus, the fabric is lightweight enough for summer but thick enough for fall and spring.

My son demanded to be held for the first three months (and never napped) and only when I put him on the The Fisher Price Kick and Play Piano Gym was I able to get ten minutes to run to the bathroom and do some quick tidying.

My best friend gave me her co-sleeper and I thought Wesley would sleep in that from the beginning. He actually spent the first six weeks sleeping on me, until I borrowed my neighbor’s rock n’ play. Then I was able to get a couple hours sleep a night without a baby on my chest! I think the incline helped him sleep much better. I will definitely be purchasing one for my next baby.

As I mentioned, my son loves to be carried, so that fourth trimester I used the mesh K’tan, which was great for the hot summer months, and I am now using the Lillebaby carrier, which he loves being able to see from and nap in.

The Feed Baby Pro App is a great way to track Wesley’s feeds, diaper changes, naps, medications, and other things, and you can set up alarms to let you know when you should be feeding or changing a diaper. In addition, you can sync it with other caretakers, so you don’t have to ask, “When did you change his diaper last?”

TinyBeans app is a great way to add pictures and memories and to track milestones so that family members who aren’t nearby can see all those moments you capture without your having to add them all to social media (since you don’t want to look like that crazy mom you swore you would never be).

img_20161102_134638Zombeyonce lives in Portland, Oregon, with her husband and 10-month old baby Isadora. She works on a website and tries to get new pages up instead of checking on Reddit’s latest posts, but it’s a daily struggle. Oh, and chocolate. Something about the importance of chocolate (you get it). She loves:

Wubbanubs, which are adorable pacifiers with small, cuddly stuffed animals on the end. They make it easy for tiny babies with no hand coordination to get pacifiers back in their mouths, and the babies look really sweet cuddling the little animals.

I did exhaustive research (well, read hundreds of Amazon reviews) before giving birth since I planned on breastfeeding, and then I bought the Philips AVENT Double Electric Comfort Breast Pump. I ended up not being able to breastfeed, so I pump exclusively and use this thing at least five times a day. It comes in a discreet looking bag (good for pumping at work) and is easy to disassemble and clean. It’s got a closed system so that milk doesn’t go through the tubes and get all full of bacteria. Note: Change the tubes every three months for maximum suction.

We needed some sort of exerciser to put the baby in to keep her occupied for a time without our having to watch her like a hawk, so I bought the very popular Fisher-Price Rainforest Jumperoo bouncer. It’s covered in bright colors and has little animals all over it, and it comes with the requisite annoying noises and blinking lights (thank god you can turn them off). She loves to bounce like a crazy person in it or just sway in drunken-looking circles. [This is a game-changer, and it happens to be seriously marked down on Amazon right now – Wendy].

I received the Jane Austen BabyLit books as a gift and absolutely love them. They’re adorably abbreviated versions of classic books in primer form, and without the messy adult plots. I ended up buying practically every book so the baby can now enjoy classics like Frankenstein (an anatomy primer), Wuthering Heights (weather), and Don Quixote (Spanish).

Since I’ve had a baby, I’ve discovered my inner paranoia about something happening to my kid, and finding ways to alleviate it has turned out to be pretty important for my sanity. Mr. Zombeyonce and I both have this backseat mirror installed in our cars so we can see the little bugger when we’re driving around and without having to pull over. It’s got a two-fold benefit: I can make sure she’s not actually in trouble if she starts crying, and she can stare at herself in the mirror (which she loves to do, the little narcissist).


RedRover is an engineer working in software development in Ontario, Canada. She used to spend her time knitting and playing the guitar, but she’s got a 5-month-old daughter and a 3.5-year-old son who don’t leave much time for anything else! She’s currently on maternity leave, so here’s a list of things that have made mommyhood easier for her:

The boon Flair highchair is fantastic. All one piece so there are no crannies that you can’t clean and no fabric to worry about, but it’s still comfortable for baby. It rolls so smoothly that I used to put my son in it and bring him around with me while I did chores in the kitchen and dining room. The baby eats right off the tray, which comes with two removable liners that you can just throw in the dishwasher. So easy. Plus it looks cool and comes in lots of colors! [We bought this for Joanie after the hand-me-down we used for Jackson finally bit the dust. Best high chair ever! — Wendy]

If you’re breastfeeding and have to thaw frozen milk, the Kiinde Kozii is perfect. You have to be careful with breastmilk not to overheat it and destroy the nutrients. The Kiinde Kozii it never lets it get that hot; you could leave it in there forever and it would be safe. But besides that, it’s shaped to take not only bottles, but breast milk storage bags, AND, as a bonus, it’ll take pouches of baby food so that you can warm up the food right in the pouch.

