@H I don’t believe he believes his behavior is innocuous or helpful. I think he full well knows what he’s doing and enjoys the amount of control he has.
LW – Should you choose to stay together and somehow work through this, you can enter a “no nup” agreement. You don’t mention why you have not married after 10 years together and having kids. I know it’s not for everyone, but marriage offers legal protections in a situation like this (with kids + assets together) that you won’t get otherwise in many if not most states.
ETA: My dad was very financially controlling in my parents’ marriage. I’m sure I don’t even know the half of it but it was bad. I’m not married, but I do live with my long-term boyfriend. Maybe one day we will get married, who knows, but I will NEVER not have what I refer to as a “fuck you account” of my own money because of what I saw growing up.
- This reply was modified 7 months, 4 weeks ago by Copa.