I did a lot of traveling with my son, mostly to my parents’ house for some help. One thing I couldn’t have lived without was the Gro Anywhere Blind. It’s a blackout blind with suction cups that let it stick to any window. It can also be resized to fit bigger or smaller windows.

For sleeping, I started out with the Graco Travel Lite, which is a small version of the Pack-n-Play. I got it free from my sister, and not only was it handy for traveling, but it was also perfect as the bassinette in my bedroom until I transitioned my babies to their own bedrooms. After they were too big for that, the next thing I got was the KidCo PeaPod Plus. It’s a pop-up tent that folds down into a circle that’ll fit in your luggage. We took it on multiple trips out of the country. It’s great for hotel rooms because it gives them their own little closed-in area, which helps them with being scared in a big, strange room. We also brought it to the beach as a sun shelter.

Another product from KidCo that I got was this Activity Station. It folds up like a lawn chair and has a bag with a carry strap. It’s really handy when you’re visiting someone and you want to have a place to put the baby. The only downside of it is that I find it’s a little tall. It does have height adjustments, but the lowest one is still too high for my 5-month-old, and she’s tall for her age. I’m hoping to get a lot of use out of it between six and twelve months.

Get a few of these for when you start on solid food. They cover the baby entirely, and you can wipe them down in the sink. Get a few and you’ll always have a dry one ready. I never had to change my son’s clothes after meals. As a treat to yourself, get a few of these Contigo travel mugs. I used them while breastfeeding, and especially during cluster-feeding. I need my cup of tea, but I was afraid I’d accidentally spill on the baby. With this, it’s impossible to spill, even if you throw it in the diaper bag. It does a good job keeping your drinks hot.

If you have a girl (or a boy, I’m not judging), these hair clips are the absolute cutest and they clip into fine baby hair. I’ve had them on my baby and she has hardly any hair. They’re so lightweight and come in a bunch of colors and designs. Adorable.

Thanks, ladies — you guys rock!

Related posts:

Readers Recs: Addie Pray’s Post-Baby Faves

Advice for New Moms (and Dads) / Stuff You Need for Baby’s First Six Months

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  • zombeyonce November 3, 2016, 1:17 pm

    Those Rock N Plays are amazing. My daughter refused to sleep anywhere but in someone’s arms for the first 3 months (I’m a way too flippy floppy deep sleeper to try co-sleeping), so we only got to sleep in chairs until someone gave us a rock n play. I think it’s the incline that made a big difference for her. I wish we had tried it sooner.

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    • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 1:24 pm

      We had the SAME experience! It was sleep on a body or fight sleep. I definitely wished I had tried the Rock N’ Play sooner because it allowed me to sleep without a baby on me for a few hours!

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      • zombeyonce November 3, 2016, 2:34 pm

        We used ours every day until she figured out how to get out of the waist strap and throw herself over the side. I came in one day after hearing her on the monitor and she was hanging upside down over the bottom, holding desperately onto the cross bars; that was the last time she slept in it. But it was great while it lasted!

    • honeybeenicki November 3, 2016, 4:00 pm

      I wish we had tried the RNP… My son would only sleep in the napper on the Pack ‘n Play for the longest time and the RNP would have been so much better… and I would have been able to sleep in bed instead of in the living room where the Pack ‘n Play was.

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      • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 9:05 pm

        Eh, we had a similar thing, plus a swing, plus a super-expensive rocker thing that my husband bought in desperation. None of them worked. You might have had it and the baby wouldn’t have slept in it anyway. 🙂 No sense regretting it now.

  • Lianne November 3, 2016, 1:26 pm

    I forgot to mention, Kate actually gave me my RNP. It was the only thing my son slept in at night from 2 days old until 13 weeks old.

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    • Kate November 3, 2016, 1:27 pm

      Oh I did? Haha, I must be a child expert!

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      • Lianne November 3, 2016, 1:30 pm

        Ha!! I think it was on my registry, but let’s go with that 😉

  • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 1:35 pm

    Oh guys, I forgot one! The Diono Radian carseats. These things are champs! You can use them from newborn all the way through to I believe 65kg. And the warranty goes for 10 years. That means it’s the only carseat you’ll ever need! Not to mention you can fit them 3 across even in tiny cars. If you’ve just got 1 or 2 it leaves you a lot of extra room. I can fit two plus take my niece who just needs a booster. I love these things!

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  • bagge72 November 3, 2016, 2:12 pm

    This is all great stuff! My wife and I are having our first child in April, can’t wait to buy things!

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    • Lianne November 3, 2016, 2:18 pm

      Congrats, bagge72!!

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      • bagge72 November 3, 2016, 2:26 pm

        Thank you!

    • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 2:53 pm

      Yay congrats!! I loved researching stuff and adding things to my registry. So now I just help my friends do it 🙂

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    • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 3:35 pm

      Congrats bagge! Buying “gear” was one of my favourite parts, lol.

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    • honeybeenicki November 3, 2016, 4:01 pm

      Congrats bagge72!!

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    • Dear Wendy November 3, 2016, 4:41 pm

      Yay– congrats, Bagge!

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    • bagge72 November 4, 2016, 7:37 am

      Thanks everyone! I appreciate it, can’t wait to figure this whole kid thing out haha. Also it’s a great excuse to eat whatever I want now, because every time my wife has a craving I definitely encourage her to go for it!

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  • SpaceySteph November 3, 2016, 2:13 pm

    Woot! Thanks guys! *furiously builds registry*

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    • Lianne November 3, 2016, 2:18 pm

      I have a whole list of registry items I created from advice I got from various people and places – this site included! If you’re interested, I am happy to send it to you.

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    • zombeyonce November 3, 2016, 2:39 pm

      Add to registry: about one thousand soft washcloths and burp cloths. We use them both constantly. An entire drawer just of those two items would not be too much. Put them in every room of the house, every car, every bag, everywhere you can possibly store them.
      (We love these: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00PZVEWGC/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1 and https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00MPI0GY0/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1)

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      • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 3:39 pm

        I’d call this a wait and see one. For my first, I had a bunch that people had given me, but I barely used them till he started eating solid food. I was like, what’s even the point of burp cloths???

        My second spits up all the damn time. Constant, massive spitups. I’ve had to go out two separate times and get more burp cloths. Now I’ve got like 50, and as you said, they’re stashed everywhere. Coat pocket, purse, car, etc.

        So this is one that really depends on the baby. I’d say 6 washcloths and 6 burp cloths would be handy for any baby. You can always get more later if you’ve got a spitter-upper.

      • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 3:50 pm

        RedRover – this is literally what I just said to my friend who is expecting. Wait and see on the burp cloths because you can always just buy some since they are so cheap and available. But my son spits up a ton so I have them everywhere as well!

      • anonymousse November 3, 2016, 3:52 pm

        Ha, I’ve never needed any!
        Every baby is so different.

    • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 2:55 pm

      Lucie’s List was the site I used the most to build my registry – it is unbelievably thorough!

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      • Lianne November 3, 2016, 2:58 pm

        I used that for a lot, as well. I mentioned it over in the thread started by SpaceySteph in the forums. I still go to her site when I have questions, and receive monthly newsletters.

      • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 3:05 pm

        I still use it as well – I was just on it today reading about high chairs. Yep, we are about to start solids!

      • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 9:12 pm

        I’m about to start solids too! Just gotta get my husband to haul the highchair up from the basement. 🙂

      • Lianne November 4, 2016, 7:11 am

        We started solids around 4 months. Our pedi gave the ok and he was super interested in food. It’s really for the experience at this point. Usually he will have a bite or two but when we first gave him sweet potatoes he had a whole tablespoon during the feeding. Mostly he wants to hold the spoon and chew on it though. It’s the cutest thing.

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 7:20 am

        I started my first baby at 4 months. This time around, with my toddler, it’s harder to find the time. But I gotta get on it! She’s interested, too. Maybe I’ll start on the weekend.

      • angelsiris11 November 4, 2016, 8:57 am

        My son seems interested, but I am just waiting until 6 months, for no other reason than I am not ready to deal with solid food poops since I do cloth diapers! It will actually be Thanksgiving that we are going to give him his first solids – sweet potatoes! And it will be nice because my parents and sister will be there to see this 🙂

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 9:02 am

        @angelsiris, I do cloth too. Have you seen those liners you can get to put in them? They’re flushable, you can lift the poo out with them and throw the whole thing in the toilet. Pretty cheap too. I’ll admit that I “cheat” and have a diaper service, but I bought my own boosters because my daughter soaks the whole diaper during naps. In fact she soaks the whole diaper PLUS the booster. Anyway, the upshot is I have to clean the boosters myself, so I have the same poop problems as any other cloth diaperer.

      • Lianne November 4, 2016, 10:18 am

      • Lianne November 4, 2016, 10:20 am

        BTW, we have the Blossom. It’s great and also can move from room to room and has a removable tray for easy cleaning.

      • angelsiris11 November 4, 2016, 10:44 am

        @RedRover – yes I actually have been using the liners because sometimes I put Destin on him at night and it isn’t cloth diaper safe. So I guess I will just have to start using them all the time! My best friend is also giving me her toilet sprayer.

        My son is soaking his diaper at night, even through doublers! I use regular prefolds (the plain Gerber brand), hemp ones, and bamboo ones interchangeably, but he still soaks himself. Any recommendations?

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 10:53 am

        @angels iris, my daughter soaks throught the diaper and booster during NAPS. I don’t even attempt cloth at night. If she can’t last through a nap, there’s no way she’ll last at night.

        It’s a real pain in the ass. I have to change her clothes after every nap, and often the sheets as well. I’m thinking I’ll try switching to toddler-size diapers and see how they go. She’s only 5 months but she’s almost 20lbs, so I think they’ll fit. Otherwise I may be on the verge of giving up.

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 10:58 am

        I’m using prefolds as well, with bamboo boosters.

      • zombeyonce November 4, 2016, 11:38 am

        @angelsiris11 and @RedRoverRedRover: We use cloth diapers too, but not prefolds. We invested in the snap diapers where you put in a liner insert inside. They’re AMAZING. And adjustable! They fit my daughter from 7 lbs (she was 5.5 and we used prefolds at first to avoid buying newborn snap diapers) and they will fit her until she’s potty trained because you can just use different snaps to make them fit just right. They’re not cheap, but they paid for themselves over disposables after just 4 months for us (and we bought 36 of them).
        Using those plus a double liner (the sets come with liners) make them last a long time, way longer than I found prefolds to work. It’s certainly possible that my kid pees less than yours, but the reviews on Amazon indicate that they work for other people just as well. My kid was soaking through the prefolds like no ones business even when tiny, and now a double-insert diaper gets her through a 12-hour night without leaks! Best part of these compared to prefolds is that since the insert is inside the diaper, it keeps the wetness away from her skin so fewer rashes.

        We love the Baby Goal brand. It’s a lot cheaper than the fancy ones but works just as well, and you can get them in a ton of different and adorable patterns. I recommend running new inserts and diapers through 3 or 4 heavy duty washes before using them to make them more absorbent. Here’s one set: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0188XEJXE/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

      • zombeyonce November 4, 2016, 11:41 am

        Oh, and if you do buy something like this, I’ve found the charcoal bamboo inserts that come w/Baby Goal (the dark grey ones) hold liquid a lot better than the regular bamboo inserts (the white ones) you can get w/other brands, which seem not to hold nearly as much liquid before leaking. (We tried lots of things before finding Baby Goal was our best bet for both price and usability.)

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 11:45 am

        Thanks zombeyonce, but since I use a service, all I can get are prefolds. 🙂 I could go off the service and wash my own, but a) I’ll have to give up cloth when my baby starts daycare at 12 months and b) I already have all the covers from my first baby and don’t want to reinvest in a whole new set. Not for just 7 months, knowing this is my last baby. And c) I don’t really want to wash my own, lol. So for now I’ll try to muddle through.

      • angelsiris11 November 4, 2016, 12:52 pm

        @zombeyonce I actually use the Bum Genius Freetime All in One diapers! I LOVE them, except for the problem at night. I have been adding prefolds to absorb more pee, but he just soaks through. I will try layering the charcoal bamboo inserts though. Thanks for the advice!

      • angelsiris11 November 4, 2016, 12:55 pm

        @Lianne – I was looking at that list yesterday! I just made a decision and chose the Inglesina Gusto: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014VXOMLE?tag=hello-baby-20&th=1. I live in a rowhouse so I HAD to get something that folds up easily. Thanks for the recommendation though – it probably would work at my parents’ house.

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 12:55 pm

        Oh, I’ll try the charcoal too! Thanks!

  • zombeyonce November 3, 2016, 2:45 pm

    Lianne and Shanna, your babies are so cute! Having a kid has made me want to squish the cheeks of every baby I see now. It’s not okay.
    And that Halloween costume: popcorn perfection.

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    • Lianne November 3, 2016, 2:55 pm

      Thanks 🙂 Yours is adorbs too!!

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    • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 2:59 pm

      Shanna here – thank you zombeyonce!! We do like to think our son is super adorable since we get that comment all the time – seriously we are stopped all the time. I did get my first question of “is he yours?” the other day, which is a whole other conversation….
      Also, your daughter is so cute and has an awesome name! Why did you decide to go with Isadora?

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      • zombeyonce November 3, 2016, 3:16 pm

        Aw, thanks! We absolutely love the name Isadora but it was a hard road to choose it. We kind of liked the sound of Isabelle but it was too popular and we didn’t want anything in the top 100 since I was cursed w/a super common first name and it traumatized me as a kid (and caused me to dabble in hyperbole, apparently). A couple of weeks before I was due, I happened to see a mention of a dancer from way back when named Isadora Duncan (weird cause of death alert!), and thought it was pretty so I added it to my name list.
        We didn’t know our baby’s gender until she was born so we spent months disagreeing about names, and having to look at both boy and girl names made it doubly hard. We didn’t even decide on a name until she was half a day old when we finally started looking at the name lists again and it just seemed to fit even though we had ruled it out before.
        TL;DR: Izzie owes her name to a Wikipedia spiral I ended up in one day.

      • angelsiris11 November 3, 2016, 3:27 pm

        HA! I love a good Wikipedia spiral. (I actually did read your whole explanation too). But that is as good a way as any to pick a name!

        If you are around my age (32) I am guessing that your name is Ashley, Jennifer or Kristin. I seriously have 15 Ashleys in my phone.

        We didn’t find out the gender either and it drove some of my friends crazy! Which I found super amusing. We had a boy name and a girl name though so we were very prepared. The names were actually names I had decided on before even meeting my husband, but luckily he liked them!

  • LilFuzzyBunny November 3, 2016, 2:48 pm


    The Zipadee-Zip is a great product for babies that have started rolling over but still need something to keep themselves from being startled awake by their startle reflex. They are pricey, but are super worth it!

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    • Lianne November 3, 2016, 3:00 pm

      I was torn between getting this and the Baby Merlin Magic Sleepsuit. Through my moms’ group, I was able to borrow the Merlin and he liked it so we went with that. He’s rolling, but so far not very frequently and not in his sleep, but I am debating going straight to a sleep sack soon or trying another item like the Zipadee-Zip. I just hate spending all that money if it isn’t for him!

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      • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 3:43 pm

        My daughter flips to her tummy but can’t get back onto her back. When she cries I leave her for a bit, so she gets angry and tries to push. Then I go up and just flip her back over. It’s a bit of a pain but it’ll be over soon

        What are these suits supposed to do? Stop them from flipping at all?

      • Lianne November 3, 2016, 5:13 pm

        For some reason I can’t reply to your comment RR. For my son or was about his startle reflex not being completely gone when he started breaking out of the swaddle. The Merlin muffles the twitches and movements that would wake him up.

      • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 5:35 pm

        I think Wendy disabled the nesting after a couple levels so comments don’t get crazy skinny when you’re reading on your phone.

        You actually shouldn’t stop their startle reflex. New research has shown that the startle reflex helps to stop SIDS. It’s no longer recommended to swaddle their arms at all. You can still swaddle, but with arms out.

      • Lianne November 3, 2016, 5:40 pm

        Interesting…my pediatrician strongly recommended swaddling. I saw the most recent research and didn’t see anything about swaddling, just that keeping baby in room up to 6 months old can reduce SIDS by 50%. I think we all need to make our own decisions and do what’s best for our babies, after taking in all the research out there, as well as hearing what our pediatrician’s have to say…don’t you agree?

      • RedRoverRedRover November 3, 2016, 9:12 pm

        Sorry, it wasn’t a judgement or anything. There is a correlation between SIDS and swaddling, it gets worse as they get older and start to roll/flip because then they end up on their stomach. Swaddles + stomach are a big no-no. Anyway, personally I find it super stressful already having my baby flip to her stomach all the time. I hated this part with my first baby too. So for me, any little hint of danger makes the stress that much worse. She did used to wake herself due to the startle reflex, but now she’s older and able to put herself back to sleep so it’s not a huge deal. Although now she cries when she wakes up and finds herself on her stomach. Can’t win, I guess. I can’t wait till she learns to roll back onto her back. She did it once, like 2 weeks ago, and hasn’t done it again since.

      • Lianne November 4, 2016, 7:08 am

        Well I wasn’t talking about swaddling once they’re rolling. The Merlin (have you looked it up?) is like a snow suit almost – his arms and legs are out. I didn’t think you were judging but sometimes you can be blunt, which confuses tone.

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 7:18 am

        I looked it up, but only for a sec and their site didn’t make it obvious that it was for helping with the startle. I like the idea of a sleep sac with arms actually, most don’t have them for some reason. But then it looks like the Merlin doesn’t have feet? As someone whose feet are always cold, I always worry my baby’s feet aren’t warm enough. So that’s a deal breaker for me. I recently got some Gro-bags, 2.5tog, and they’re terrific! We keep the heat low at night, and since it’s started getting chilly these are a godsend. They’re also super cute!

        I didn’t realize I come off as blunt. In real life that’s something I’ve never heard. I guess on here I’m often quickly typing something in between dealing with other stuff, so I just kind of do stream-of-consciousness. I don’t mean to be blunt, sorry. Well sometimes I do, for LW’s who are ridiculous. 🙂 But otherwise not.

      • LilFuzzyBunny November 4, 2016, 10:11 am

        I might not be commenting in the right order, I don’t comment much and I haven’t commented at all since the update, so here goes!

        The Zippy just helps them find their edges (some resistance to their flailing) so they can sooth themselves back to sleep when they startle awake. I never felt like it restricted my daughters movements and even though their hands and feet are covered it still allows for plenty of range of motion for things like grabbing and walking. They have videos on the website or at least their Facebook page of the more mobile kids walking around the house in them.

  • Lianne November 3, 2016, 2:57 pm

    Wendy, I just looked at the list you published back in 2013 and I definitely pulled a lot of my registry items from it (moby, ergo, a 2nd for the zutano booties, aden + anais everything). It’s so nice to be able to get recommendations through communities like this!

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  • Kate November 4, 2016, 8:54 am

    Haha, same, Red Rover! I regularly get called blunt, intimidating, bitchy, presumptuous, and a cunt on here, and I never get that IRL! Just kidding, yes I do.

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    • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 8:57 am

      Lol! Do you, in real life? Maybe I don’t come across as it here, but I’m actually one of those people who everyone thinks is “nice”. Like the person that people ask for directions, or who people smile at in the street. I guess a lot of it is my facial expression and tone, because I don’t hold back on giving my opinion in real life either.

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      • Kate November 4, 2016, 10:05 am

        Oh yeah. I don’t look or act nice when I give my opinion. I’m on American Airlines’ Do Not Fly list for sharing with them that I don’t think they know how to do their jobs. Add me on Snapchat and I’ll show you my “giving my opinion” face! Username itskatejbitch.

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 10:19 am

        Ha hahah I don’t have snapchat but I believe you! That username, lol!

      • Kate November 4, 2016, 11:33 am

        There it is ——->

      • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 11:41 am

        Lol! 🙂

  • RedRoverRedRover November 4, 2016, 10:35 am

    My daughter just rolled over onto her back twice in a row! The hell of her getting stuck on her tummy is almost over!

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  • for_cutie November 7, 2016, 12:11 pm

    Love this thread – maybe all you mom-experts can help me. I need a baby monitor. Working on baby 3 now and have a 3 and 5 y.o. Got different (new) monitors for each kid and both died at exactly the 2 year period. I want one with a monitor unit since I don’t want to be glued to my iPhone 24-7. Any recommendations for video and non-video that you LOVE? I’ve had one of each and lean non-video because video made me a bit obsessive…

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    • RedRoverRedRover November 7, 2016, 12:23 pm

      Mine are no longer made, but they’re Safety 1st brand and I’ve been really happy with the quality. We’ve been using our son’s for 3.5 years and it’s still going strong.

      And just a reminder/word of warning on baby monitors – if it’s wifi-enabled, meaning you con next it to your home wifi and access it through a webisite/app, make sure you change the password!!! There have been instances of strangers logging into people’s monitors using the default password, and watching them and talking to them at night.

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      • for_cutie November 7, 2016, 4:36 pm

        That’s super scary. Thanks for the heads up.

    • angelsiris11 November 7, 2016, 2:43 pm

      I know you said you prefer non-video, but have this one and really like it: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00I3K1D00/ref=br_it_dp_o_nS_ttl?ie=UTF8&colid=A5E0R2D8RC22&coliid=IX7NVXZNXIPRE&vs=1&th=1.

      We are sleep training now, so I actually like the video so I can turn down the sound 🙂

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      • for_cutie November 7, 2016, 4:37 pm

        Thanks for the rec. It is super affordable for a video monitor too.


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